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commentr/StutterJul 8, 2023
11 points

One of our problems as stutterers is that we put far too much value on how others view us. We do a disservice to others and ourselves when we do this. It chips away at our confidence. And it chips aw...

Emotional ExperienceAnticipation & AvoidanceIdentity & Disability
Anxiety & Social JudgmentHiding & ConcealmentAcceptance & Pride
commentr/StutterJul 8, 2023
25 points

Ugh. All. The. Time. Especially in work meetings. I often have ideas, solutions, and input but can never express them properly. And on top of that, I often use "uhm" to help with blocking and make t...

School & WorkAnticipation & Avoidance
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commentr/StutterJul 8, 2023
3 points

You should holla at the bartender. You only live once my dude. Closed mouths don’t get fed. take your time and talk, work on your breathing, let her do most of the talking. Hang in there, there’s bett...

Social & RelationshipsCoping & AdvocacyAnticipation & Avoidance
Dating & RomanceMindfulness & BreathingHiding & Concealment
commentr/StutterJul 8, 2023
3 points

Yep, stuttering can be so tiring physically, mentally, emotionally... that's why I would rather be alone than interact with people. 😞...

Anticipation & AvoidanceSocial & Relationships
Hiding & ConcealmentLoneliness & Isolation
commentr/StutterJul 7, 2023
3 points

I was told long ago to roll with the punches. It works but it's exhausting. Kinda just have to make peace with it and try not to think about it lol....

Anticipation & AvoidanceCoping & Advocacy
Hiding & ConcealmentMindset shift
commentr/StutterJul 7, 2023
4 points

Yes. No social life at all. My stutter is at a level that i just resort to typing what i have to say so i don't get along with anyone....

Anticipation & AvoidanceSocial & Relationships
Hiding & ConcealmentLoneliness & Isolation
commentr/StutterJul 7, 2023
1 points

Tell them about your stutter at the beginning. That way you’ll get loose of a lot of pressure trying to fake fluency....

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Disclosure & Telling OthersHiding & Concealment
commentr/StutterJul 6, 2023
2 points

Sometimes at work I’ll just point to my badge and play it off in a funny way. But regardless either they will just say it for me as they read my badge or it just buys me time to get it out without the...

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commentr/StutterJul 6, 2023
11 points

You know why people’s stutter usually gets better as they get older? You give less fucks the older you get. So giving the least amount of fucks is good advice. We are all imprisoned in jails of our...

Anticipation & AvoidanceCoping & AdvocacyIdentity & Disability
Avoidance & SubstitutionHiding & ConcealmentMindset shift+1 more
commentr/StutterJul 6, 2023
10 points

I do this everywhere I go. For 35 years, I let my stutter control every facet of my life......anxiety and fear dominated every decision. At one point, I had enough. Stuttering is very exhausting,...

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Avoidance & SubstitutionHiding & ConcealmentStress & Fight/Flight+1 more
postr/StutterJul 6, 2023
8 points

Anyone with a moderate to severe stutter that is outgoing?

Anyone with a moderate to severe stutter that is outgoing? One of the advice I see from watching TedEX videos from stutterers is to not care about what people think. Obviously working on it with thera...

Emotional ExperienceAnticipation & AvoidanceCoping & Advocacy
Anxiety & Social JudgmentHiding & ConcealmentMindset shift
commentr/StutterJul 6, 2023
4 points

Yeah me too. About three years ago I had my first job interview and before it started I told them I had a stutter. During the whole interview I did not stutter once! They noticed and asked me about it...

Social & RelationshipsAnticipation & Avoidance
Disclosure & Telling OthersHiding & Concealment
commentr/StutterJul 5, 2023
11 points

I was not in my country and i had to buy flight tickets for 5 people and i had to say to the employee the name and the number phone and other things like addresses, codes... of all 5 people. The emp...

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Avoidance & SubstitutionHiding & ConcealmentStress & Fight/Flight+1 more
commentr/StutterJul 5, 2023
3 points

Lowkey same, regret not learning sign language for free when I was younger. My speech therapist has said mine isn't to bad, but that's only because I'm comfortable around her. In the outside world, no...

Anticipation & AvoidanceCoping & AdvocacySpeech & Stuttering
Avoidance & SubstitutionHiding & ConcealmentFluency Techniques+1 more
commentr/StutterJul 5, 2023
2 points

No, but I guess being mute has its own advantages lol. If I'm mute I don't try to talk anymore, and won't get mind fucked like this....

Anticipation & Avoidance
Avoidance & SubstitutionHiding & Concealment
commentr/StutterJul 4, 2023
3 points

I started caring less about my fluency in my 30s and it helped a lot. I probably stutter a lot more than I realize, but who cares? It's liberating just being me. I block every now and then, but can...

Anticipation & AvoidanceCoping & AdvocacyIdentity & Disability
Avoidance & SubstitutionHiding & ConcealmentMindset shift+1 more
commentr/StutterJul 4, 2023
1 points

My guy I been saying this for a long time, I been pulled over 2 times and it does work. Sometimes you just gotta let the stutter out....

Anticipation & AvoidanceCauses & Variability
Avoidance & SubstitutionHiding & ConcealmentStress & Fight/Flight
commentr/StutterJul 4, 2023
4 points

I've been working on this too. I have to do shifts on our customer service line for work and some days I handle better than others...

Anticipation & AvoidanceSchool & Work
Avoidance & SubstitutionHiding & ConcealmentEmployment & Career
commentr/StutterJul 3, 2023
2 points

it could have also just been totally coincidental. But I think people tend to go 'easier' on anyone with a visual disability if that makes sense. it's not great in a lot of scenarios like business mee...

School & WorkAnticipation & Avoidance
Access & RightsHiding & Concealment
commentr/StutterJul 3, 2023
3 points

100%. I actually do well in presentations because of the prep I have to do. Reviewing every single word many times to avoid potential problems....

Anticipation & Avoidance
Preparation & RehearsalHiding & Concealment