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postr/StutterJul 23, 2021
91 points

And the stuttering just dies

And the stuttering just dies I didn't intend to go all out like this so soon in my journey, but I felt it was maybe time to address this mental itch. A cornerstone of letting oneself go and living mom...

Anticipation & AvoidanceCauses & VariabilityCoping & Advocacy
Avoidance & SubstitutionHiding & ConcealmentOverthinking & Monitoring+3 more
postr/StutterJul 23, 2021
32 points

Learning to think like a fluent speaker has made it all better

Learning to think like a fluent speaker has made it all better As stutterers, we're almost always in the habit of thinking about the words we're going to say, often anticipating that we might stutter....

Anticipation & AvoidanceCoping & AdvocacyIdentity & Disability
Overthinking & MonitoringMindset shiftMindfulness & Breathing+2 more
commentr/StutterJul 21, 2021
2 points

The harder you try to speak, what people consider normal, the more tension you create causing you to stutter. The toughest thing to do is to figure out how to stop caring and just let go. I’m almost...

Anticipation & AvoidanceCoping & Advocacy
Avoidance & SubstitutionMindset shift
commentr/StutterJul 21, 2021
2 points

That’s a loaded question haha. The answer to that is unfortunately not satisfying. It depends on the person and mostly time.So what’s worked for me won’t necessarily work for you but here’s a couple t...

Coping & AdvocacyAnticipation & AvoidanceEmotional Experience
Mindset shiftAvoidance & SubstitutionHiding & Concealment+3 more
commentr/StutterJul 21, 2021
1 points

I could see how it might not resonate with you, but I am a covert stutterer who rarely stutters (Like I said I recently went a whole month without stuttering) so this mindset for me isn’t that terribl...

Anticipation & AvoidanceCoping & AdvocacyIdentity & Disability
Avoidance & SubstitutionMindset shiftAuthenticity vs. Masking
commentr/StutterJul 20, 2021
1 points

Hey, I have felt suicidal before. I know how alienating it can feel having a stutter, I chose to take a step back and slow my life down. I quit my job and moved back in with my parents, I know not ev...

Emotional ExperienceCoping & AdvocacyIdentity & Disability
Suicidal Ideation & High DistressHelplessness & AgencyMindset shift+1 more
commentr/StutterJul 20, 2021
2 points

Yes I share same ideas with you, I’m at a point where I’m done with it. Mind over matter I just believe that I can conquer it and bouncing off what you said, if our stutter only occurs socially then c...

Coping & AdvocacyEmotional Experience
Mindset shiftAnxiety & Social JudgmentHope & Motivation
postr/StutterJul 20, 2021
40 points

Huge lesson I learned a couple years ago when it comes to seeing progress in my speech.

Huge lesson I learned a couple years ago when it comes to seeing progress in my speech. First thing to know, my type of stutter was on-and-off. But if your stutter doesn't fluctuate the same, this sti...

Causes & VariabilityCoping & AdvocacyEmotional Experience
Cycles & RandomnessSeverity & FluctuationMindset shift+2 more
commentr/StutterJul 11, 2021
1 points

Well maybe watch the kings speech alone some time. Confidence really is the key to our troubles. I’m 26 years your junior but I have thankfully realised this by now. Getting comfortable with the uncom...

School & WorkCoping & AdvocacyEmotional Experience
Employment & CareerMindset shiftHope & Motivation
commentr/StutterJul 7, 2021
2 points

This reminds me of (I think) Chris Evans’ discussion of anxiety. That you eventually treat it like a friend. While you wrote that you couldn’t imagine having it with you the rest of your life, I total...

Emotional ExperienceCoping & AdvocacyIdentity & Disability
Anxiety & Social JudgmentMindset shiftAuthenticity vs. Masking+1 more
commentr/StutterJul 7, 2021
4 points

Just do it man. First month going to be rough for you but it will get significantly better on time....

Coping & AdvocacyEmotional Experience
Mindset shiftHope & Motivation
commentr/StutterJul 6, 2021
1 points

No severe disfluencies or speech-related fears = cured No need to put unnecessary limits on yourself....

Identity & DisabilityCoping & Advocacy
Acceptance & PrideMindset shift
commentr/StutterJul 6, 2021
3 points

Hello. I wish there was a simple answer. What you'll find is every person who successfully manages their stutter will tell you the same thing, there is no cure. Just hard work and more patience than m...

Identity & DisabilityCoping & Advocacy
Identity & Self-PerceptionMindset shift
commentr/StutterJul 5, 2021
3 points

Yea every time I’m worried what someone will think. I usually tell them I stutter and then I can finally relax. This is a lesson. The only thing holding anyone back is ones self. Keep on learning ...

Social & RelationshipsCoping & AdvocacyEmotional Experience
Disclosure & Telling OthersMindset shiftAnxiety & Social Judgment
commentr/StutterJul 5, 2021
2 points

I had a pretty severe stuttering condition from the age of 3 to 14 (I still stutter sometimes, but this age range was the worst in my life) and had trouble even finishing sentences. The constant mocke...

Anticipation & AvoidanceIdentity & DisabilityCoping & Advocacy
Hiding & ConcealmentAuthenticity vs. MaskingMindset shift+1 more
commentr/StutterJul 5, 2021
6 points

I do care, even though my stutter isn't severe I care a lot. But for me it's kind of a logical deduction: Ok, I get it, I have a stutter, now what? 1) Staying all day at bed, living at my mom's expen...

Emotional ExperienceIdentity & DisabilityCoping & Advocacy
Hope & MotivationIdentity & Self-PerceptionMindset shift
commentr/StutterJul 5, 2021
1 points

That is a belief you can have, but is it a helpful belief? Will fighting and negatively judging the stutter will make you express yourself freely? Nope. So I choose to stutter on purpose in a relaxed ...

Coping & Advocacy
Voluntary Stuttering & ExposureMindset shift
commentr/StutterJul 5, 2021
2 points

I dont think there ever was a single point, there were a lot of them and aftrr some time, theyve made me immune to my speech fails. I also read lee lovetts book about how he beat his own stuttering....

Anticipation & AvoidanceCoping & Advocacy
Avoidance & SubstitutionMindset shiftHiding & Concealment
commentr/StutterJul 4, 2021
3 points

I wouldnt say I totally 'dont care' I still get very anxious, but I have stopped avoiding speaking situations. Basically, I was 21 I was very very depressed. Depression typically makes people care les...

Coping & AdvocacyEmotional ExperienceIdentity & Disability
Mindset shiftShame & EmbarrassmentAuthenticity vs. Masking
commentr/StutterJul 4, 2021
4 points

Disclaimer my stutter use to be moderately severe, but its getting better and its now mild most of the time, so I'm not sure that people with a more severe stutter would feel the same in this situatio...

Anticipation & AvoidanceIdentity & DisabilityCauses & Variability
Hiding & ConcealmentAuthenticity vs. MaskingSeverity & Fluctuation+1 more