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commentr/StutterJul 24, 2022
1 points

The block dies down because you're most likely in a calm or relaxed state at that time. You're probably focused on what you're trying to say and communicating that to the other person. It happens to e...

Identity & DisabilityCoping & Advocacy
Authenticity vs. MaskingMindset shift
commentr/StutterJul 24, 2022
1 points

I only say you don't have a stuttering problem because once you view it as something "wrong" or something needing to be "fixed" or mind has already added negative connotations to stuttering (alot of i...

Identity & DisabilityAnticipation & AvoidanceCauses & Variability
Authenticity vs. MaskingOverthinking & MonitoringStress & Fight/Flight+1 more
commentr/StutterJul 24, 2022
1 points

Yes I know why. When you're "under the influence" your mind-body state is relaxed, your mind isn't focused on the problem, you're in a calm state. The good news is you don't have a stuttering problem....

Meds & SubstancesIdentity & DisabilityCauses & Variability
Recreationa substances (e.g. Alcohol, Cannabis)Authenticity vs. MaskingStress & Fight/Flight
commentr/StutterJul 24, 2022
1 points

To put it simply. You don't have a stuttering problem. You only stutter sometimes right? Then why is it when you're playing sports you don't stutter? That's because when you stutter, you've created (o...

Identity & DisabilityCoping & Advocacy
Authenticity vs. MaskingMindset shift
commentr/StutterJul 24, 2022
1 points

Not sure this is a dating subreddit. People are more than their stuttering. Having the connection that both of you stutter is not going to make a successful relationship. I recommend advertising yo...

Anticipation & AvoidanceIdentity & DisabilitySocial & Relationships
Avoidance & SubstitutionAuthenticity vs. MaskingIdentity & Self-Perception+1 more
commentr/StutterJul 24, 2022
1 points

I already do accept "weird" people. Hence why I used quotation marks. If someone treats me with respect, I will reciprocate it My problem is that society groups us in the same group as someone who do...

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commentr/StutterJul 24, 2022
1 points

I think its disappointing how we have to compensate - for instance I am relatively good looking, witty, intelligent, and take care of myself (dress well and workout) and I can only seem to befriend th...

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commentr/StutterJul 24, 2022
3 points

Appreciate the honesty in this comment. Sometimes it feels a little patronising/gaslighting when people tell you to just be yourself or that its what you say that matters, not how you say it, because...

Emotional ExperienceIdentity & Disability
Shame & EmbarrassmentAnxiety & Social JudgmentAuthenticity vs. Masking
commentr/StutterJul 24, 2022
3 points

I find reading out loud horrible because it takes away all spontaneity from speaking. I talk much better when I speak from the heart....

Anticipation & AvoidanceIdentity & Disability
Avoidance & SubstitutionAuthenticity vs. Masking
postr/StutterJul 23, 2022
19 points

i don't speak i read.

i don't speak i read. i had a very bad stutter as a child until my early teens. then one of my teachers pointed out that i didn't stutter when i read. so i started visualizing words, and i'm not spea...

Anticipation & AvoidanceIdentity & Disability
Avoidance & SubstitutionAuthenticity vs. Masking
commentr/StutterJul 23, 2022
4 points

>For the last 2 or 3 weeks I have been forcing myself to speak more slowly to see if I am received better by others. Excellent. Keep it up! Speak louder, hold your head high, and "maintain eye con...

Anticipation & AvoidanceCoping & AdvocacyIdentity & Disability
Avoidance & SubstitutionMindset shiftFluency Techniques+2 more
commentr/StutterJul 23, 2022
1 points

I don't know what is there to explain about an statement such as stuttering is not an impediment for anything. It may be a difficulty, but it doesn't make anything impossible. I have had good and bad...

Anticipation & AvoidanceEmotional ExperienceIdentity & Disability
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commentr/StutterJul 22, 2022
1 points

But the truth is that you can stutter and still do pretty good at interviews. You can stutter and have a nice social life, a romantic partner, a healthy self steem... I don't mean to "live, laugh, lov...

Emotional ExperienceIdentity & Disability
Hope & MotivationAuthenticity vs. MaskingIdentity & Self-Perception+1 more
commentr/StutterJul 22, 2022
2 points

Yeah it does for me because it makes me not care if I stutter or not at all. I just say what’s on my mind without a care in the word how fluent it is ¯\_(ツ)_/¯...

Identity & Disability
Authenticity vs. MaskingAcceptance & Pride
commentr/StutterJul 21, 2022
12 points

The way to get past speech blocks is by letting yourself stutter. You start working on this my making the sound you're afraid to make and therefore block on. You can only start this work on the easies...

Coping & AdvocacyEmotional ExperienceIdentity & Disability
Voluntary Stuttering & ExposureShame & EmbarrassmentAuthenticity vs. Masking
commentr/StutterJul 21, 2022
1 points

It should be obvious.. but it's not. I had a colleague admit to me recently that they thought I was just doing it on purpose this whole time. I'm not.. and it's not always apparent depending on the st...

Anticipation & AvoidanceIdentity & Disability
Hiding & ConcealmentAuthenticity vs. Masking
commentr/StutterJul 21, 2022
1 points

Yes, thats exactly what I'm trying to tell you. You need be comfortable with yourself in whatever you're doing. I'm sorry you had to go through 'near total destruction' while trying to push yourself t...

Anticipation & AvoidanceEmotional ExperienceIdentity & Disability
Avoidance & SubstitutionHiding & ConcealmentOverthinking & Monitoring+3 more
commentr/StutterJul 21, 2022
4 points

And that's OK. We stutter. The odds of saying anything like this fluently is extremely low. Making the offender face your stutter might help them better see what you mean....

Identity & DisabilityEmotional Experience
Authenticity vs. MaskingAcceptance & PrideAnxiety & Social Judgment+1 more
commentr/StutterJul 21, 2022
46 points

I think there are several factors. First, it's kind of an invisible/stealth disability. You walk into a room of people; you'd never be able to pick out the stutterer. No white cane or seeing eye dog...

Identity & Disability
Medicalization / NeurodiversityStigma & BullyingAuthenticity vs. Masking
commentr/StutterJul 21, 2022
-11 points

I, for one, don't consider it a disability. My stutter ranges from mild to severe on bad days, and yeah, people sometimes look me like I'm an alien, but I couldn't care less. Life is too short to worr...

Identity & DisabilityEmotional Experience
Acceptance & PrideHope & MotivationAuthenticity vs. Masking