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commentr/StutterOct 30, 2018
2 points

I usually tell people up front if I start stuttering in front of them, especially blocking. So far it doesn't feel like anyone has given me any special treatment because of it. I used to get more nerv...

Social & RelationshipsCoping & AdvocacyIdentity & Disability
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commentr/StutterOct 29, 2018
1 points

I did my first speech on my stutter. It 1. Helped people know I had a stutter beforehand. And 2. Helped me own it and be confident even though I wasn’t. The rest of the quarter I aced all my speeches ...

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commentr/StutterOct 29, 2018
2 points

I didn’t before because I was ashamed. But now that I have accepted the fact that I stutter and it is with me for life, I still can’t admit to people easily because both “stutter” and “stammer” are hu...

Emotional ExperienceSocial & RelationshipsAnticipation & Avoidance
Shame & EmbarrassmentDisclosure & Telling OthersFeared Words & Names
commentr/StutterOct 29, 2018
3 points

Sometimes I tell them up front, sometimes after I stutter. It sucks because my stutter comes out at the worst of times like when I'm introducing myself (I have blocks for my name which is annoying). H...

Social & RelationshipsAnticipation & AvoidanceSpeech & Stuttering
Disclosure & Telling OthersFeared Words & NamesBlocks & Stoppages+1 more
commentr/StutterOct 29, 2018
2 points

Yep, I get it. I wouldn't ever say anything like "I'm a stutterer". No need to label yourself. My experience has been that as long as you clarify that your stutter is something that's normal to you (...

Identity & DisabilitySocial & Relationships
Authenticity vs. MaskingAcceptance & PrideDisclosure & Telling Others
commentr/StutterOct 29, 2018
2 points

But wouldn’t they take that as it’s just a temporary thing, like you are nervous? Yea, I sometimes also say “certain words are hard for me to say” but without specifying it’s stutter, so people might...

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Disclosure & Telling OthersAuthenticity vs. Masking
commentr/StutterOct 29, 2018
4 points

I admit it to the person I'm talking to only after I stutter in front of them so that they don't think I'm mentally handicapped. Usually goes like this: >Me: *stutter occurs* >Me: "Sorry, I h...

Social & RelationshipsIdentity & Disability
Disclosure & Telling OthersAuthenticity vs. Masking
commentr/StutterOct 29, 2018
1 points

I agree. I always feel like it’s the elephant in the room until I acknowledge that I stutter. I am completely open to talking about. Some people are still assholes but that is their problem, not mi...

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postr/StutterOct 29, 2018
2 points

Do you admit to people that you stutter

Do you admit to people that you stutter Just curious, do you admit to people that you stutter?I have stutter for more than ten years now, although I’m fine with it and most people seem to know I have ...

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commentr/StutterOct 25, 2018
2 points

I'm sorry to hear you're going through a hard time. I am too and my speech has gotten so bad I broke down in front of my boyfriend (my speech is a disaster around him). One time I was having a ROUGH ...

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commentr/StutterOct 21, 2018
4 points

So true. I'm 25 as well, just a couple weeks ago I was talking on the phone with someone for work with the goal of explaining what we do etc., basically I was a salesman of sorts (a job I purposefully...

Social & RelationshipsIdentity & DisabilityCauses & Variability
Disclosure & Telling OthersAcceptance & PrideStress & Fight/Flight
commentr/StutterOct 20, 2018
3 points

Not much advice to offer, but I just wanted to let you know that your post and comments here could've been written by me. The covert block stuttering, 10x worse in "official situations", fluency when ...

Anticipation & AvoidanceSpeech & StutteringSocial & Relationships
Hiding & ConcealmentBlocks & StoppagesDisclosure & Telling Others
commentr/StutterOct 20, 2018
31 points

I actually think most of us only 'block', and hardly ever stutt-ut-ut-er I think that (one of) the most annoying thing(s) about stuttering is that no one ever recognizes it as a stutter, and often pe...

Speech & StutteringAnticipation & AvoidanceSocial & Relationships
Blocks & StoppagesAvoidance & SubstitutionDisclosure & Telling Others
commentr/StutterOct 18, 2018
1 points

I’m sure he knows.. if he’s really oblivious TELL HIM?! hiding things in a relationship isn’t good big or small and honestly stuttering is a small issue (coming from a stutter). Once you tell him he’l...

Identity & DisabilitySocial & Relationships
Authenticity vs. MaskingIdentity & Self-PerceptionDisclosure & Telling Others
commentr/StutterOct 18, 2018
4 points

Just tell him. If you can't tell someone about your speech disorder without them getting actually mad at you, then that says to me that they're not ready for marriage. But chances are, you're overthin...

Identity & DisabilitySocial & Relationships
Authenticity vs. MaskingIdentity & Self-PerceptionDisclosure & Telling Others
commentr/StutterOct 16, 2018
3 points

"Bear with me, y'all. I have a stutter." It helps me to just be up-front. ...

Social & Relationships
Disclosure & Telling Others
commentr/StutterOct 15, 2018
4 points

I used to tap my thumb to my forefinger for each syllable. That would help me slow down and maintain a steady pace. I also tell new people that I stutter. I have found this creates a calming atmosp...

Coping & AdvocacySocial & Relationships
Fluency TechniquesDisclosure & Telling Others
commentr/StutterOct 14, 2018
3 points

Hey -- I'm a bit older than you (31), I've been married for a little over two years, and I'm a bona fide stutterer. ​ I've always had an innate feeling that I wanted to be with someone, ...

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Hiding & ConcealmentAuthenticity vs. MaskingDisclosure & Telling Others
commentr/StutterOct 14, 2018
1 points

I'd say movies are still a thing, I don't wanna ruin our friendship because she's a really cool person just as a friend. So I'm kinda hesitant in making a move ...

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commentr/StutterOct 14, 2018
2 points

You're already friends with her - the stutter is bothering you and not her. Do the two of you do anything outside of school together, common interests? It can be as easy as asking her if she wants to ...

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