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Hey -- I'm a bit older than you (31), I've been married for a little over two years, and I'm a bona fide stutterer. ​ I've always had an innate feeling that I wanted to be with someone, so I put a lot of time into relationships for many years, and I've had a series of relationships from high school onward until I met my wife. I was a covert stutterer for most of it -- I'm trying to get better with opening up about it, but it's tough, you know. ​ Anyway, you kind of have to bite the bullet and go ahead and start chatting with the girl and just do it, even ask her out even though it may feel insane. Your heart will be thumping out of your rib cage and maybe you will miraculously be fluent or covert for the first date or while you are asking out or maybe you won't be able to get a word out. Stuttering is just kind of like that, right? ​ I kept putting myself out there and sometimes people would laugh at me or do the first date and not want to do more, but I've had great times with lots of people and ultimately met my wife and the stuttering was just along for the ride. The internet can help with all of this -- I honestly don't know what kids to now a days, but I used to text a lot, write e-mails, do internet dating, instant messenger, until I was ready to meet in person and risk them realizing that I was a stutterer. ​ One more thing I'd like to share -- I wish that years ago I was just more up-front about my stutter and told more women about it that I was interested in. I think people knew it all along or because I was trying to hide it, it seemed like I had some strange quirks. People are generally more sympathetic than we think in our heads, although there are assholes out there for sure. ​ Go for it, good luck! :-D