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commentr/StutterMar 22, 2022
1 points

Yes. And... Some people are more biologically wired to feel/notice/believe they are being ridiculed, making your very true advice a very difficult process. and the temporary failures to “let it go...

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commentr/StutterMar 21, 2022
9 points

Some people use laughter when something happens they don't understand. Most adults will quickly pick up on someone stuttering and that's what counts. If they continue to laugh at you knowing you hav...

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commentr/StutterMar 21, 2022
3 points

All I can tell you is try to avoid what I did - at university I was so afraid of stammering saying my name when introducing myself, that I avoided talking to people altogether. This meant that I made ...

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commentr/StutterMar 21, 2022
2 points

Thank You! Always happy to answer questions! >How severe of a stutter did you have before adult speech therapy? I was a severe stutterer from my earliest memory. Severe, as in, never a fluent se...

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commentr/StutterMar 21, 2022
2 points

I get that. It seems like some people try to use humor to defuse a situation they feel uncomfortable in. Sometimes they forget that their audience might not find them funny....

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commentr/StutterMar 21, 2022
1 points

If I can stereotype, I feel like it must be super hard to be a woman with a speech issue, since gender roles indicate that women are supposed to be the talkative communicators. I’m glad it got better!...

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commentr/StutterMar 21, 2022
1 points

That’s a good point. I ran cross country in college, and later found out that the coach “warned” the team about my speech so they wouldn’t laugh. I liked my teammates less after hearing that....

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commentr/StutterMar 21, 2022
1 points

I'm not good at confrontations for obvious reasons but i just blew it away then. I've since just cut contact with that guy. The memory still haunts me though....

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commentr/StutterMar 21, 2022
2 points

I’ve been made fun of my whole life for it, but I’m a female .. it probably stopped after high school, now I’m 30...

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commentr/StutterMar 20, 2022
7 points

Oh absolutely, happens to me more often than not. While working at an ice cream shop over this past summer I would avoid taking orders, just minding my business preparing stuff for people. But when my...

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commentr/StutterMar 20, 2022
10 points

I'm 41F and it never got better for me when I became an adult. I've had 4 jobs where I botched a presentation & was let go the very next day. My niece laughed at me once and mocked my stutter. My ...

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commentr/StutterMar 20, 2022
15 points

It doesn’t happen often but it did happen to me. I was talking on the phone with an older gentlemen(I work the front desk at a dental office) and after I was done speaking he started to stutter but in...

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commentr/StutterMar 20, 2022
19 points

Most people dont but I've had a couple of interactions like this. A guy from college just couldnt stop laughing for 2 minutes. He laughed so much that he was out of breath just coz i was making faces ...

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commentr/StutterMar 19, 2022
2 points

personally i dont like jokes about stutters bc a disability (does it count?) that affects ur whole life and how u interact with others isnt funny. if he made stuttering jokes behind ur back before, he...

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commentr/StutterMar 19, 2022
1 points

It if he made fun of that dude behind his back that means if he figured out I have a stutter then he would devalue me as a person. Does that make sense?...

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commentr/StutterMar 19, 2022
1 points

I hope it does. Most girls my age are really kind to me and I could never see them poking fun at it, which is why I desire a girlfriend more than friends anymore It just feels like I’m being devalued...

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commentr/StutterMar 19, 2022
3 points

That’s not the kind of guilt I feel. I sometimes feel guilty about making people uncomfortable, or wasting their time. It’s false guilt, though, because it is not my fault....

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commentr/StutterMar 19, 2022
1 points

Thank you. I’m just so confused about everything I don’t know what I need to do. Idk if I need to focus on making sure no one ever makes fun of it’s or if I need to lighten up. I really don’t know...

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commentr/StutterMar 19, 2022
1 points

It’s just tricky. A lot of people are saying I’m taking things to serious but I feel if someone makes fun of it they don’t accept me for ME Like at my job a coworker was referring to me as “broken r...

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commentr/StutterMar 19, 2022
3 points

Ohhhh he said it like that 😕 then yea he’s pretty insensitive . That shows he’s unable to put himself in someone else’s shoes and see how they feel. He’s not a compassionate person. Now, this doesn’t...

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