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commentr/StutterJul 23, 2021
3 points

Think of it more as being non-verbally in-tune with the idea you want to convey. When people lie, it's probably because they want to lie, not because of the fact they're unaware of the exact way they'...

Identity & Disability
Authenticity vs. Masking
commentr/StutterJul 23, 2021
3 points

You're right. Without all that I did before to get rid of most of the shame of stuttering, I doubt I would have been able to do what I do now at the rate I've done it. People have their own journeys a...

Anticipation & AvoidanceCoping & AdvocacyIdentity & Disability
Avoidance & SubstitutionMindset shiftAuthenticity vs. Masking
commentr/StutterJul 23, 2021
9 points

I think your absolutely right, but I might disagree with the "effortless" part. I try to meditate daily and it definitely takes effort to wake up 30 minutes earlier each day to make the time. Likewise...

Anticipation & AvoidanceCoping & AdvocacyIdentity & Disability
Avoidance & SubstitutionOverthinking & MonitoringMindset shift+2 more
postr/StutterJul 23, 2021
32 points

Learning to think like a fluent speaker has made it all better

Learning to think like a fluent speaker has made it all better As stutterers, we're almost always in the habit of thinking about the words we're going to say, often anticipating that we might stutter....

Anticipation & AvoidanceCoping & AdvocacyIdentity & Disability
Overthinking & MonitoringMindset shiftMindfulness & Breathing+2 more
commentr/StutterJul 21, 2021
2 points

We want to express ourselves and stutter can make this very difficult. We change the way we speak or what we say as avoidance strategy. At the beginning of this year I made self expression my topic o...

Anticipation & AvoidanceEmotional ExperienceIdentity & Disability
Avoidance & SubstitutionHope & MotivationAuthenticity vs. Masking
commentr/StutterJul 21, 2021
1 points

I could see how it might not resonate with you, but I am a covert stutterer who rarely stutters (Like I said I recently went a whole month without stuttering) so this mindset for me isn’t that terribl...

Anticipation & AvoidanceCoping & AdvocacyIdentity & Disability
Avoidance & SubstitutionMindset shiftAuthenticity vs. Masking
commentr/StutterJul 21, 2021
1 points

Hey! My personal opinion.. that way of dealing with your speech doesn't resonate with me as you are putting a hyperfocus on your stutter which in turn often makes you value yourself based on the sever...

Anticipation & AvoidanceIdentity & Disability
Avoidance & SubstitutionOverthinking & MonitoringAuthenticity vs. Masking
commentr/StutterJul 19, 2021
1 points

The best way through it is to be open about it. Hiding stuttering is what stuttering is. When you tense up trying to force words out because you’re afraid you might stutter is actually what’s causing ...

Anticipation & AvoidanceIdentity & Disability
Avoidance & SubstitutionAuthenticity vs. Masking
commentr/StutterJul 19, 2021
1 points

As weird as this sounds when you try to fix your stutter you are actually adding to the problem. The cure is to just be ok with the stutter and once you start flowing through stuttered words you bec...

Anticipation & AvoidanceCoping & AdvocacyIdentity & Disability
Avoidance & SubstitutionVoluntary Stuttering & ExposureAuthenticity vs. Masking
commentr/StutterJul 19, 2021
1 points

The best way to get through stuttering is to be open about it. Just be you, let them know, and words will come easier than if you try and mask it....

Anticipation & AvoidanceIdentity & Disability
Avoidance & SubstitutionAuthenticity vs. Masking
commentr/StutterJul 19, 2021
1 points

Speech muscles are very coordinated and flow loosely as we speak. When we stutter or stammer we are over-tensing these muscles which restrict and stop air flow. There is no words if air isn’t flowing ...

Anticipation & AvoidanceCoping & AdvocacyIdentity & Disability
Avoidance & SubstitutionVoluntary Stuttering & ExposureAuthenticity vs. Masking
commentr/StutterJul 19, 2021
1 points

I see a mix of comments in this thread.. I've experienced this in a different manner/context. I grew up stuttering pretty severely. Over time with practice, therapy, relaxation exercises etc (and prob...

Causes & VariabilityIdentity & Disability
Severity & FluctuationAuthenticity vs. MaskingIdentity & Self-Perception
commentr/StutterJul 19, 2021
1 points

I don't know of this phenomena but you should do what I did, I just straight up told my friends (the ones who would make fun of me) that I don't like my speech or myself in general to be made fun of a...

Coping & AdvocacyIdentity & Disability
Self-Advocacy & BoundariesAuthenticity vs. Masking
commentr/StutterJul 18, 2021
1 points

Control = struggle. What if you didn't control and let your stutters happen? Blocks aren't a natural stuttering behavior. Tension isn't a natural stuttering behavior. I would recommend finding a thera...

Anticipation & AvoidanceCoping & AdvocacyIdentity & Disability
Avoidance & SubstitutionVoluntary Stuttering & ExposureAuthenticity vs. Masking
commentr/StutterJul 18, 2021
3 points

Learn to get past your shame and let yourself stutter. What if you had no anxiety, worry, or fear around stuttering? If you said everything you wanted to say and if a stutter happened you let it happe...

Anticipation & AvoidanceCoping & AdvocacyIdentity & Disability
Avoidance & SubstitutionVoluntary Stuttering & ExposureAuthenticity vs. Masking+1 more
commentr/StutterJul 18, 2021
2 points

I can relate to your experience, talking about how its linked to your mental health feels super close to my understanding of my stammer. I spent a great deal of my childhood and early 20s, just not re...

Coping & AdvocacyIdentity & Disability
Mindfulness & BreathingAuthenticity vs. Masking
commentr/StutterJul 17, 2021
5 points

Not everyone in life is dealt the same hand of cards. Yes there is always someone in the world who has it worse, but in my opinion that's a bad mentality to have. You can't just push aside your probl...

Emotional ExperienceIdentity & Disability
Helplessness & AgencyAuthenticity vs. Masking
commentr/StutterJul 17, 2021
2 points

>a lot of non-stuttering people are terrified of phone calls too. That's exactly what I've started to notice lately. A lot of non-stutterers prefer texting over phone calls so you're right, we're ...

Community & SupportIdentity & Disability
Validation & EmpathyAuthenticity vs. Masking
commentr/StutterJul 16, 2021
1 points

Dive a bit deeper into that. Why are you anxious? Why aren’t you confident? Is it the people you’re around? Could you improve or practice anything to increase your confidence and decrease the anxiety?...

Emotional ExperienceIdentity & Disability
Anxiety & Social JudgmentAuthenticity vs. Masking
commentr/StutterJul 16, 2021
1 points

that might also be a factor tbh, i've been in therapy for almost a year and my stutter has improved a bit, didnt know it could be related. but also my mom has experienced a lot of trauma but still doe...

Causes & VariabilityIdentity & Disability
Trauma & PsychologicalAuthenticity vs. Masking