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commentr/StutterMar 12, 2023
10 points

Completely agree! We know how to speak. Focusing on your speech makes it worse. I was so ashamed every time I was taken out of class to do speech therapy as a kid. So humiliating, as if stuttering isn...

Anticipation & AvoidanceEmotional ExperienceTherapy & Professional
Hiding & ConcealmentShame & EmbarrassmentAnxiety & Social Judgment+1 more
commentr/StutterMar 12, 2023
13 points

I've thought about this, and given the psychological nature of it, for me the focus on it made it worse. I stuttered more after speech therapy than before. One of my kids had a hint of a stutter as a ...

Anticipation & AvoidanceCauses & VariabilityEmotional Experience
Avoidance & SubstitutionTrauma & PsychologicalAnxiety & Social Judgment+1 more
commentr/StutterMar 12, 2023
2 points

You stutter on your name for two reasons. First, you can’t substitute another word for it. Second, more importantly, when do you actually say your name? With new people/meeting people, when the stakes...

Anticipation & AvoidanceCauses & VariabilityEmotional Experience
Feared Words & NamesPropositionality & WeightAnxiety & Social Judgment
commentr/StutterMar 12, 2023
2 points

I argue that you (*and every person who stutters*) are stuck in a vicious circle. **Vicious circle**: 1. *Trigger* 1. maintaining eye contact 2. saying a long sentence 3. fear of judgement ...

Anticipation & AvoidanceCauses & VariabilityEmotional Experience
Anticipating StutteringAvoidance & SubstitutionOverthinking & Monitoring+3 more
commentr/StutterMar 12, 2023
2 points

I freeze and find it very hard to open my mouth when I start a sentence while doing eye contact. I usually wait till that eye contact is broken before saying a long sentence. In this case, physically...

Anticipation & AvoidanceEmotional ExperienceSpeech & Stuttering
Anticipating StutteringFeared Words & NamesAvoidance & Substitution+3 more
commentr/StutterMar 12, 2023
1 points

I agree with everything you said. Yes indeed, we cannot remove hardwired thoughts/feelings (or eliminate triggers). You correctly pointed out that this is impossible. Perhaps, an alternative workaroun...

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Avoidance & SubstitutionOverthinking & MonitoringPropositionality & Weight+2 more
commentr/StutterMar 11, 2023
2 points

Love this! I do lobbying from time to time and it can definitely be difficult when my stutter is more obvious and noticeable when I’m trying to convince a legislator to support a bill!...

Anticipation & AvoidanceEmotional ExperienceSocial & Relationships
Avoidance & SubstitutionPreparation & RehearsalAnxiety & Social Judgment+1 more
commentr/StutterMar 11, 2023
1 points

As someone who's a senior in highschool stop worrying too much about your speech, the more you worry about it the worse your speech and blocks will get....

Anticipation & AvoidanceEmotional Experience
Anticipating StutteringAnxiety & Social Judgment
commentr/StutterMar 11, 2023
1 points

I think that’s the same for all stutterers, if I’m not mistaken? I’ve long believed that stuttering is nothing more than a mental thing —caused by trauma. So it starts all in our heads. That’s the rea...

Causes & VariabilityEmotional ExperienceIdentity & Disability
Trauma & PsychologicalAnxiety & Social JudgmentHelplessness & Agency+1 more
commentr/StutterMar 11, 2023
1 points

As a German, I have the same phenomenon when speaking English; it’s harder to speak fluently. To keep it brief, I think a foreign language just adds another layer of complexity. In addition to thinkin...

Causes & VariabilityEmotional Experience
Propositionality & WeightAnxiety & Social Judgment
commentr/StutterMar 11, 2023
7 points

The hardest thing for a stutterer is to not think of your speech impediment in that kind of situations. But I don't struggle that much myself in interviews anymore because I think more on my appearanc...

Anticipation & AvoidanceCauses & VariabilityEmotional Experience
Overthinking & MonitoringStress & Fight/FlightEnergy & Biological Rhythms+3 more
postr/StutterMar 11, 2023
7 points

What are tips that you have to not be nervous before or during interviews

What are tips that you have to not be nervous before or during interviews I have a mild speech impediment and it gets worse during interviews. I try to speak slow and speak as I tap my fingers. Someti...

Anticipation & AvoidanceCoping & AdvocacyEmotional Experience
Anticipating StutteringFluency TechniquesAnxiety & Social Judgment
postr/StutterMar 11, 2023
7 points

Stuttering speedrun 4 year highschool game ;)

Stuttering speedrun 4 year highschool game ;) I'm so tired of stuttering bruh, I'm ready to meet everyone in my highschool, I dont even care about freinds or anything I'm just tryna get my fluency up ...

Anticipation & AvoidanceEmotional ExperienceSocial & Relationships
Avoidance & SubstitutionAnxiety & Social JudgmentFriendships & Belonging
commentr/StutterMar 11, 2023
1 points

I wouldn’t be afraid to apply to medical school or any graduate program. Stuttering takes my confidence and makes me so anxious. I feel like a joke....

Emotional ExperienceSchool & Work
Anxiety & Social JudgmentSchool & Academic LifeEmployment & Career
commentr/StutterMar 11, 2023
1 points

Indeed, what's the point of having a voice if you can't use it as you want to.. I'm like you, phone calls are a big no no! You would think not been face to face would make it easier, just like tal...

Anticipation & AvoidanceEmotional ExperienceSocial & Relationships
Feared Words & NamesAvoidance & SubstitutionAnxiety & Social Judgment+1 more
commentr/StutterMar 10, 2023
1 points

Anticipation (of negative listeners responses)(or that stuttering might happen) often leads to us paralyzing our tongue, jaw or other speech muscles and then it brings about a speech block. In contra...

Anticipation & AvoidanceCauses & VariabilityCoping & Advocacy
Anticipating StutteringOverthinking & MonitoringStress & Fight/Flight+3 more
postr/StutterMar 10, 2023
1 points

Contradicting advice paradox

Contradicting advice paradox I have came to the conclusion that if I was to just "go talk to people regardless" then I will get even more traumatized and get even worse social anxiety. I think just ho...

Emotional ExperienceSchool & Work
Helplessness & AgencyAnxiety & Social JudgmentAccess & Rights
commentr/StutterMar 10, 2023
1 points

I think many young stutterers are struggling with the pain of stuttering and feeling so uncertain of their future. How can I be taken seriously when I stutter? Will I ever find companionship? If I...

Causes & VariabilityEmotional ExperienceIdentity & Disability
Propositionality & WeightAnxiety & Social JudgmentSadness & Hopelessness+3 more
commentr/StutterMar 10, 2023
9 points

I never really cared what people thought, I just don't like or tolerate disrespect from people when it comes to the stutter that's caused me so much pain in life. And I can tell right off the bat if a...

Emotional ExperienceIdentity & DisabilitySocial & Relationships
Shame & EmbarrassmentAnxiety & Social JudgmentStigma & Bullying+1 more
commentr/StutterMar 10, 2023
15 points

We don't care what they think, but we get angry because we feel that we don't have control over it and then stress comes, because we cannot handle little stress factors that shouldn't be anything seri...

Causes & VariabilityEmotional Experience
Stress & Fight/FlightFrustration & AngerAnxiety & Social Judgment