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commentr/StutterJan 6, 2018
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Hey so how can I do this when applying to a job? See, I need to make a good impression I need other people to like me because I need a job! What if I won't find a man who will like me and accept me ...

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Shame & EmbarrassmentDating & Romance
commentr/StutterJan 6, 2018
1 points

But why me? What did I do to deserve this? Why can't I have a normal life? I just don't want the employer to hire me bc of that bc if I don't they might think oh she will think it's bc of her speech...

Emotional ExperienceSchool & Work
Shame & EmbarrassmentHelplessness & AgencyEmployment & Career
commentr/StutterJan 6, 2018
1 points

I see. That's neat! They don't think you're nervous? Did that catch you off guard? If someone said that, I would run and cry. I'm just so uncomfortable with it and idk if I'll ever be comfortabl...

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Shame & EmbarrassmentAnxiety & Social Judgment
commentr/StutterJan 6, 2018
1 points

What if I'll get similar sentiments? What if people will laugh at me? What if they won't even want to go through with the interview. I just don't want to be treated differently or be given the job bc ...

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commentr/StutterJan 6, 2018
1 points

Thanks but how can I ignore the reactions or stop being sensitive or being weak? Every time I think about the past times I got hurt I think what did I do to deserve this? Why can't I have a normal lif...

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Shame & EmbarrassmentFrustration & AngerSadness & Hopelessness
commentr/StutterJan 6, 2018
1 points

Honestly, I try not to pay much attention to that. Most of the time it is just an harmless reaction because people don't know how to react. It's hard to explain myself now, because English is not ev...

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Shame & EmbarrassmentStigma & Bullying
commentr/StutterJan 5, 2018
1 points

I only like my hair. That's it. I really want to improve on my speech obv - idk if I can improve my personality but I'm so shy and introverted bc of my speech. ...

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commentr/StutterJan 5, 2018
1 points

I don't like anything about myself. That's the thing. I was born with not so ideal facial features that aren't deemed beautiful by the people I like (guys I mean) so I really hate how I look. My body ...

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Shame & EmbarrassmentSadness & HopelessnessIdentity & Self-Perception
commentr/StutterJan 4, 2018
2 points

That’s good- you’re a step ahead of me :-). Fear and shame. They are so hard to let go of. But so freeing when we can actually do it. I still struggle with it and my struggles are easier. So yeah,...

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Shame & EmbarrassmentAnxiety & Social JudgmentAcceptance & Pride
commentr/StutterJan 4, 2018
1 points

hey, I'm not mad at my younger self, actually I don't think I would react differently today. I'm just mad at the fact that I could have had a better life. Today, I'm trying to change, I know I need to...

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commentr/StutterJan 4, 2018
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I feel the same, it makes me super uncomfortable. I think it’s because I get that rare glimpse of what others see when I stutter. It’s at the core of why we stutter I suppose, embarrassment and a desi...

Emotional ExperienceIdentity & Disability
Shame & EmbarrassmentAuthenticity vs. Masking
commentr/StutterJan 4, 2018
1 points

Yeah I agree but I am having a hard time accepting it or what are the exact steps I need to do. I said "I accept my stutter it's okay" but that's not enough. Idk if it's my embarrasment or shame that'...

Identity & DisabilityEmotional Experience
Acceptance & PrideShame & EmbarrassmentAnxiety & Social Judgment
commentr/StutterJan 4, 2018
1 points

I’m not a PWS so my comment is more about the emotions than the stutter. You can redefine yourself. You can change the narrative of who you are and you can reframe events/ conditions Just beca...

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commentr/StutterJan 4, 2018
4 points

Not now, but it did when I was younger. Even the word "stutter" used in any context, like a stutter-step in sports, used to send a dagger up my spine....

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commentr/StutterJan 3, 2018
1 points

I just want to say thank you so much again for your reply and support - it means a lot during this time. So how can we apply that situation to my speech? Meaning me telling them first or having to ac...

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Disclosure & Telling OthersEmployment & CareerShame & Embarrassment
commentr/StutterJan 3, 2018
1 points

Thank you so much. Your words help a lot. Today was about the same, no hang ups per se but I did block horrible on the intercom and that really embarrassed me. I find I am now starting to block on th...

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Shame & EmbarrassmentBlocks & Stoppages
commentr/StutterJan 3, 2018
1 points

I'm embarrassed by it because it makes people not take me seriously as someone who does not stutter. It makes me look inept and awkward. I may just be perceiving it that way but this is how it feels. ...

Emotional ExperienceIdentity & Disability
Shame & EmbarrassmentIdentity & Self-Perception
commentr/StutterJan 3, 2018
1 points

Hey that's very good for you! Great job my friend! I have a few questions. Have people asked or commented about it? Did you tell people? What about if who I want to be involves being outgoing and ...

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Employment & CareerShame & EmbarrassmentHelplessness & Agency
commentr/StutterJan 3, 2018
3 points

Hey. Thanks for your post! Can I ask you how you made progress and what did you do and how long did this take? How do you accept it? Oh my gosh. Same. I hate how it hinders me or stops me from being...

Anticipation & AvoidanceEmotional ExperienceIdentity & Disability
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commentr/StutterJan 3, 2018
1 points

Hi. Thanks so much for your response. I'm so glad. I have no friends and no one to talk to about this stuff with. Oh yeah for sure. Oh gosh. I can't imagine. Yeah that's annoying. Hate that. Can I...

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