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commentr/StutterSep 17, 2016
8 points

I know most of us, myself included, get annoyed when people write off stuttering as just "being nervous" but there is definitely a psychological element. When you're alone, there is no *pressure* to b...

Coping & AdvocacyEmotional ExperienceIdentity & Disability
Mindset shiftAnxiety & Social JudgmentAuthenticity vs. Masking
commentr/StutterSep 15, 2016
2 points

Make sure you smile. They'll remember your smile more than they'll remember your stutter....

Identity & Disability
Authenticity vs. Masking
commentr/StutterSep 14, 2016
4 points

I feel like I took on different personas with different groups of people. With my family, I used to stutter like crazy but that was because they of course knew that I stuttered and that made me not ...

Identity & DisabilityCauses & Variability
Authenticity vs. MaskingIdentity & Self-PerceptionStress & Fight/Flight
commentr/StutterSep 14, 2016
1 points

Wow, thanks a lot. I really appreciate the time and effort you put into that, truly. Today in class, my teacher, who knows I stutter, waited until It was just me who was left. The anxiety just built...

Causes & VariabilityAnticipation & AvoidanceIdentity & Disability
Severity & FluctuationAvoidance & SubstitutionAuthenticity vs. Masking+1 more
commentr/StutterSep 12, 2016
1 points

You accept that right now, you stutter sometimes. It's not good or bad, It's just what it is. And you don't have to accept the unhelpful secondary behaviours, like avoiding words, being shy and overly...

Identity & DisabilityAnticipation & Avoidance
Acceptance & PrideAvoidance & SubstitutionAuthenticity vs. Masking
commentr/StutterSep 8, 2016
1 points

I've stuttered my whole life and I now do stand up comedy. When I was in school I hated giving presentations, but through comedy I have learned that the best way to help with the nerves is to remind y...

Identity & DisabilitySocial & Relationships
Acceptance & PrideAuthenticity vs. MaskingDisclosure & Telling Others
commentr/StutterSep 6, 2016
1 points

Huh, how about that... I thought I was alone on this. Anyway, the first thing I do is socialize with the people I live with, and man it feels good to not worry about stumbling over your own words....

Social & RelationshipsIdentity & Disability
Friendships & BelongingAuthenticity vs. Masking
commentr/StutterSep 6, 2016
2 points

Well, I felt kind of bad about it. I was the longest speech in the room, it was embarrassing, and I think it would help me cope a bit more with how horrible it was. I know that the "f*** what anyone t...

Emotional ExperienceIdentity & Disability
Shame & EmbarrassmentAuthenticity vs. Masking
commentr/StutterSep 6, 2016
2 points

Yea, definitely. For me, it helped astronomically because the worst thing someone can do is try to hide the fact that they stutter. I used to think I can but I realize how big of a foolish endeavor th...

Identity & DisabilityCoping & Advocacy
Authenticity vs. MaskingAcceptance & PrideFluency Techniques
commentr/StutterSep 6, 2016
1 points

>YOU CAN'T KEEP REMEMBERING YOURSELF THAT YOU STUTTER 100% spot on....

Anticipation & AvoidanceIdentity & Disability
Hiding & ConcealmentAuthenticity vs. Masking
commentr/StutterSep 5, 2016
1 points

It's an extremely sensitive topic. As much as I feel you said something great, people will feel insecure about their stutter. Given that it causes them myriad problems. Is it a fascination for you, ...

Emotional ExperienceIdentity & Disability
Shame & EmbarrassmentAuthenticity vs. MaskingAcceptance & Pride
commentr/StutterSep 4, 2016
1 points

This is why you shouldn't hook on those speech managing techniques, it'll move you far away from how natural speech should be like. We become fluent not by controlling but by letting go and letting ou...

Anticipation & AvoidanceCoping & AdvocacyIdentity & Disability
Avoidance & SubstitutionFluency TechniquesAuthenticity vs. Masking
commentr/StutterSep 4, 2016
5 points

Well consider the fact that you are a girl makes it so that you immediately have it easier than most male stutterers. Least in the dating world. Nobody will expect you to make a first move or call you...

Coping & AdvocacyIdentity & Disability
Self-Advocacy & BoundariesMindset shiftAuthenticity vs. Masking
commentr/StutterSep 3, 2016
1 points

I just realised that if i would be walking around with a big imaginary sign over my head that says "i stutter", would make my life so much easier....

Identity & Disability
Identity & Self-PerceptionAuthenticity vs. Masking
commentr/StutterSep 1, 2016
2 points

Same here, with family, it's terrible. Having a random q&a with customers is horrible. But when I'm talking to friends or, as my manager puts it, being an "asshole" or just trolling, my stutter i...

Causes & VariabilityIdentity & Disability
Severity & FluctuationAuthenticity vs. Masking
commentr/StutterSep 1, 2016
1 points

I'm actually really happy that he found someone like you. Like many, I am pretty insecure about it and shrug off the topic when it is brought up - pretty similar to what he did. But it seems like you'...

Identity & DisabilityCommunity & Support
Acceptance & PrideValidation & EmpathyAuthenticity vs. Masking
commentr/StutterAug 31, 2016
4 points

It's hard to explain it in a way that isn't patronizing or fetishizing - I pretty much compared it to when guys like freckles or short girls. It's just something you're born with that I find attractiv...

Identity & Disability
Acceptance & PrideAuthenticity vs. Masking
commentr/StutterAug 31, 2016
10 points

It's a subject best approached and said with some tact. Basically you have to give context and reasoning if you have some. Explain what you mean, or else they may take it to be a sarcastic jab. All de...

Coping & AdvocacyIdentity & Disability
Self-Advocacy & BoundariesAuthenticity vs. Masking
commentr/StutterAug 31, 2016
9 points

Sounds like it went excellently - you even tripped up a few times, just to let them know you were genuine :)...

Identity & Disability
Authenticity vs. MaskingAcceptance & Pride
commentr/StutterAug 26, 2016
1 points

For me at least, I used to try and avoid stuttering by using synonyms and other vocabulary that would transition me away from danger-syllables. Sometimes it would work, and sometimes I would work in m...

Anticipation & AvoidanceIdentity & Disability
Avoidance & SubstitutionAuthenticity vs. Masking