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commentr/StutterDec 20, 2024
1 points

If you can let them know by devices ahead of time then do that.   If not possible then open with it. Start with a hand shake, a smile, and rehearse a line that's easy for you to say that you have a sp...

Social & RelationshipsEmotional Experience
Disclosure & Telling OthersAnxiety & Social Judgment
commentr/StutterDec 19, 2024
2 points

If you have a way to contact them through email in advance you can introduce yourself a little bit. Say something along the lines of... Thank you for the opportunity to interview with McDonalds. The...

Social & RelationshipsEmotional Experience
Disclosure & Telling OthersAnxiety & Social Judgment
commentr/StutterDec 19, 2024
1 points

i don't know how old you are but I'm 22 and I have the same issues more and more. I've just joined this sub but I assume most people here experience anxiety around phone calls, but being a young perso...

Anticipation & AvoidanceEmotional ExperienceSocial & Relationships
Overthinking & MonitoringAnxiety & Social JudgmentDisclosure & Telling Others+1 more
commentr/StutterDec 18, 2024
1 points

100%, but honestly i like when i meet new family members, i still stutter, bad sometimes but they dont rlly make fun of it and the more comfortable i get the less stuters i have 😭 u lowkey just gotta...

Anticipation & AvoidanceIdentity & DisabilitySocial & Relationships
Avoidance & SubstitutionAcceptance & PrideDisclosure & Telling Others
commentr/StutterDec 18, 2024
19 points

I can relate 💔 sorry you had to go through that. What I’ve done before is type my name or message in my phone and show whoever I’m talking to my phone....

Anticipation & AvoidanceSocial & Relationships
Avoidance & SubstitutionDisclosure & Telling Others
commentr/StutterDec 18, 2024
2 points

I always say, ‘I stammer and I experience word blocks so it takes me a while to say my name’ whenever I’m asked. They usually go ‘that’s fine’, then I proceed to spell it out and they pronounce it and...

Anticipation & AvoidanceCoping & AdvocacySocial & Relationships
Feared Words & NamesAvoidance & SubstitutionSelf-Advocacy & Boundaries+1 more
commentr/StutterDec 18, 2024
2 points

It is debilitating when that happens. As hard as it is, and the desire to power through a word...you have to stop. Just flat out stop. Don't talk. Don't say a word. Instead, take a deep breath. Then...

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Avoidance & SubstitutionSelf-Advocacy & BoundariesDisclosure & Telling Others
postr/StutterDec 17, 2024
28 points

I can’t even say my own name

I can’t even say my own name This is one of my biggest struggles and sources of embarrassment. Recently, I was at the club and a guy asked me for a cigarette, he then asked me my name and i couldn’t g...

Anticipation & AvoidanceEmotional ExperienceSocial & Relationships
Feared Words & NamesShame & EmbarrassmentDisclosure & Telling Others
commentr/StutterDec 17, 2024
2 points

Thanks for sharing your story! I also thought I wouldn’t talk about it but I feel I need to or have to as my stammer is very unexpected and sometimes I speak very fluently and sometimes I’m unable to ...

Causes & VariabilitySocial & Relationships
Severity & FluctuationDisclosure & Telling Others
commentr/StutterDec 17, 2024
1 points

Of course I am aware that the option to text him about that is available however, there will be still the time you’ll see each other in person after that and I would like to avoid the uncomfortable fe...

Coping & AdvocacyIdentity & DisabilitySocial & Relationships
Self-Advocacy & BoundariesAuthenticity vs. MaskingDisclosure & Telling Others
commentr/StutterDec 17, 2024
6 points

If you're feeling lonely and alone, then try going out. Even if you're alone, go see a movie, go eat at a restaurant. Go to some event near you like an art show, tabletop gaming night, etc etc. You ...

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Dating & RomanceFriendships & BelongingDisclosure & Telling Others
commentr/StutterDec 17, 2024
2 points

Just adding to what others have said - totally understandable it should feel so difficult to talk about, we all carry so many complex feelings and shame around stammering. Do you stutter most around p...

Anticipation & AvoidanceEmotional ExperienceIdentity & Disability
Hiding & ConcealmentShame & EmbarrassmentAuthenticity vs. Masking+1 more
postr/StutterDec 16, 2024
54 points

Can't say my name

Can't say my name I grew up with a bad stutter, finally getting speech therapy during my teens after the teasing got too much. While the therapy wasn't an immediate success, I took the lessons to hear...

Anticipation & AvoidanceSocial & Relationships
Feared Words & NamesDisclosure & Telling OthersHiding & Concealment
commentr/StutterDec 16, 2024
3 points

Thank you guys for the support. It really helped a lot and I think I’ll take all my courage to tell him soon. I don’t want to hide it anymore. I really appreciate your words. I’ll let you know how tha...

Identity & DisabilitySocial & Relationships
Authenticity vs. MaskingDisclosure & Telling Others
commentr/StutterDec 16, 2024
3 points

I know the feeling of drowning in tears when talking to your boyfriend about something traumatic! I did not have to do that about my stutter as I am not someone who can hide it, so he knew that the da...

Anticipation & AvoidanceIdentity & DisabilitySocial & Relationships
Avoidance & SubstitutionAuthenticity vs. MaskingDisclosure & Telling Others
commentr/StutterDec 16, 2024
3 points

I am sure your boyfriend knows by now but it never occurred to him as something bothersome and he doesn’t feel the need to address it with you. However, if it makes you feel better, you can just tell ...

Social & RelationshipsIdentity & Disability
Disclosure & Telling OthersIdentity & Self-Perception
commentr/StutterDec 15, 2024
2 points

I suggest telling him ASAP if you want this to be long term. If he doesn’t accept you stuttering then he’s not the one. Better get hurt now than in the long run. PS. If you’re looking to reduce your ...

Social & RelationshipsIdentity & DisabilityMeds & Substances
Disclosure & Telling OthersIdentity & Self-PerceptionHelpful Med Outcomes
commentr/StutterDec 15, 2024
5 points

did the same thing with my girlfriend for years. last month i honestly just came clean with everything and it felt like a weight lifted off my shoulders. i told her about how i stutter on my name wh...

Social & RelationshipsIdentity & DisabilityEmotional Experience
Disclosure & Telling OthersIdentity & Self-PerceptionShame & Embarrassment+1 more
commentr/StutterDec 15, 2024
3 points

He's probably already noticed it, just lightly talk about it during conversation like he already knows. You shouldn't have to "confess" to him that you have a stutter...

Social & RelationshipsIdentity & Disability
Disclosure & Telling OthersIdentity & Self-Perception
commentr/StutterDec 15, 2024
2 points

I have the same thing where my stutter is so hard for me to talk about. Do you think it might not be as overwhelming if you texted him about it and explained it instead of telling him in person?...

Social & RelationshipsEmotional Experience
Disclosure & Telling OthersShame & Embarrassment