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I don't know what is there to explain about an statement such as stuttering is not an impediment for anything. It may be a difficulty, but it doesn't make anything impossible. I have had good and bad interviews. Everybody does, also people who don't stutter. But I for sure have had some good ones as well, even in different languages. I have even aced interviews with multiple people. There was this one time a few years ago when I was applying for a job in the customer service area of a huge online platform (I cannot reveal the name) because they were paying almost double than the regular salary for people who could take care of the service in two languages. I went in a room with like 15 other applicants and I knew I was the only stutterer (I almost always am). And yet I decided I was going to do my best. I practiced my English days before, I took a bit of time to study how does the web site work, etc; and I didn't only do fine, I ended up making others feel slightly threatened, because one of the tasks of the interview was to search for a bunch of items on the website and I was the first one to successfully do it within seconds (like, by the time other applicants were still typing the things that we had to search, I had already found all of them). I also did pretty well in the part of the interview in English and I could see some of the applicants struggling far more than me, even though they did not stutter, just because they didn't have the skill I did have. Of course I got the job and of course I was enjoying my big fat bonus for the second language ;) and that wasn't the only successful interview I have had. In my last work interview, for the job in which I still am and am quite happy at, my interviewer (now boss) told me straight "you have 'sold' yourself very well, you got the job", she literally didn't even want to make me wait and give me time to consider looking for other companies. What's the point here? You can cry all day long about the things you lack, like fluency in this case; but if you instead focus on the things that you can bring to the table (for example, any kind of skills to a job) and if you focus in the value that you can add, people will see that and that will take you much further. And that doesn't only apply to work related situations. If you think of the value that you can add to people's life with your friendship or your quality as a partner, the value that you add to yourself and your self worth, all of that will also take you so much further down the line. Have you ever asked yourself (and I am not accusing you nor anyone of this being your or their individual case, I am literally just making a hypothetical question here) that may be the stutterers that complain about not being able to find love or friendships are not realizing that they don't get a partner or friends not because of their stammer, but just because it is exhausting for anyone to be next to a person with a victim mentality all the time? I mean, I would avoid a person like that as well, even though I stutter myself. That shit is just draining and leads nowhere. It is different to make questions such as "how to successfully have a job interview with a stammer?", "how to navigate the dating world with a stammer?" etc, because those are based on what we as individuals can do to deal with different situations and it gives us strategies to have -at least some level of- control and be intentional with what we do. But questions like "why me?" put people in a victim frame, like things just happen to us and there is nothing we can do besides waiting to die, and hopefully we will not have a stammer in our next life as well. Again, that leads nowhere.