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commentr/StutterFeb 16, 2022
5 points

I know. It happens to me too. I’ve tried both routes (avoiding it and steering into it). It’s frustrating but it gets easier the more you do it. People will think more highly of you if you always try....

Anticipation & AvoidanceIdentity & Disability
Avoidance & SubstitutionHiding & ConcealmentAcceptance & Pride
commentr/StutterFeb 16, 2022
3 points

I am the exact same way! I avoid meeting new people like crazy. It’s really sad because my social life has suffered and same for my children. They want to have sleepovers, which requires meeting the p...

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Avoidance & SubstitutionHiding & ConcealmentAnxiety & Social Judgment+1 more
commentr/StutterFeb 16, 2022
2 points

I cheat! I use my business card all the time. I know it's a type of avoidance but for me it's also way more efficient....

Anticipation & Avoidance
Avoidance & SubstitutionHiding & Concealment
commentr/StutterFeb 16, 2022
12 points

My take on this: When you are all by yourself and talking to yourself you don't have to prove to yourself that you can speak fluently. When you are around others we want to fight our stutter, and we w...

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commentr/StutterFeb 15, 2022
2 points

try your best, dont be too hard on your self. In the end, this thing is out of our control, but we cannot let it control us! remember that...

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Hope & MotivationHiding & Concealment
commentr/StutterFeb 15, 2022
2 points

my parents are quite ableist and think ppl with disabilities or mental disorders are doing it for attention, and i think they would think im faking. I mask way harder at home because theres more conse...

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commentr/StutterFeb 15, 2022
1 points

i personally act the other way, i really really try to mask my stutter at home because my family is ableist, but at school im not as pressured to do so, i still mask it but not as much because masking...

Anticipation & AvoidanceIdentity & Disability
Hiding & ConcealmentAuthenticity vs. Masking
commentr/StutterFeb 15, 2022
5 points

Good for you!! I also took the plunge at a call center job back in 2008, it was right when my stutter was getting pretty bad again. It was rough at first I'm not going to lie! But after awhile I start...

School & WorkAnticipation & Avoidance
Employment & CareerHiding & Concealment
commentr/StutterFeb 15, 2022
13 points

How severe is your stutter? Unfortunately you have to live through it, the art of non communication has been the story of my life.. been classed as 'shy, a loner the quiet one' all part of my...

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Hiding & ConcealmentHelplessness & Agency
commentr/StutterFeb 15, 2022
2 points

Definitely. I talk pretty fluently most of the time so I've been able to hide the stutter during some interviews. It caused a ton of extra pressure that I didn't need. Stuttering is something that I d...

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commentr/StutterFeb 15, 2022
1 points

Pretty similar to yours. But my stuttering is not that severe so in most of cases I am not willing to and not necessary to self-disclose my stuttering to interviewers....

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commentr/StutterFeb 15, 2022
3 points

Let them know before hand and don't care what anyone says, speak however you speak and they'll get used to it...

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Disclosure & Telling OthersHiding & Concealment
commentr/StutterFeb 15, 2022
7 points

100% this. I developed so much shame surrounding my stutter that I am still working on it today. OP, if you can, speak to the people at the American Institute of Stuttering - they will be able to poin...

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Shame & EmbarrassmentHiding & Concealment
commentr/StutterFeb 14, 2022
1 points

I like using _stutter_ instead of _speech impediment_. I say something like, "before we start I wanted to let you know I stutter, so you may hear me pause or repeat words. If you have any questions or...

Social & RelationshipsAnticipation & Avoidance
Disclosure & Telling OthersHiding & Concealment
commentr/StutterFeb 14, 2022
1 points

I wouldn’t say i tackled it.i just try to be more confident in myself and i stutter less. Of course it’s different for everyone...

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commentr/StutterFeb 14, 2022
1 points

I really relate to having issues with eye contact. When i walk around my job through people i don't really know i NEVER make eye contact with them, i just stare into the floor or something because I h...

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Hiding & ConcealmentAnxiety & Social Judgment
commentr/StutterFeb 14, 2022
3 points

I used to work at a call centre. My stutter didn't come up in the interview anyway but at least in my country they would not be allowed to deny you based on that, most big companies use a score based ...

School & WorkAnticipation & Avoidance
Employment & CareerHiding & Concealment
commentr/StutterFeb 13, 2022
2 points

At first I thought this would be dumb, but I think it's really important to get more comfortable with it. To be honest, I was cringing while watching that and I guess that is part of my problem, the ...

Emotional ExperienceAnticipation & Avoidance
Anxiety & Social JudgmentHiding & Concealment
commentr/StutterFeb 13, 2022
2 points

Yes!!! That's what I did for years. I practiced my name , greetings, and other salutations. I desensitized myself from all the fear and anxiety because after saying all those phrases and my name f...

Coping & AdvocacyAnticipation & Avoidance
Voluntary Stuttering & ExposureHiding & Concealment
commentr/StutterFeb 12, 2022
2 points

As someone who has a covert stammer, the effects of which are not visible to listeners, I am really heartened to see you reach out for guidance and advice. I had enormous difficulty in school and was ...

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