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postr/StutterJul 29, 2019
32 points

Talking to self to help stuttering

Talking to self to help stuttering I’ve been stuttering since I was 11 (I’m 17 now) and it has certainly made my life more difficult. I also picked up the habit of talking to myself when alone a few y...

Anticipation & AvoidanceCauses & VariabilityCoping & Advocacy
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commentr/StutterJul 29, 2019
1 points

Yes, I’ve mainly just gotten used to it. I still do have issues with people cutting in because they think I’m done talking when I’m not. In those kind of situations, I follow up via email....

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postr/StutterJul 29, 2019
4 points

Advice?

Advice? Sorry if this is a little long, I just wanted to provide some context. Towards the last couple years of Primary School and throughout High School, I've had a stutter. This was especially bad ...

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commentr/StutterJul 29, 2019
1 points

If your slutter is not really bad I dont think that you should worry. I wont at a rent a car and Im speaking with customers always. Some days are bad, some are perfect. I feel like I learned to contro...

Anticipation & AvoidanceSchool & Work
Avoidance & SubstitutionEmployment & Career
commentr/StutterJul 28, 2019
3 points

Hi! Thank you so much for taking the time to reply. People who have no stutter don’t understand how difficult it is living life with it so I totally understand your struggle. You didn’t just rant, yo...

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commentr/StutterJul 28, 2019
1 points

We'll all have to go through this one day, i don't know anything about your personal life so I'll talk about what worked for me and maybe it will apply to you. First, can you choose a decent job? One ...

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commentr/StutterJul 28, 2019
3 points

Question: Are you substituting with words that you perceive to be easier in terms of stuttering?...

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commentr/StutterJul 28, 2019
6 points

I agree, I'm far more open and chatty when I'm talking through text than I am through speech. But also, I think if I ever do fix my stutter that would only be the beginning of solving that issue, I'...

Identity & DisabilityAnticipation & Avoidance
Identity & Self-PerceptionAvoidance & Substitution
commentr/StutterJul 27, 2019
4 points

Yeah, and it definitely sucks. However, I feel like what you are specifically describing has been a large incentive of mine to get better at speaking; I want to express myself more and feel like mysel...

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commentr/StutterJul 27, 2019
4 points

I was going to say the same thing about stutter being a filter and will add that my (now) spouse told me how embarrassed she was when we first met and we went to a subway sandwich restaurant.. Any oth...

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commentr/StutterJul 27, 2019
5 points

Yeah it's really hard. I have only been in one relationship and the girl was going to be a speech pathologist so it worked out a bit. But yeah ever since our break up it's been hard to date other peop...

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commentr/StutterJul 27, 2019
15 points

Stutter is a great filter: only decent characters will date you. That is the good part. The bad part is that every relationship requires talking and even if I don't stutter too much, I find talking ex...

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commentr/StutterJul 27, 2019
10 points

Hey, you probably have started realizing that overall confidence and speaking are tightly connected so my suggestion is to start working on it. Also, it is a on-going never ending process, I'd sugg...

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commentr/StutterJul 27, 2019
13 points

I think with communication being essential to all relationships, both romantic and non-romantic, stuttering makes it more difficult. My ex was really good at comforting me when I had bad stuttering ep...

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commentr/StutterJul 27, 2019
12 points

Yeah... it's really hard to find the right one. Tbh alot of people will be embarrassed by you, or being around you. They're the ones you don't need. The ones you do need are the ones who will listen t...

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commentr/StutterJul 27, 2019
5 points

Sometimes you just have to go for it. If you keep having this mentality you won’t get no where and won’t progress. You can’t let stuttering hold you back. I stutter when I talk to customers at my job ...

Anticipation & AvoidanceSchool & Work
Avoidance & SubstitutionEmployment & Career
commentr/StutterJul 27, 2019
3 points

Practise. Go to a fastfood chain and order something, ask people for directions, etc... Once you get used to talking to people, you'll seem to care less about your stutter. Best of luck, bro!...

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postr/StutterJul 27, 2019
12 points

Too scared to talk to people

Too scared to talk to people As a 16 year old guy in high school, I’ve recently tried to get a job. I’ve been applying for a couple months to multiple businesses, but I’ve never followed up with any o...

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commentr/StutterJul 26, 2019
2 points

You put it into words better than me that's for sure haha. When people meet me they usually have this impression that I'm quite articulate and well spoken, so when I do get stuck on an F and have to s...

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Avoidance & SubstitutionShame & EmbarrassmentAnxiety & Social Judgment
commentr/StutterJul 26, 2019
2 points

I know that feeling. I also can't mantain a conversation. But, there's nothing I can say besides that. I wish I could so I could help myself too....

Anticipation & AvoidanceSocial & Relationships
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