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commentr/StutterSep 20, 2021
7 points

I used to be right in your shoes. At 17 I too struggled hard with self acceptance and confidence with my stutter. One of the most humiliating moments of high school for me happened in 11th grade, when...

Emotional ExperienceAnticipation & AvoidanceIdentity & Disability
Shame & EmbarrassmentHiding & ConcealmentAuthenticity vs. Masking+2 more
commentr/StutterSep 20, 2021
18 points

Stuttering is hard. My stutter had such a negative effect on my personality and who I grew up to be. Can you get into see a therapist? Someone to talk to, and a chance to express your feelings. That...

Therapy & ProfessionalAnticipation & AvoidanceEmotional Experience
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commentr/StutterSep 19, 2021
3 points

I have the same experience. I try to be relaxed and uncaring about how people view me while still being myself and not overly-abrasive. It’s a balancing act, and hopefully I get better with experience...

Anticipation & AvoidanceIdentity & Disability
Avoidance & SubstitutionOverthinking & MonitoringAuthenticity vs. Masking
commentr/StutterSep 19, 2021
2 points

Sounds like this interview really means a lot to you so if I were you, I'd just disclose it to the interviewer. I did this for mine and was told it wouldn't be an issue. It takes a lot of pressure off...

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commentr/StutterSep 18, 2021
3 points

Thanks for replying. I hope my post didn’t come off offensive. What I’m trying to say is that there are so many fluent speakers that avoid speaking situations and don’t fully commit or apply themselve...

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commentr/StutterSep 17, 2021
1 points

Thank you for your reply! That does make sense that those who stuttered since a young age have had their personalities shaped by it. I also think that stuttering has further been an influence on me fe...

Emotional ExperienceIdentity & Disability
Anxiety & Social JudgmentAuthenticity vs. Masking
commentr/StutterSep 16, 2021
3 points

I’m going to stop you right there when you say you won’t get anywhere in the business world if you “can’t talk properly.” You can talk properly, because as long as you’re communicating the message, it...

Identity & DisabilitySchool & Work
Authenticity vs. MaskingAcceptance & PrideEmployment & Career
commentr/StutterSep 12, 2021
3 points

I think being able to become desensitized to hearing other people stutter is good for us, because any desensitization is good. But I too also get kinda hyper focused on it if I think somebody else st...

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commentr/StutterSep 11, 2021
1 points

I consider myself a pretty confident stammerer. I think confidence in stammering is really about getting to a point where you don't feel any shame about the fact that you have a neurological disorder....

Identity & DisabilitySpeech & StutteringCauses & Variability
Acceptance & PrideAuthenticity vs. MaskingPhysical Tension+1 more
commentr/StutterSep 11, 2021
3 points

I was a nervous wreck on my wedding day. All I could think about was repeating the vowels in front of everyone. I was smiling the whole day. People thought it was because I was so happy, when really i...

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Anxiety & Social JudgmentAuthenticity vs. Masking
commentr/StutterSep 11, 2021
3 points

I don’t think there’s another way of curing it besides accepting it and gaining a more positive outlook on life and increasing your feeling of self worth. The more you try to hide your stuttering the ...

Identity & Disability
Acceptance & PrideAuthenticity vs. Masking
commentr/StutterSep 11, 2021
4 points

Hiding it only causes tension. You can’t run from who you are and once you start owning it and being ok if you stutter or not your words will come much easier....

Anticipation & AvoidanceIdentity & Disability
Hiding & ConcealmentAuthenticity vs. Masking
commentr/StutterSep 11, 2021
3 points

I spent so many years of my life not sharing my thoughts because I was afraid of stuttering and that makes me so sad. I still do it sometimes. As I got older, I adopted a DGAF attitude. Now I'm a prof...

Anticipation & AvoidanceIdentity & DisabilitySocial & Relationships
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commentr/StutterSep 11, 2021
27 points

Get out of your own head. No reason to be embarrassed. Stuttering is hard. Stop lying. Don't say you had a headache trying to conceal a truth that will come out. Stutterers are practiced at deceptio...

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Avoidance & SubstitutionHiding & ConcealmentAuthenticity vs. Masking
commentr/StutterSep 10, 2021
2 points

And I think one good way to build confidence stuttering is to practice stuttering on purpose, while you keep a smile on your face and keep eye contact. Then it will be easier to be confident when you ...

Coping & AdvocacyIdentity & DisabilityEmotional Experience
Voluntary Stuttering & ExposureAuthenticity vs. MaskingAnxiety & Social Judgment
commentr/StutterSep 10, 2021
2 points

I think it means different things for different people. I definitely use techniques to get by, if I do stutter or block and anyone says anything, I just confidently tell them I stutter and sometimes I...

Coping & AdvocacyIdentity & Disability
Fluency TechniquesSelf-Advocacy & BoundariesAuthenticity vs. Masking
commentr/StutterSep 10, 2021
2 points

For me, when I accepted/embraced my stutter, it gave me the courage to not care what people think about my stutter. Once I did that, my confidence grew....

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Acceptance & PrideMindset shiftAuthenticity vs. Masking
commentr/StutterSep 10, 2021
6 points

In my personal approach to '*speach confidence'* is letting myself stutter certainly a factor.I believe that this confidence you are looking for is a combination of many things. This is how I see i...

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Acceptance & PrideFluency TechniquesVoluntary Stuttering & Exposure+3 more
commentr/StutterSep 10, 2021
10 points

Definitely. I’ve always lived in fear because of my stuttering. Every single move I decide to take always has me thinking if I’m going to stutter or not. But honestly one day I just didn’t give af an...

Coping & AdvocacyIdentity & Disability
Mindset shiftAuthenticity vs. Masking
postr/StutterSep 9, 2021
14 points

What does it mean to be confident with a stutter?

What does it mean to be confident with a stutter? I’m currently trying to build up my confidence, but I have a question. Is being confident with a stutter just letting yourself stammer and stutter wit...

Anticipation & AvoidanceIdentity & Disability
Avoidance & SubstitutionAuthenticity vs. MaskingAcceptance & Pride