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commentr/StutterJul 2, 2022
3 points

I agree. Mine WAS getting worse the past 2 years and I said “Fuck this!” I stared reading aloud by myself (I don’t really stutter when I read by myself). I read almost 2 hours aloud everyday now and i...

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commentr/StutterJul 2, 2022
7 points

I know this sound cheesy but fuck what people think. Just keep talking and if they don’t want to listen, you’re not worth their time. I have spent most of my life in fear of speaking but I got happier...

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commentr/StutterJul 2, 2022
4 points

I relate. Here are my tips: - Try to shift your focus away from your stutter. I do this by focusing on the question the interviewer is asking me and focusing my thoughts on the content of the answer ...

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commentr/StutterJul 2, 2022
2 points

It is a good book and a good story to read aloud when you practice that. But the book do not give you much concrete steps to follow towards fluency - just remember that. John, Ruth and Lee did overcom...

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commentr/StutterJul 2, 2022
2 points

If you have read John Harrisons book redefining stuttering, that's a good book. You might also want to read Ruth Mead's book speech is a River. Which to some degree elaborates more on his book. Ruth e...

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commentr/StutterJul 1, 2022
15 points

I used to think it was better if I just stopped speaking all together but just like you I had things I wanted to say questions to ask jokes to tell. I got tired of other people leading my life and mak...

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commentr/StutterJul 1, 2022
9 points

You'll never get better speaking if you don't speak. You will learn to accept your stutter, and this acceptance will lead to more fluency. Start small. Ask a question, stutter through an answer. It ca...

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commentr/StutterJul 1, 2022
5 points

Can you speak fluently to yourself when you’re alone? Even one word ? If you can stand in front of a mirror every night , right before bed, say that word. Feel that word. Add another word the next ni...

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commentr/StutterJul 1, 2022
2 points

I feel the same way, social anxiety definitely increases my stutter. Yesterday, I was hanging out with a group of friends that I was socially comfortable with, and I didn’t stutter. When I’m around ne...

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commentr/StutterJul 1, 2022
1 points

I saw that you are german. Was dir auf keinen Fall passieren darf ist das du dich in so einem “was wäre wenn” denken verlierst, denn sowas bringt dir nichts und zieht dich nur weiter runter. Leider ka...

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commentr/StutterJul 1, 2022
7 points

Fluency is a goal every stutterer would like to achieve, but in some cases, you first have to accept the fact that you stutter and become comfortable with your stuttering. In most cases I believe stut...

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commentr/StutterJul 1, 2022
2 points

I also developed stuttering problem during my teens. Particularly, at 16 when moved to a new high school where unfortunately I wasn't very happy. I wasn't bullied or something like that, but because I...

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commentr/StutterJul 1, 2022
1 points

Why would I hide it though? You can't bury it, you can't shut it off, pretending it doesn't exist worsens it. Why not proudly claim it as part of who you are and gain confidence in it? This is the onl...

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commentr/StutterJun 30, 2022
2 points

Good for you for being open and upfront. It can be hard to get used to. I don’t think anyone likes admitting they aren’t “perfect” (whatever that even means). I find just letting people know takes the...

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commentr/StutterJun 30, 2022
7 points

23 year old male here. I was the same way in high school , currently in college. Honestly, the answer is cliche: fuck people’s opinions of you. Everybody’s insecure about something, most people like t...

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commentr/StutterJun 30, 2022
4 points

Not trying to sound arrogant. But I've been offered pretty much every job I've ever interviewed for. I have moderate stutter but I've accepted myself as a stutterer. I just always start every intervi...

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postr/StutterJun 29, 2022
39 points

How I find Confidence

How I find Confidence As a stutterer, I find it hard to find the confidence in myself to speak up for myself, and others. I go to a local gun range to shoot trap once a week. This particular day we h...

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commentr/StutterJun 29, 2022
1 points

Well, with that same thought, i tell people immediately. If you don't replace words for substitutes you won't come over as dumb. They just give you more time. When you talk to them more often they wil...

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commentr/StutterJun 29, 2022
3 points

The faster you embrace it, the better. As soon as I embraced it as part of who I am, my life instantly improved. I feel like my fluency improved almost overnight as well. All that anxiety and stress a...

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commentr/StutterJun 29, 2022
2 points

You can't hide your stuttering forever, so you can only embrace it. But if you could hide your stuttering forever, why not embrace it then?(because it could not do harms to your life)...

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