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commentr/StutterJun 27, 2022
3 points

Don't let your stutter keep you from finding someone to love. Oddly all the women I've been with find my stutter cute even though I hate it. I stutter pretty bad. Difficult to get through a sentence ...

Social & RelationshipsIdentity & DisabilityEmotional Experience
Dating & RomanceAcceptance & PrideHope & Motivation+1 more
commentr/StutterJun 27, 2022
2 points

This is what's going to keep you suffering. Stuttering is part of who you are. The fluent you isn't the real you and the stutter you isn't the fake you. They're in fact the same person....

Identity & Disability
Identity & Self-PerceptionAuthenticity vs. Masking
commentr/StutterJun 26, 2022
9 points

For me, it’s definitely a confidence issue, perfectionism, caring what others think, etc. It’s 99% mental and 1% breathing. When I was in my early 20s, I was making good money, partying, almost livin...

Emotional ExperienceAnticipation & AvoidanceIdentity & Disability
Anxiety & Social JudgmentOverthinking & MonitoringAuthenticity vs. Masking
commentr/StutterJun 26, 2022
7 points

I've done this. Its almost taking on another persona. I do it in job interviews. It wears off for me after a while. Lol. Then I have to come up with another one. 😆...

Anticipation & AvoidanceIdentity & Disability
Avoidance & SubstitutionAuthenticity vs. Masking
commentr/StutterJun 25, 2022
1 points

It's not necessarily caring less for me. I still care, but started to shift my mentality towards it into thinking what do i care about ***more***? Do i care about the teasing, the facial expressions,...

Anticipation & AvoidanceIdentity & DisabilitySocial & Relationships
Avoidance & SubstitutionAuthenticity vs. MaskingDating & Romance
commentr/StutterJun 24, 2022
7 points

Ironically everything you say are actions that you do to avoid stuttering. Stuttering is not what got you into this situation, but the fact that you are avoiding it. I know stuttering can suck. But it...

Anticipation & AvoidanceCoping & AdvocacyIdentity & Disability
Avoidance & SubstitutionMindset shiftAuthenticity vs. Masking
commentr/StutterJun 24, 2022
9 points

Dude I have all the reason to be shy😭.If I say what I want to say and I stutter the timing and delivery is going to be so off I wished I never even said what I said.If I don’t say what I wanted to sa...

Anticipation & AvoidanceEmotional ExperienceIdentity & Disability
Avoidance & SubstitutionShame & EmbarrassmentAuthenticity vs. Masking
postr/StutterJun 22, 2022
7 points

Best advice I’ve ever received

Best advice I’ve ever received So after a few months of being in this group i have learned quite a lot from you all so thank you for that. So i thought i might share a little advice myself. Stop carin...

Identity & DisabilityCoping & Advocacy
Identity & Self-PerceptionMindset shiftAuthenticity vs. Masking
postr/StutterJun 17, 2022
54 points

I'm doing things I never thought about doing.

I'm doing things I never thought about doing. About 2 months ago I went to a bakery for the first time in my life, and I have been there every week since then. One month later and I'm getting food a...

Identity & DisabilityCauses & Variability
Acceptance & PrideAuthenticity vs. MaskingSeverity & Fluctuation
commentr/StutterJun 15, 2022
3 points

Hmm. How long was the block or how long was it expected to be? I’ve been there, and I always feel better knowing I said what I wanted to say but stuttered rather than avoiding a stutter and not saying...

Identity & DisabilityCoping & Advocacy
Authenticity vs. MaskingSelf-Advocacy & Boundaries
commentr/StutterJun 13, 2022
2 points

Hopefully you haven’t already had the interview, it’s going great actually. Now that I have my set phrases, it’s a whole lot easier for me to approach my tables w a kind of relaxed vibe and I don’t r...

School & WorkIdentity & Disability
Employment & CareerAuthenticity vs. MaskingAcceptance & Pride
commentr/StutterJun 12, 2022
5 points

Do it. Don't stress over just do it. I graduated with a masters degree in Industrial/Organizational Psychology and I gave so many solo and group presentations. I practiced and practiced and I did ...

Anticipation & AvoidanceSchool & WorkIdentity & Disability
Preparation & RehearsalSchool & Academic LifeAuthenticity vs. Masking
commentr/StutterJun 11, 2022
2 points

That is a golden response, Vulnerability, everybody struggles with their Egos getting in the way rather that being physically or emotionally. Imagine all the potential matches that people with speech ...

Community & SupportCoping & AdvocacyIdentity & Disability
Validation & EmpathySelf-Advocacy & BoundariesAuthenticity vs. Masking
commentr/StutterJun 11, 2022
1 points

I dont know her interest level in you but if she is more than willing to socialize with you through text and generally likes you, go and pursue it now. One thing about your speech, if she can look pas...

Emotional ExperienceIdentity & DisabilitySocial & Relationships
Hope & MotivationAuthenticity vs. MaskingDating & Romance
commentr/StutterJun 10, 2022
1 points

Yes at college I was dating a girl who’s best friend and roommate at the time also stuttered. He was the first person I saw be open about their stutter. I was still in hiding....

Anticipation & AvoidanceIdentity & Disability
Hiding & ConcealmentAuthenticity vs. Masking
commentr/StutterJun 10, 2022
2 points

Ok, I highly recommend the books that I mentioned above. Avoidance of words creates trauma in our body, and this trauma causes the stuttering to increase. And I think you need to do everything you ...

Anticipation & AvoidanceEmotional ExperienceIdentity & Disability
Avoidance & SubstitutionHope & MotivationAuthenticity vs. Masking
commentr/StutterJun 10, 2022
1 points

Umm I dont try to hide my stutter but ofcourse I change words while talking and avoid talking to not get the embarrassment but where there is needed to talk I talk no matter what but my bad speech blo...

Anticipation & AvoidanceEmotional ExperienceIdentity & Disability
Avoidance & SubstitutionHiding & ConcealmentAnxiety & Social Judgment+3 more
commentr/StutterJun 9, 2022
2 points

I just started a new job and I tell everyone who I will be working with. If it’s the first time speaking to someone on the team or something who I will work with again in the future, I always bring it...

Anticipation & AvoidanceIdentity & Disability
Avoidance & SubstitutionAuthenticity vs. Masking
commentr/StutterJun 9, 2022
2 points

I still bet it’s related to your internal desire to break eye contact. Honestly, if you understand why it’s vital to hold eye contact, and practice it in less stressful situations, you’ll be able to ...

Emotional ExperienceIdentity & Disability
Anxiety & Social JudgmentAuthenticity vs. Masking
commentr/StutterJun 9, 2022
1 points

Sorry for my bad grammar btw. I am on a small phone bullied by this damn autocorrect thing, dry red eyes like E.T. that give me instant glaucoma and not to forget my shaking and burn ed out fingers th...

Identity & Disability
Authenticity vs. Masking