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commentr/StutterDec 17, 2022
2 points

I don’t think I can even join the Medical department and I’m in the same case, family says stuttering doesn’t define you but if I can’t even say my name or even say happy birthday how can I even expla...

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commentr/StutterDec 17, 2022
1 points

Yeah it's ruined my life. I'm the same way with the drinking. I don't even like drinking but it's the only way I can be around strangers. If I'm sober I get like 20 second blocks and nobody wants to t...

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commentr/StutterDec 17, 2022
3 points

Unfortunately this is correct. I'm 31 and had a extremely hard life on top of severe stuttering and I'm surprised I haven't tried to commit suicide yet. Having a severe stutter as a young man no matte...

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commentr/StutterDec 17, 2022
5 points

Yup. Therapy didn't really help for me, I still stutter a lot when I am tired or stressed out. I too panicked to do phone calls etc. But the thing that helped me, is just to do it and every time it ge...

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commentr/StutterDec 17, 2022
4 points

Do you want to be a laborer, or do you have bigger dreams? Nothing wrong with being a laborer if that is what you want. But if you are choosing that because of your stutter, you are going to be unhap...

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commentr/StutterDec 17, 2022
8 points

I think what he’s hinting at is you need to take ownership over the problem and not spend your life basically accepting / being mad you can’t speak on the phone and stuttering defines your entire exis...

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commentr/StutterDec 17, 2022
21 points

I used to walk 20 mins to a store just to find out they didn't have what I wanted because I was too afraid to make a phone call. Mild or severe you're not alone. It's your fault if you do nothing ab...

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postr/StutterDec 17, 2022
94 points

As a severe stutterer I hate when people with mild stuttering give us lectures on acceptance

As a severe stutterer I hate when people with mild stuttering give us lectures on acceptance I can’t relate to anything they say and the toxic positivity when someone who has an occasional stuttering ...

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commentr/StutterDec 15, 2022
2 points

Edit - Nevermind… for some reason, you are gatekeeping *what stuttering is*! I described the following - ordering a tuna melt when you wanted a hamburger *because of panic blocking* Begging someone ...

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commentr/StutterDec 15, 2022
1 points

Yea I’ve struggled with suicidal thoughts for around ten years not all due to my stutter but the stutter is a large contributor. Especially breaking into EMS and firefighting, I constantly feel inferi...

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commentr/StutterDec 15, 2022
16 points

Not suicide , but I have lost the will to live a few times, if that makes sense? It just gets so exhausting having to deal with some of this stuff day in and day out....

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commentr/StutterDec 14, 2022
2 points

There is definitely a role playing part played with toastmasters but you can discover new things about yourself. Are you not tired of living such a small and constrained life?...

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commentr/StutterDec 13, 2022
1 points

Doesnt always mean moving to a new city but changing jobs, meeting new friends through activities/community involvement, testing out dates here and there. Theres always options, its just finding the w...

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postr/StutterDec 11, 2022
28 points

tired and frustrated

tired and frustrated i just want to talk normal like everybody else, sucks that i can’t do a simple human skill. every morning i wake up telling myself today is going to be the day i stop knowing tha...

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commentr/StutterDec 9, 2022
1 points

>"I can devote all my time to learn and help him but I don't know what to do." In my opinion I suggest: ask your brother what his **behavioral problem** is exactly: a) does he stop breathing out b...

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postr/StutterDec 8, 2022
41 points

how to find a job with a severe stutter? I'm worried about that

how to find a job with a severe stutter? I'm worried about that I'm 20F. Currently I'm studying at University. 2,5 years behind, after 1,5 years I'll finish it. It's very hard for me to study with sev...

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commentr/StutterDec 8, 2022
1 points

> My stutter causes me to miss out on so many opportunities in life It's a hard lesson to learn, but we allow our stutter to make us miss out on life. A lot of it stems from fear. Take a risk an...

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commentr/StutterDec 8, 2022
1 points

I deal with this too. I’m 24. I try my best, but also I try not being to hard on myself. It’s not our fault. That said, don’t let the feeling of helplessness discourage you....

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commentr/StutterDec 7, 2022
1 points

I used to block and I worked on it and now I no longer block. The truth is blocking is something *you* are doing, not something happening to you. It feels like it's beyond your control, but it's not....

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postr/StutterDec 7, 2022
3 points

Finding Hope in Life

Finding Hope in Life Hi, I’m in high school right now and I have a stutter for more than a decade now. My stutter has been very severe lately and I was wondering how to have hope in life and keep goin...

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