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commentr/StutterJun 9, 2022
2 points

In my experience, because people are jerks and it feels that way after so many years of being picked on. It’s not necessary, and it’s hard to not feel like you have to hide it or apologize. Don’t, jus...

Identity & DisabilityCoping & Advocacy
Stigma & BullyingAuthenticity vs. MaskingMindset shift
commentr/StutterJun 9, 2022
2 points

yeah stuttering taught me to listen to people too. Anyways thanks :D...

Identity & Disability
Authenticity vs. Masking
commentr/StutterJun 9, 2022
1 points

One more question,how do you not hear disfluencys. I'm aware that everyone has disfluencys but how do you transition from a stutterer that worries constantly about how they sound to being like the ave...

Anticipation & AvoidanceIdentity & Disability
Overthinking & MonitoringAuthenticity vs. Masking
commentr/StutterJun 8, 2022
2 points

Honestly curious. How do people "forget about" or "hide" their stutter for any period of time?...

Anticipation & AvoidanceIdentity & Disability
Hiding & ConcealmentAuthenticity vs. Masking
commentr/StutterJun 7, 2022
3 points

You sound just like me. I'm 40 and have found plenty of ways to hide mine. Most coworkers do t know I do, and I have daily conversations with them. I think this is more common than we all think....

Anticipation & AvoidanceIdentity & Disability
Hiding & ConcealmentAuthenticity vs. Masking
commentr/StutterJun 7, 2022
2 points

This is the first thing I've read by him. Found Phillip a little obnoxious at first but I realized that's because I was seeing in him things I hate about myself lol....

Identity & DisabilityEmotional Experience
Authenticity vs. MaskingShame & Embarrassment
commentr/StutterJun 7, 2022
2 points

Hey, it's totally fine question! Well, I've kinda made peace with my stutter and I try not to make such a big of a deal out of it when it happens. I stutter a lot and of course I've found some ways ho...

Identity & DisabilityAnticipation & AvoidanceCoping & Advocacy
Acceptance & PrideAvoidance & SubstitutionAuthenticity vs. Masking+2 more
commentr/StutterJun 7, 2022
1 points

Thanks. Honestly the problem isn't her, it's me. She's never been rude or impatient with me about my stutter. My problem is just that I can't speak so I can't make good conversation, I'm not fun to ta...

Identity & DisabilityEmotional Experience
Authenticity vs. MaskingAnxiety & Social JudgmentIdentity & Self-Perception
commentr/StutterJun 5, 2022
1 points

Can I ask how you met your wife/if you adjusted your socializing because of your stutter (ie did you act extroverted while stuttering confidently, or were you generally quiet but took time to speak wi...

Social & RelationshipsIdentity & Disability
Dating & RomanceAuthenticity vs. Masking
commentr/StutterJun 4, 2022
1 points

Thank you for your response and forgive me for not responding sooner. Truly inspirational! I congratulate you on your success; I'm sure, it's rightly deserved! I live in Austin, Tx. I went to sc...

School & WorkIdentity & Disability
School & Academic LifeEmployment & CareerAuthenticity vs. Masking+1 more
commentr/StutterJun 3, 2022
2 points

I think it’s the anticipation that adds the pressure. Stutters usually make everything a performance so I’d suggest trying to be authentic rather than how you think you should come off as...

Anticipation & AvoidanceIdentity & Disability
Anticipating StutteringAuthenticity vs. Masking
commentr/StutterJun 3, 2022
1 points

I don't know if it looks vulnerable or just weak and stupid, honestly. Plus, even if I try to act nonchalant, I always turn red which makes me even more embarrassed. I'm not actually shy, but my stutt...

Emotional ExperienceIdentity & Disability
Shame & EmbarrassmentAnxiety & Social JudgmentAuthenticity vs. Masking
commentr/StutterJun 3, 2022
3 points

Nobody wants to be with somebody hiding something. If you can't just be yourself 100%, people won't accept you the way you want. Just be comfortable and don't hold back. I have a bad stutter, but have...

Identity & Disability
Authenticity vs. MaskingAcceptance & Pride
postr/StutterJun 3, 2022
18 points

Talking to girls

Talking to girls Is it okay to try to pursue a relationship with a girl without talking to her irl? Is that just setting myself up for failure? I'm really friendly over email, but in person I avoid h...

Anticipation & AvoidanceCauses & VariabilityEmotional Experience
Avoidance & SubstitutionHiding & ConcealmentStress & Fight/Flight+3 more
commentr/StutterJun 2, 2022
1 points

It's alot more embarrassing to be a drunk than a stutterer. Even if you don't drink large amounts or everyday you can easily get addicted without realizing it. Than your stutter is the least of your p...

Emotional ExperienceIdentity & Disability
Shame & EmbarrassmentAuthenticity vs. Masking
commentr/StutterJun 1, 2022
5 points

I feel like the average person cannot understand what we go through. One can imagine being blind, or deaf, but stuttering doesn't make sense to those unaffected. We have each other, but for many of u...

Community & SupportIdentity & Disability
Validation & EmpathyIdentity & Self-PerceptionAuthenticity vs. Masking
postr/StutterJun 1, 2022
29 points

not an elevator pitch…

not an elevator pitch… Words that were beautiful and elegant and meaningful in my brain Now feel trapped inside like a snow globe A distorted translation of their initial meaning when you try to tak...

Anticipation & AvoidanceCauses & VariabilityIdentity & Disability
Avoidance & SubstitutionHiding & ConcealmentPropositionality & Weight+1 more
commentr/StutterMay 31, 2022
1 points

I did it when i was young and in high school. But i figured it out when i don't think about my stutter it gets much better. So i just talk and if i stutter and it's hard to understand me is ay sorr...

Anticipation & AvoidanceIdentity & Disability
Avoidance & SubstitutionAuthenticity vs. Masking
commentr/StutterMay 30, 2022
2 points

That's really interesting, I never heard it put like that before. My stutter is overt so yeah communication at a very basic level is difficult, but also my goal is trying to avoid being laughed at/peo...

Emotional ExperienceIdentity & Disability
Shame & EmbarrassmentAuthenticity vs. Masking
commentr/StutterMay 30, 2022
1 points

I'm no psychologist but I'd guess it's because you're being honest with yourself! You're bringing it out into the open and not hiding it. That's powerful stuff. I think stutterers learn from an absurd...

Identity & Disability
Authenticity vs. MaskingAcceptance & Pride