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commentr/StutterApr 3, 2024
3 points

My husband and I read our vows to each other privately rather than at the ceremony. So instead, I just had very small things to say “I, blank, take this man to be my….” Speak slowly! If you’re ner...

Anticipation & AvoidanceCauses & VariabilitySocial & Relationships
Avoidance & SubstitutionSituational VariabilityDisclosure & Telling Others
commentr/StutterApr 3, 2024
4 points

If you have an officiant have them read out the vow then you repeat it. Sometimes hearing a phrase or sentence then repeating it is a lot easier than saying it off the cuff...

Anticipation & Avoidance
Avoidance & SubstitutionPreparation & Rehearsal
commentr/StutterApr 3, 2024
3 points

screw them just make sure its a day to remember, but keep in mind, practice on what are you going to say if there is vows or whatever and if it possible make it with words you dont stutter with, lastl...

Anticipation & AvoidanceIdentity & Disability
Avoidance & SubstitutionPreparation & RehearsalAcceptance & Pride
commentr/StutterApr 3, 2024
3 points

Hey Congratulations in the first place. I got married 18 years ago. Can relate to what you said. What helped me was the following. A scotch whisky just beforehand for dutch courage I chose to hav...

Anticipation & AvoidanceCoping & AdvocacyMeds & Substances
Avoidance & SubstitutionPreparation & RehearsalFluency Techniques+2 more
commentr/StutterApr 3, 2024
3 points

My mom did something awful but funny to my dad. My dad was married once before so he knew the drill. She told him he wouldn’t have to speak at the wedding. Rehearsal it was only in laws and his family...

Anticipation & AvoidanceSocial & Relationships
Avoidance & SubstitutionPreparation & RehearsalDisclosure & Telling Others
commentr/StutterApr 3, 2024
3 points

So which is it? Are you thinking of faking a throat injury, or has it "always worked for you?" [As you said in another thread six days ago?](https://www.reddit.com/r/Stutter/comments/1bpk2q9/comment/k...

Anticipation & AvoidanceIdentity & Disability
Avoidance & SubstitutionAuthenticity vs. MaskingAcceptance & Pride
commentr/StutterApr 3, 2024
3 points

Relationships are the only thing I’ve never struggled in. Been married for 8 years now. It’s very rare to meet someone that stutter. My dad stutters and I’ve met 3 other people. The most recent was th...

Anticipation & AvoidanceCauses & VariabilityEmotional Experience
Avoidance & SubstitutionHiding & ConcealmentSeverity & Fluctuation+3 more
commentr/StutterApr 2, 2024
3 points

Stay clear of the words that cause you to stutter the most. the words that i mostly struggle with are a,e,i,u,n . So if you don't put that words that you struggle with in your vows then i think you wi...

Anticipation & Avoidance
Avoidance & SubstitutionPreparation & Rehearsal
commentr/StutterApr 2, 2024
17 points

you treat stuttering like it’s illegal. Whats the words case scenario? Blocking for 1 straight minutes in front of everyone, then what? I am a severe stutterer i block on literally each word and i do...

Anticipation & AvoidanceIdentity & DisabilitySpeech & Stuttering
Avoidance & SubstitutionAcceptance & PrideBlocks & Stoppages
commentr/StutterApr 2, 2024
12 points

Are you reciting vows that you wrote yourself? That's what my wife and I did, so I practiced, practiced, practiced what I had written. It was muscle memory by the time I was up there, and it went pret...

Anticipation & AvoidanceCauses & VariabilitySocial & Relationships
Avoidance & SubstitutionPreparation & RehearsalPropositionality & Weight+1 more
postr/StutterApr 2, 2024
44 points

Getting Married

Getting Married I’m getting married in 2 days time (Thursday), but I’m extremely nervous about speaking in front of people due to my stutter. Don’t get me wrong, I feel fortunate that my stutter is al...

Anticipation & AvoidanceEmotional ExperienceSchool & Work
Avoidance & SubstitutionAnxiety & Social JudgmentPublic Speaking
commentr/StutterApr 2, 2024
1 points

I hate this advice so, so much and it is wrong. Let the crutch be destroyed (which it won’t for a while), then find another one....

Anticipation & AvoidanceIdentity & Disability
Avoidance & SubstitutionAuthenticity vs. Masking
commentr/StutterApr 2, 2024
3 points

I fake pissed my pants in 4th grade and went home. Put water from the sink on my pants and told the teacher. Got out of reciting a poem. Oh, the lies we tell…...

Anticipation & AvoidanceEmotional Experience
Avoidance & SubstitutionShame & Embarrassment
commentr/StutterApr 2, 2024
2 points

practice practice practice-- a lot. this way you can know ahead what words you might stumble on and how you can rephrase them / employ a technique that might help...

Anticipation & AvoidanceCoping & Advocacy
Anticipating StutteringAvoidance & SubstitutionFluency Techniques
postr/StutterApr 2, 2024
4 points

Planning Speech

Planning Speech Hey y’all. Hope your doing well. I just wanted a few suggestions on perhaps how you guys avoid planning your speech. I’ve started to do this a lot when for ex, I need to call a store. ...

Anticipation & Avoidance
Avoidance & SubstitutionAnticipating Stuttering
commentr/StutterApr 2, 2024
4 points

The best trick is to be who you are and don't try to fake it. What are you doing is destructive and it will eventually backfire. It's a crutch made of sand that will be destroyed. Just struggle throug...

Anticipation & AvoidanceIdentity & Disability
Avoidance & SubstitutionAuthenticity vs. MaskingAcceptance & Pride
commentr/StutterApr 2, 2024
6 points

I am M23 and my stutter is relatively hard, in my opinion... In most situations I am not able to say what's on my mind, but when I am with my family or friends, it is sometimes totally alright, somet...

Anticipation & AvoidanceEmotional ExperienceIdentity & Disability
Avoidance & SubstitutionHiding & ConcealmentHelplessness & Agency+3 more
commentr/StutterApr 2, 2024
7 points

Why don't you tell him you have stuttering instead? You will end up being in a somewhat unordinary situation no matter what you choose....

Anticipation & AvoidanceSocial & Relationships
Avoidance & SubstitutionDisclosure & Telling Others
postr/StutterApr 2, 2024
3 points

Presentation at the end of the month…any tips to get ready?

Presentation at the end of the month…any tips to get ready? I have a 5 min presentation in a few weeks and ngl it’s starting to weigh on my mind. Are there any tips I can try to better perform or reli...

Anticipation & AvoidanceSchool & Work
Avoidance & SubstitutionPublic Speaking
postr/StutterApr 2, 2024
3 points

Presentation at the end of the month…any tips to get ready?

Presentation at the end of the month…any tips to get ready? I have a 5 min presentation in a few weeks and ngl it’s starting to weigh on my mind. Are there any tips I can try to better perform or reli...

Anticipation & AvoidanceSchool & Work
Avoidance & SubstitutionPublic Speaking