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postr/StutterJul 20, 2021
40 points

Huge lesson I learned a couple years ago when it comes to seeing progress in my speech.

Huge lesson I learned a couple years ago when it comes to seeing progress in my speech. First thing to know, my type of stutter was on-and-off. But if your stutter doesn't fluctuate the same, this sti...

Causes & VariabilityCoping & AdvocacyEmotional Experience
Cycles & RandomnessSeverity & FluctuationMindset shift+2 more
commentr/StutterJul 19, 2021
3 points

Just because other people's life looks "easy mode" doesn't mean they do not struggle. Your own perception about someone else's life doesn't matter, neither does Mine. One person lost his mom when he...

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Severity & FluctuationHelplessness & Agency
commentr/StutterJul 19, 2021
1 points

>Hi, thanks a lot for the detailed answer! I won't say I'm depressed but there is a lot going through my head. You know, the regular stuff - suicidal thoughts (never had the courage to act upon the...

Emotional ExperienceIdentity & DisabilityTherapy & Professional
Suicidal Ideation & High DistressAnxiety & Social JudgmentHelplessness & Agency+3 more
commentr/StutterJul 19, 2021
1 points

I've not suggested that anybody should stop. I do not know all the reasons why you succeeded (I'm not an internet psychic). Your attitude suggests that you feel like you accomplished it by trying hard...

School & WorkEmotional Experience
Employment & CareerHelplessness & Agency
commentr/StutterJul 19, 2021
2 points

You can want more than one thing from life, and what you want is likely to change as you grow. Accomodating for your disability as a variable in that regard is a mature way to manage expectations. Jus...

School & WorkEmotional ExperienceIdentity & Disability
Employment & CareerHelplessness & AgencyIdentity & Self-Perception
commentr/StutterJul 19, 2021
2 points

I worked public service for 5 years when I was younger. That is a hell that I do not wish on any stutterer. It didn't improve my stutter, it just made me feel worthless. Now, my job involves more alon...

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Employment & CareerHelplessness & Agency
commentr/StutterJul 18, 2021
4 points

Obviously, you dont know me. I stuttered my whole life. I know the stifling feeling of being someone who stutters. However, I preach not letting it be a crutch. We have every right to live our lives t...

Anticipation & AvoidanceEmotional ExperienceIdentity & Disability
Avoidance & SubstitutionHelplessness & AgencySuicidal Ideation & High Distress+1 more
commentr/StutterJul 18, 2021
2 points

I like Jordan Peterson’s message that life is suffering as the default and you have to create meaning to offset or even accept the suffering which I really like. I don’t think all people suffer equa...

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Severity & FluctuationHelplessness & Agency
commentr/StutterJul 17, 2021
3 points

Kind of agree We all deal with problems and pain is relative. Some children go through physical, mental, and sexual abuse as their pain... others don't get into their dream school, Harvard, and inste...

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commentr/StutterJul 17, 2021
6 points

Some people have lives on easy mode. I also think some people tend let some hardships drag them down more than the actual issue. No judgement, but it takes a lot of introspection to still make life wo...

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Severity & FluctuationHelplessness & Agency
commentr/StutterJul 17, 2021
3 points

I agree with him to a certain point.Everybody in life faces one or a few challenges at some point in the life.For us stutterers and other people suffering in other ways have experienced those challeng...

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Severity & FluctuationHelplessness & Agency
commentr/StutterJul 17, 2021
5 points

Not everyone in life is dealt the same hand of cards. Yes there is always someone in the world who has it worse, but in my opinion that's a bad mentality to have. You can't just push aside your probl...

Emotional ExperienceIdentity & Disability
Helplessness & AgencyAuthenticity vs. Masking
commentr/StutterJul 17, 2021
7 points

We are not all equal. Some people live life on easy mode. Your dads statement had good intentions but it sounds like he’s trying to say to just “suck it up we all have it bad” when thats not the case ...

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commentr/StutterJul 16, 2021
1 points

I'm sorry you had to go through that. Not being able to get someone help because of my stutter is really one of my biggest fears....

Emotional Experience
Helplessness & Agency
commentr/StutterJul 16, 2021
2 points

Yup, I've thought about giving up on talking far more times than my fingers can count. I too suffer from clinical depression and I'm extremely self-conscious, so whenever someone makes me self aware o...

Emotional ExperienceSpeech & Stuttering
Shame & EmbarrassmentSadness & HopelessnessHelplessness & Agency+1 more
commentr/StutterJul 15, 2021
2 points

Thanks for your insight. I do struggle with anxiety and a general lack of self worth. When I'm feeling particularly anxious or not confident in myself, the block becomes worse....

Emotional Experience
Anxiety & Social JudgmentHelplessness & Agency
postr/StutterJul 15, 2021
20 points

Is there anyone else who can't say their name?

Is there anyone else who can't say their name? I avoid having to introduce myself like the plague and I've heard the whole "did you forget your name" joke a million times.. it happened again a few day...

Anticipation & AvoidanceEmotional Experience
Feared Words & NamesAnticipating StutteringHelplessness & Agency
commentr/StutterJul 13, 2021
3 points

You have to do what works for you and one day you’ll figure it out. But for now, your stuttering isn’t going away soon. It will one day with enough work, but now you’re stuck with it. Emailing your te...

Coping & AdvocacyEmotional Experience
Fluency TechniquesHelplessness & Agency
commentr/StutterJul 13, 2021
1 points

Why indeed, the million dollar question! talking of a million dollars, of course I'd take the money now, but take me back to my younger years and knowing now how much my life would be differe...

Emotional Experience
Shame & EmbarrassmentHelplessness & Agency
commentr/StutterJul 12, 2021
1 points

That’s the thing. Even if they can’t fire me directly for the stutter they can indirectly for performance I didn’t expect the role to be so call focused, as my last one was a mix of contacting custo...

School & WorkEmotional Experience
Employment & CareerHelplessness & Agency