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commentr/StutterMar 20, 2018
2 points

I understand what you're saying, I think. But I sort of disagree with the term 'blame'. Rather than blaming the person separating the stuttering from the reaction gives them the opportunity to exert c...

Identity & Disability
Authenticity vs. MaskingIdentity & Self-Perception
commentr/StutterMar 19, 2018
2 points

Sure, there's typically much effort spent in stuttering. But I don't see how we can make it all about something we shouldn't be doing. Or at least, I think that's missing the point. We can address our...

Identity & Disability
Authenticity vs. MaskingMedicalization / Neurodiversity
commentr/StutterMar 19, 2018
3 points

>Its our own attempt to avoid stuttering that makes everything worse I'd urge you to not think like that. It makes it seem like something's our fault. But it's not our fault. It's stuttering. It's...

Identity & Disability
Authenticity vs. MaskingMedicalization / Neurodiversity
commentr/StutterMar 18, 2018
2 points

I'm completely confident with my stutter but I feel the same way. I was in a speech therapy group for stutterers in school and I couldn't stand it. My stutter is very mild so listening to others w...

Identity & Disability
Authenticity vs. MaskingIdentity & Self-PerceptionAcceptance & Pride
commentr/StutterMar 18, 2018
1 points

I completely understand, happens to me when I watch someone who has a speech difficulty, is clearly sweating, or even just "embarassing" themselves. As already stated by someone else, I think it truly...

Emotional ExperienceIdentity & Disability
Shame & EmbarrassmentAnxiety & Social JudgmentAuthenticity vs. Masking+1 more
commentr/StutterMar 17, 2018
2 points

It's very likely not the same that's happening when a non-stutterer listens to a stutterer, so don't worry, there's very likely nothing hypocritical about it (and if so, maybe only in relation to a ve...

Community & SupportEmotional ExperienceIdentity & Disability
Validation & EmpathyAnxiety & Social JudgmentAuthenticity vs. Masking+1 more
commentr/StutterMar 17, 2018
3 points

I'm exactly like this. Hearing other people stutter makes me so annoyed. I know it's just projection and I totally blame myself but we just have to work on it....

Emotional ExperienceIdentity & Disability
Anxiety & Social JudgmentAuthenticity vs. MaskingIdentity & Self-Perception
commentr/StutterMar 17, 2018
5 points

I understand. Watching or hearing people stutter makes me uncomfortable because I'm like "is what what I sound like?!" Don't worry, I feel that way to......

Emotional ExperienceIdentity & Disability
Anxiety & Social JudgmentAuthenticity vs. MaskingIdentity & Self-Perception
commentr/StutterMar 17, 2018
2 points

Keep playing the sport if you genuinely like it. But distance yourself from these people because they don't seem that high quality of friends. Also fuck this clique. Cliques are for people in high s...

Anticipation & AvoidanceCoping & AdvocacyEmotional Experience
Avoidance & SubstitutionHiding & ConcealmentSelf-Advocacy & Boundaries+3 more
commentr/StutterMar 17, 2018
3 points

Yeah, I do understand it a bit. When I see ppl stutter on tv or on YouTube it's confronting, bc this is what others see when I stutter.........

Emotional ExperienceIdentity & Disability
Anxiety & Social JudgmentAuthenticity vs. MaskingIdentity & Self-Perception
commentr/StutterMar 17, 2018
22 points

What you're experiencing is projection. You project your own feelings of your stutter towards other stutterers, which is why you find it uncomfortable to watch or listen. When you have a better se...

Emotional ExperienceIdentity & Disability
Anxiety & Social JudgmentAuthenticity vs. MaskingIdentity & Self-Perception
postr/StutterMar 16, 2018
11 points

I only stutter when I think I'm going to stutter.

I only stutter when I think I'm going to stutter. If I'm not thinking about stuttering at all, I don't stutter, but the moment I start thinking that I'll stutter, that's when I stutter. Its so frustra...

Anticipation & AvoidanceEmotional ExperienceIdentity & Disability
Avoidance & SubstitutionOverthinking & MonitoringShame & Embarrassment+3 more
commentr/StutterMar 13, 2018
2 points

Always feel like it's not the real me when avoiding or make tricks, that's why now I'm trying to reduce all tricks and avoidance, in order to be the real me. But, it isn't easy at all....

Identity & Disability
Authenticity vs. Masking
commentr/StutterMar 13, 2018
1 points

Thank you for your comment. My goal is to achieve fluency by not avoiding at all, nor make tricks to be fluent....

Identity & Disability
Authenticity vs. Masking
commentr/StutterMar 12, 2018
3 points

“Not avoiding” isn’t a strategy “not to stutter”. In fact, it’s the opposite. Fluency strategies by definition hide or prevent stuttering from occurring. The point of not avoiding is you’re being your...

Anticipation & AvoidanceIdentity & Disability
Avoidance & SubstitutionAuthenticity vs. Masking
postr/StutterMar 10, 2018
1 points

You get a decision to be able to talk out loud whatever you say in your mind, but it’s permanent. Would you take it?

You get a decision to be able to talk out loud whatever you say in your mind, but it’s permanent. Would you take it? Honestly the way I talk in my mind is so fluent and charismatic I’d be tempted to t...

Identity & DisabilityEmotional Experience
Authenticity vs. MaskingHelplessness & Agency
commentr/StutterMar 10, 2018
2 points

You're looking at it from the wrong perspective. Look at it as an opportunity to catch up with people and meet new ones. Put your stutter out there, don't be afraid of it. If it doesn't bother you it ...

Identity & DisabilitySocial & Relationships
Acceptance & PrideAuthenticity vs. MaskingListener Reactions
commentr/StutterMar 10, 2018
5 points

Being open about it is HUGE. I was ashamed of my stutter for the longest time and preferred to pretend it didn't exist. Once I acknowledged it and accepted it as a part of my identity, stuttering co...

Identity & Disability
Acceptance & PrideIdentity & Self-PerceptionAuthenticity vs. Masking
commentr/StutterMar 10, 2018
4 points

>(I hide my stutter fairly well) Question: Why do you feel like you have to hide your stutter? I think the constant struggle to not show our stutter is likely worse for us than actually doing the...

Identity & DisabilityAnticipation & Avoidance
Authenticity vs. MaskingHiding & Concealment
postr/StutterMar 9, 2018
27 points

Rant: it frustrates me how stuttering is less accepted in society because it's not visible like being in a wheelchair

Rant: it frustrates me how stuttering is less accepted in society because it's not visible like being in a wheelchair Basicly the title. For whatever reason people just think I'm weird or fucking with...

Identity & DisabilityEmotional Experience
Stigma & BullyingShame & EmbarrassmentHelplessness & Agency+1 more