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commentr/StutterJul 1, 2020
22 points

I'll admit, I've avoided forward facing jobs out of convenience meaning no cash register type jobs. In my past 15 years of professional experience, there have only been two or three times it was an is...

Anticipation & AvoidanceSchool & WorkSocial & Relationships
Avoidance & SubstitutionEmployment & CareerDisclosure & Telling Others
commentr/StutterJul 1, 2020
2 points

As a general rule, you care so much more about your speech than other people do. Yes, there are jerks, but most “off put” reactions are just the product of people not knowing how to react. Tell him ...

Social & RelationshipsIdentity & Disability
Disclosure & Telling OthersAcceptance & Pride
commentr/StutterJul 1, 2020
8 points

A couple of thoughts: 1. Reading your text shows me you are really good at expressing yourself. You are able to tell a person exactly how you feel (like I could from your text) and that helps a lot ...

Social & RelationshipsEmotional ExperienceIdentity & Disability
Disclosure & Telling OthersAnxiety & Social JudgmentAuthenticity vs. Masking
commentr/StutterJun 30, 2020
17 points

Just tell him that you have a stutter straight up. If he loses interest because of that reason then you dodged a bullet. But I’m sure if he really likes you he shouldn’t have a problem 😊...

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Disclosure & Telling OthersAnxiety & Social Judgment
postr/StutterJun 30, 2020
25 points

how do you tell someone you are talking to that i stutter ? (relationship wise)

how do you tell someone you are talking to that i stutter ? (relationship wise) [deleted]...

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commentr/StutterJun 30, 2020
2 points

Be open and honest about your stutter. They'll appreciate the honesty and you'll feel more comfortable too. I always do that, and I've gotten all the jobs I've gone for, even though I've blocked pre...

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Disclosure & Telling OthersAvoidance & SubstitutionOverthinking & Monitoring
commentr/StutterJun 30, 2020
3 points

Sending positive thoughts your way! Maybe even mention that you stutter prior to the interview, it will make you much more relaxed and not have to try and hide it (which raises anxiety and worsens the...

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Disclosure & Telling OthersAnxiety & Social Judgment
commentr/StutterJun 30, 2020
3 points

Good luck dude! I feel like it will be important to ask for their patience and let them know you have a stutter right off the bat. I think they will appreciate your honesty up-front, and it may help ...

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Disclosure & Telling OthersAnxiety & Social Judgment
commentr/StutterJun 30, 2020
6 points

Good luck! I always start off every job interview I have by saying something like, “ Just so you know I do stutter. If you don’t understand something I say please don’t hesitate to ask me to repeat ...

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commentr/StutterJun 29, 2020
1 points

I agree with the other replies and would like to add that it’s always okay and often a good idea / ice-breaker to be upfront about stuttering when talking to someone new, especially over the phone. A ...

Social & Relationships
Disclosure & Telling Others
commentr/StutterJun 29, 2020
2 points

I'm planning on trying to tell more people that I stutter, but I don't know how to do it with customers at work or a cashier when ordering food....

Social & Relationships
Disclosure & Telling Others
commentr/StutterJun 29, 2020
1 points

I'd wait until she gives you a proper shot first. Then maybe after a week or so, tell her you want to be open about it and hope that she accepts it. Tell her to be upfront about it if it's an issue f...

Social & Relationships
Disclosure & Telling Others
commentr/StutterJun 28, 2020
1 points

Hi! I’ve been a server many times, I have a fairly bad stutter, and as long as you are charming, competent and hard working, it’s not a problem and I don’t tell them. They figure it out on their own, ...

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commentr/StutterJun 28, 2020
6 points

Dear OP, Please don’t give up. I know it’s hard; I’ve been there too. But hey, we stutterers are an obstinate lot, aren’t we? We’ll say what we want to say even if our larynges tell us we can’t. I k...

Anticipation & AvoidanceCommunity & SupportCoping & Advocacy
Avoidance & SubstitutionValidation & EmpathySelf-Advocacy & Boundaries+1 more
commentr/StutterJun 27, 2020
1 points

Eeeeeeeee (softly, gently prolonging my first syllable) as I ease into what I want to s-s-say (fake stutter, so I can stop trying to NOT stutter). It’s all a lie. Stuttering really does NOT preven...

Coping & AdvocacyIdentity & DisabilityTherapy & Professional
Voluntary Stuttering & ExposureAuthenticity vs. MaskingAcceptance & Pride+3 more
commentr/StutterJun 27, 2020
5 points

I met my boyfriend of 2 years on a dating app. I’ve also gone on many tinder dates. I always mention my stutter before I go on a date (my stutter is mild so I can kind of get away with being fluent). ...

Social & Relationships
Disclosure & Telling OthersDating & Romance
postr/StutterJun 27, 2020
5 points

Dating Apps / First Dates

Dating Apps / First Dates Do you disclose that you stutter on your dating app profiles or via message before the first date? I have a first date later today and maybe I should have told them that I st...

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postr/StutterJun 26, 2020
3 points

Hey all. So I applied for a waiter position and need advice. I’m thinking to disclose? Good idea yes no? Thanks.

Hey all. So I applied for a waiter position and need advice. I’m thinking to disclose? Good idea yes no? Thanks. ...

Anticipation & AvoidanceSocial & Relationships
Avoidance & SubstitutionDisclosure & Telling Others
commentr/StutterJun 26, 2020
1 points

Depends upon how severe it is. At points in my life it was barely noticeable, a quirk that girls thought was kind of cute once in awhile. I didn't mention it then, and no one ever had an issue. At ...

Social & RelationshipsAnticipation & Avoidance
Disclosure & Telling OthersHiding & Concealment
commentr/StutterJun 25, 2020
1 points

I revealed my stutter to my boyfriend after a few months of us talking after meeting on tinder. At first I thought it might mess things up if we met up and he saw that I had one, and so i kept canceli...

Social & Relationships
Disclosure & Telling OthersDating & Romance