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commentr/StutterJan 8, 2021
67 points

I can't speak for your boyfriend but I can speak for myself as well as many people in this group. A stutter is often the greatest source of self doubt, anxiety, and sadness for anybody that experience...

Anticipation & AvoidanceCauses & VariabilityEmotional Experience
Hiding & ConcealmentStress & Fight/FlightShame & Embarrassment+3 more
commentr/StutterJan 8, 2021
9 points

Oh my god. This has happened to me before. I had issues saying my name so I would say “ah it’s lisa” — someone heard it as “Alisa” and I didn’t have the heart to correct them. Thankfully I seem to hav...

Anticipation & AvoidanceEmotional Experience
Avoidance & SubstitutionShame & Embarrassment
commentr/StutterJan 8, 2021
10 points

from a stutterer's perspective someone telling them that their stutter is cute/sexy/cool/nice will probably make that person feel confused (how can someone like something that's bad to them?), anger (...

Community & SupportEmotional Experience
Validation & EmpathyShame & EmbarrassmentAnxiety & Social Judgment+1 more
commentr/StutterJan 8, 2021
12 points

Not funny but a wierd situation: At my first job, I had a manager who had this very very mild stammer. Every once in a long while he would stammer on a random word. I didn't know then and also he was...

Anticipation & AvoidanceEmotional ExperienceSocial & Relationships
Avoidance & SubstitutionShame & EmbarrassmentAnxiety & Social Judgment+1 more
commentr/StutterJan 8, 2021
9 points

It sucks when you feel like there's so many words you cant say and the alternative just sounds out of place...

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commentr/StutterJan 8, 2021
11 points

Once i went to pick my sister up from school early because we were attending our brother's graduation in another institute. I still have problems saying m-words and her name is manahil. At home i call...

Anticipation & AvoidanceEmotional ExperienceSpeech & Stuttering
Avoidance & SubstitutionShame & EmbarrassmentBlocks & Stoppages
commentr/StutterJan 8, 2021
11 points

people have joked about me forgetting my name everytime i took a 2 second pause before saying my own name. I TOTALLY FEEL YA...

Anticipation & AvoidanceEmotional Experience
Avoidance & SubstitutionShame & Embarrassment
commentr/StutterJan 8, 2021
15 points

One time I acted like I forgot my name when someone said asked me about it because my mind literally said “fuck it. Lets just pretend im dumb”...

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Avoidance & SubstitutionShame & Embarrassment
commentr/StutterJan 8, 2021
33 points

Yes I have one. When I was younger and my stammer was a lot worse some hot chick came up to me and introduced herself and asked me my name. Back then my trick was to use two filler words, ‘em its’, be...

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Avoidance & SubstitutionShame & EmbarrassmentFrustration & Anger
postr/StutterJan 8, 2021
48 points

Just so we can all share a laugh about ourselves, got any funny stories about your stammer?

Just so we can all share a laugh about ourselves, got any funny stories about your stammer? One time when I was working my old bartender job one of the patrons asked what places in the world I wanted ...

Community & SupportEmotional Experience
Humor & Community ToneShame & Embarrassment
commentr/StutterJan 7, 2021
1 points

I've stuttered ever since I remember I could talk. I was in a speech therapy program briefly when I was in kindergarten. But they mostly focused on kids with a lisp. They took me out because they clai...

Therapy & ProfessionalEmotional Experience
Therapy ExperiencesShame & EmbarrassmentSadness & Hopelessness
commentr/StutterJan 6, 2021
14 points

I remember I decided to ask a question in a seminar and I stuttered so bad,a guy next to me said 'should've just shut up.' this was almost a year ago and i still get these random waves of sadness. I k...

Emotional ExperienceIdentity & Disability
Shame & EmbarrassmentSadness & HopelessnessAcceptance & Pride
postr/StutterJan 6, 2021
1 points

I have to say the letter “D” in order to say my last name so 2 people have thought my last name is “De Sanchez” instead of “Sanchez”

I have to say the letter “D” in order to say my last name so 2 people have thought my last name is “De Sanchez” instead of “Sanchez” [deleted]...

Anticipation & AvoidanceEmotional Experience
Feared Words & NamesShame & Embarrassment
commentr/StutterJan 6, 2021
2 points

Exactly. And that's never going to happen right? The world will never just instantly change and everyone will stutter. What it really comes down to is feeling safe to express your authentic self. ...

Identity & DisabilityEmotional Experience
Identity & Self-PerceptionAuthenticity vs. MaskingShame & Embarrassment+1 more
commentr/StutterJan 5, 2021
11 points

Congratulations on your first step. You reached out for help! There's absolutely no need for you to suffer in silence and get swallowed by your fears. If you haven't done it yet, you should open up to...

Community & SupportEmotional ExperienceTherapy & Professional
Advice RequestsShame & EmbarrassmentSeeking Therapy
commentr/StutterJan 5, 2021
2 points

I haven't gone to law school, but I have gone to university and the first half was atrocious. Super painful with hiding and shame. The 2nd half was joyous and social (even though I was stuttering). ...

School & WorkAnticipation & AvoidanceIdentity & Disability
School & Academic LifeHiding & ConcealmentAuthenticity vs. Masking+1 more
commentr/StutterJan 5, 2021
2 points

Lol, I know that feeling. What I have found though, is people with less severe stutters often times have a worse relationship with their stutter. They usually beat themselves up even more. So it's n...

Identity & DisabilityEmotional Experience
Authenticity vs. MaskingShame & EmbarrassmentAnxiety & Social Judgment+1 more
commentr/StutterJan 4, 2021
2 points

True. Makes me feel like just because i stutter, what I said didn't matter...

Emotional ExperienceIdentity & Disability
Shame & EmbarrassmentIdentity & Self-Perception
commentr/StutterJan 4, 2021
1 points

I've sort of tried it twice. Two for two they've walked away whilst I'm still blocking on the hello. There's never been a third attempt, and never will be....

Emotional Experience
Shame & EmbarrassmentAnxiety & Social Judgment
commentr/StutterJan 3, 2021
1 points

I struggle with the same ones. I have a lot of problems with St and D too and don’t listen to your family. My parents do the same thing, and as shitty as it is you can’t focus on their criticism and b...

Anticipation & AvoidanceEmotional Experience
Feared Words & NamesAvoidance & SubstitutionShame & Embarrassment