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commentr/StutterJan 22, 2021
4 points

I am also a 20M. I have a very similar relationship with stuttering, being that it’s not overt in my speech. I found that tricks like DAF work in the short-term, but they don’t always work in every ci...

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commentr/StutterJan 19, 2021
5 points

In the last few years I’ve come to think that these little triumphs have a dark side. When we fail to pass as fluent we overreact, so we start avoiding social interactions. At least I have, and that...

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commentr/StutterJan 19, 2021
16 points

Awesome - always makes me feel warm and fuzzy when I speak normally to strangers. A lifting of the dread....

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commentr/StutterJan 19, 2021
1 points

This hasn’t happened to me, but I’ve had similar and I’d be *very* hesitant to stay with someone who did it. I get that things happen in arguments but it’s such a low blow that I’d have trouble respec...

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commentr/StutterJan 19, 2021
2 points

Same for me. My stutter have reduced significantly since i came across this quote : if u dont care in your mind, nobody cares!!!!!...

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Hiding & ConcealmentMindset shift
commentr/StutterJan 19, 2021
1 points

This has never happened to me with someone beyond a stranger. This is unacceptable behavior from a stranger. I’ve only given people a pass if they don’t understand I have a stutter due to my technique...

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commentr/StutterJan 19, 2021
2 points

If u dont care about it in your mind, nobody cares. And yes stuttering can be stopped. By not thinking about it. But it takes big effort and time to get there :)...

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commentr/StutterJan 19, 2021
1 points

Wonderful post! I can relate to almost everything you said (except the part you mentioned that you almost forgot about your stutter) and I’m really inspired by your story. Being in the second year of ...

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commentr/StutterJan 19, 2021
2 points

Sometimes you have to be rude (or a smart ass) especially if the other person is rude. With a supervisor, I've told them I don't appreciate the comments and jokes about the way I talk. A few, fine I...

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commentr/StutterJan 19, 2021
4 points

U dont stutter by yourself because u dont care in your mind about your stutter. When talking to others u tend to care a lot :)...

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commentr/StutterJan 19, 2021
2 points

This is the most relatable thing that I’ve read on this subreddit. I’m the same way– hell, I was able to stand on a stage in front of 950 people and read 3 pages straight without stuttering, but I can...

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postr/StutterJan 19, 2021
10 points

First post and a little of positivity from me

First post and a little of positivity from me Hey guys, I'm 22M and have a slight to mild stutter which mainly consists on small blocks every sentence or two (a few longer blocks but these are rarer)....

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commentr/StutterJan 18, 2021
1 points

I really don't know how to handle these things without losing confidence or appearing rude. How do you exactly verbalise >you're pushing it respectfully< to a senior? And also how do you tell c...

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commentr/StutterJan 18, 2021
1 points

I stutter in front of clients/coworkers and 99% of them have been very nice and polite about it. Most don't even react which is honestly what i prefer. Just as long as people aren't openly rude I'm co...

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commentr/StutterJan 18, 2021
1 points

>coworkers, partners, etc should all understand Except the in the real work world, nobody will make any accomodations for me, like they do in the class. But you're right. The only way is to be str...

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commentr/StutterJan 18, 2021
2 points

Honestly people do care. Most people are just nice enough to not mention. As adults at least, most of us know how kids are. I'm sure that they do talk about it. Not obsessively, but in the same way th...

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Hiding & ConcealmentStigma & Bullying
postr/StutterJan 17, 2021
36 points

Stuttering during interviews

Stuttering during interviews I would say I have a “mild” stutter. Most of the time, I can speak fine but it does occasionally rear its ugly head. Its like my brain wont let me say the word and I stumb...

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commentr/StutterJan 16, 2021
2 points

Hey, you're not alone. I've been in this spot as well. Feeling so isolated like no one gets me. That's what happens when we let stuttering control us for a long time.. its starts to poison our perce...

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postr/StutterJan 16, 2021
137 points

Listeners don’t care

Listeners don’t care Just a friendly reminder that the strangers you speak to (and stutter to) 99.9% of the time do not care that you stutter. They aren’t thinking about it, and they definitely don’t ...

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commentr/StutterJan 16, 2021
1 points

I didn’t introduce myself to my coworkers last week just because I knew I would stutter and it’s eating me. I fucking hate myself....

Emotional ExperienceAnticipation & Avoidance
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