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commentr/StutterOct 30, 2017
1 points

I don't stutter myself, but I've been interested in it forever. It's one of the biggest medical mysteries. What I do know is, there are plenty of people who are confident despite their stutter, and mo...

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commentr/StutterOct 29, 2017
2 points

> Like is it okay that if I know what she is trying to say, is it okay to finish the sentence for her? For me personally, that would just piss me off. If it's someone I don't know doing it, I prob...

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commentr/StutterOct 29, 2017
3 points

Treat her like you would anyone else. You know, being patient and respectful. You said in another reply that you feel bad and want to help her. Thank you for the compassion, but we don't need to be pa...

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commentr/StutterOct 29, 2017
5 points

Thank you. I just don't want to help make people feel crappy. I would feel weird though, saying, "hey, I noticed you stutter. How can I not be an ass to you when that happens?"...

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commentr/StutterOct 29, 2017
14 points

Best thing to do is ask, main thing is try not to pull any awkward faces, try and stay neutral, don't look away just like you would with any other conversation with anyone else! But yes just ask what...

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commentr/StutterOct 23, 2017
1 points

Pm me, I'm 20 with a stutter and would love to talk ...

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commentr/StutterOct 22, 2017
1 points

We could've been born with a terminal illness instead. We could've been born without legs, arms, or hands.. We were dealt a shitty card, but there are some people who do not even get a chance to expe...

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commentr/StutterOct 21, 2017
6 points

Then they suck and can’t empathize. Send them my way and I can be Mama Bear for you. Gah. To echo what others have said stuttering let’s you know right off the bat who the assholes in Life are. You ...

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commentr/StutterOct 20, 2017
1 points

Yes it sucks and you are not alone. You have a voice and what you say matters. Who you are matters. I know you have to find your way through. It sucks and it’s painful. But it’s worth it. Because ...

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commentr/StutterOct 19, 2017
3 points

We all go through this OP, you are not alone. No matter your age you will always come back to think of this but there is a light at the end of the tunnel. Just this past May I started working at a gre...

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commentr/StutterOct 19, 2017
1 points

Usually we are not allowed by society to complain about our disability. This is a safe place for us to express our frustration. I am very happy in my life but it's still nice to vent here to the only ...

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commentr/StutterOct 18, 2017
1 points

Oh, and I meant to add that, in my own experience, most people will largely not care about my stutter -- if they do, they have some deep insecurity that they are not dealing with well. I've had a ton ...

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commentr/StutterOct 17, 2017
2 points

Agreed, tough love can be useful but only to people who already have the right mindset. Some people only use these kinds of messages for additional self-loathing material (been there done that)....

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commentr/StutterOct 15, 2017
7 points

Update: It went pretty well, actually. Her family is really nice and understanding. Her niece and nephew pointed out my stutter, but they’re really little so it was kind of cute. The only person who d...

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commentr/StutterOct 15, 2017
3 points

Dude you got this. Don't stress. We've all been there. I recently had to meet some of my girlfriends family and they actually told her my stutter was cute and they wanted to hear me stutter more. It d...

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commentr/StutterOct 15, 2017
2 points

Yeah I met my boyfriends parents and I was so nervous like hell I felt so ill and my anxiety levels were through the roof and I don't have anxiety! Just remember if you make your gf happy, they will m...

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commentr/StutterOct 14, 2017
4 points

I have a mild stutter (mostly) but I understand how it can be for severe stutterers. Which is why I would never insult anyone who cannot do something....

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commentr/StutterOct 13, 2017
2 points

I apologize if this is super TLDR. Don’t give up hope! Job hunting or even first meetings (like dates, first days of school ect )are definitely harder for anyone with a speech disfluency. Believe me,...

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commentr/StutterOct 12, 2017
2 points

No need to apologize at all. Sharing thoughts about our situation gives me enough comfort. When you describe yourself, it's like you are describing me. After I opened up about my stuttering, I found t...

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commentr/StutterOct 12, 2017
1 points

I feel the same way. I'm sorry, but I don't have much advice to give you. I'm struggling the same way you are. I used to hate talking to people, and was very paranoid and anxious about stuttering in f...

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