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commentr/StutterSep 28, 2021
5 points

This is me except that I both don't give a f*** & care too much what people think of me at the same time. Also with a dash of "I don't want to be 'othered' but I also will not bow to social conven...

Identity & DisabilityCoping & Advocacy
Authenticity vs. MaskingIdentity & Self-PerceptionSelf-Advocacy & Boundaries
commentr/StutterSep 27, 2021
2 points

Yeah maybe you were too focused on the crash and in the moment which caused you to forget about your stutter... i noticed that not thinking about stuttering leads to less stuttering as well...

Anticipation & AvoidanceIdentity & Disability
Overthinking & MonitoringAuthenticity vs. Masking
commentr/StutterSep 27, 2021
12 points

I know right!!! It's so annoying and i wish I could just speak to others just like how I speak/read out loud when I'm alone...

Identity & DisabilityAnticipation & Avoidance
Authenticity vs. MaskingExperiential Association
commentr/StutterSep 27, 2021
3 points

I think it has to do with the fact that your convinced about what you wanna say and have no doubts about it and also could care less about people’s opinions at that point so that critical voice just f...

Anticipation & AvoidanceIdentity & Disability
Overthinking & MonitoringAuthenticity vs. Masking
commentr/StutterSep 27, 2021
3 points

a memory i look back on and physically cringe is my still best friend and i were at starbucks years ago when we were still new friends and i was telling the barista my name and, for context, i'm both ...

Emotional ExperienceIdentity & Disability
Shame & EmbarrassmentAuthenticity vs. Masking
commentr/StutterSep 27, 2021
8 points

exactly cuz i suddenly stop caring about my stutter and just focus on getting my point across yk...

Identity & DisabilityEmotional Experience
Authenticity vs. MaskingHope & Motivation
commentr/StutterSep 27, 2021
9 points

I think it's bad to avoid the things you find difficult. For example I force myself to use the drive through occasionally just so I know I can. If you avoid the thing the makes you uncomfortable. It ...

Anticipation & AvoidanceCoping & AdvocacyIdentity & Disability
Avoidance & SubstitutionVoluntary Stuttering & ExposureAuthenticity vs. Masking
commentr/StutterSep 26, 2021
14 points

Starting now, don't let your stutter make you a bitch. It's death by a thousand cuts. Every time we avoid a block, every time we deceive someone, these little dodges... Every one of them cuts us. It d...

Identity & Disability
Authenticity vs. MaskingAcceptance & Pride
commentr/StutterSep 26, 2021
9 points

Firstly, I hate the word 'Intervention' don't ever make the children feel like they have something 'wrong' with them. That will only compound things, I know from personal experience as a child going t...

Identity & DisabilityEmotional Experience
Medicalization / NeurodiversityAuthenticity vs. MaskingHope & Motivation
commentr/StutterSep 26, 2021
2 points

It varies day to day, but there's no hiding it. Accepting that is kind of a big one. Trying hard to not stutter actually makes me stutter worse. When I use to meet new people I'd put a strong emphasis...

Identity & Disability
Acceptance & PrideAuthenticity vs. Masking
commentr/StutterSep 24, 2021
1 points

In my experience, confidence makes me stutter less. Not worrying about what people think and just going about my day normally makes me stutter less. I would say trying to hide it might work for some p...

Identity & Disability
Identity & Self-PerceptionAuthenticity vs. Masking
commentr/StutterSep 24, 2021
3 points

I enjoyed your reflection about this a lot. I get so caught up in paying attention to the possibility of myself stuttering that sometimes I’m not giving my entire focus to the conversation or the pers...

Anticipation & AvoidanceIdentity & Disability
Overthinking & MonitoringAuthenticity vs. Masking
commentr/StutterSep 24, 2021
1 points

Very similar to the person first (person who stutters) vs disability first (stutterer or stuttering person). Stuttering person isn't used much but for other disabilities/idk how to word this but "diff...

Identity & Disability
Identity & Self-PerceptionMedicalization / NeurodiversityAuthenticity vs. Masking
commentr/StutterSep 24, 2021
3 points

I'm so sorry you're dealing with this. I don't have any magic advice that will help you talk with no problems. I think we all know that doesn't exist. And we've all felt how you're feeling right now. ...

Identity & DisabilityCommunity & Support
Acceptance & PrideAuthenticity vs. MaskingAdvice Requests
commentr/StutterSep 21, 2021
1 points

Yea me too man. My dad has been great in many areas. I think the goal is to not filter what we say by wondering how our dad would react by what we say. We have to speak by using our own voice with our...

Identity & DisabilityCoping & Advocacy
Authenticity vs. MaskingSelf-Advocacy & Boundaries
commentr/StutterSep 21, 2021
2 points

I've always seen if I wear headphones for some reason and have trouble hearing myself speak, I tend to be more fluent. This has always had me thinking my stutter is more in my mind than anything p...

Anticipation & AvoidanceIdentity & Disability
Overthinking & MonitoringAuthenticity vs. Masking
commentr/StutterSep 21, 2021
2 points

imo you’ve got everything you need to affect positive change a few things that helped me ... a) talking openly about my experiences with stuttering, b) facing my fears and allowing myself to experie...

Identity & DisabilityEmotional ExperienceCauses & Variability
Authenticity vs. MaskingShame & EmbarrassmentPropositionality & Weight
commentr/StutterSep 21, 2021
6 points

When I used to work in the mental health field, many of my patients that had psychosis/schizophrenia would use this approach to drown out the voices in their head. I was taken aback with how loud th...

Anticipation & AvoidanceIdentity & Disability
Overthinking & MonitoringAuthenticity vs. Masking
commentr/StutterSep 20, 2021
1 points

I know it’s difficult! It begins to push us into a hole of being more self conscious, less confident, and less assertive, which all leads to more stuttering and less feeling of entitlement to express ...

Anticipation & AvoidanceCoping & AdvocacyIdentity & Disability
Avoidance & SubstitutionOverthinking & MonitoringMindset shift+1 more
commentr/StutterSep 20, 2021
3 points

Talk about it often. This will make hiding it not a thing since you are telling people and being open about it. Good luck hang in there you’re definitely not alone...

Social & RelationshipsIdentity & Disability
Disclosure & Telling OthersAuthenticity vs. Masking