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commentr/StutterNov 12, 2022
2 points

Some of us have become *experts* at hiding the struggle. This is why many people do not realize the immense struggle (physical and emotional) we go through to even get our own names out. I’m even go...

Anticipation & AvoidanceEmotional ExperienceIdentity & Disability
Hiding & ConcealmentShame & EmbarrassmentAuthenticity vs. Masking
commentr/StutterNov 12, 2022
10 points

I've seen this video and its been helpful for me as well OP. I used to be crazy anxious about stammering as well. Long story short I've gone through some life changes and I am now in a career that re...

Anticipation & AvoidanceIdentity & Disability
Hiding & ConcealmentAuthenticity vs. MaskingAcceptance & Pride
commentr/StutterNov 11, 2022
0 points

My stammering is pretty much completely covert. As such, when I have confided in others, I have been met with “you don’t stammer” or something along those lines. Avoidances have been a central feature...

Anticipation & AvoidanceIdentity & Disability
Hiding & ConcealmentAuthenticity vs. Masking
commentr/StutterNov 10, 2022
1 points

Another topic unrelated to my other comment is the prevalence of secondary behaviors and tics that come with stuttering. Sometimes when im stuck on a sound my secondaries are looking up and to the rig...

Speech & StutteringAnticipation & Avoidance
Physical TensionHiding & Concealment
commentr/StutterNov 10, 2022
2 points

tbh being nervous is way better than stuttering in my opinion. it makes people think my speech is normal 🥲🥲...

Emotional ExperienceAnticipation & Avoidance
Anxiety & Social JudgmentHiding & Concealment
commentr/StutterNov 9, 2022
2 points

I had speech therapy all throughout school and it sucked with my stuttering. (Blocking) I went back in 2020 (I’m 22 now) and it was great helped a lot with confidence and that it’s not just a little k...

Therapy & ProfessionalAnticipation & AvoidanceCauses & Variability
Therapy ExperiencesHiding & ConcealmentSeverity & Fluctuation+1 more
commentr/StutterNov 9, 2022
3 points

Sounds like another anti-psychotic. Hopefully I’m mistaken. Inhibiting dopamine really sucks the joy out of life. Not sure that’s better than stuttering. Effective treatment for stuttering would be am...

Anticipation & AvoidanceEmotional Experience
Hiding & ConcealmentAnxiety & Social Judgment
commentr/StutterNov 9, 2022
1 points

Yikes...that reminds me when I thought I refused to make phone calls in front of others because I was trying to "be polite". Nope. Turns out I was scared. Ultimately, hiding it just makes it worse...

Anticipation & Avoidance
Avoidance & SubstitutionHiding & Concealment
commentr/StutterNov 9, 2022
10 points

Recently had a big meeting at work. I stuttered but I was fine and felt surprisingly relaxed. That is until we left the meeting and my coworker was all like “omg you were so nervous!” I just interna...

Anticipation & AvoidanceEmotional Experience
Avoidance & SubstitutionAnxiety & Social JudgmentHiding & Concealment
commentr/StutterNov 9, 2022
2 points

There's a covert stutterer in the my male count. I applied for a joband he called me to set up an interview and i heard easy onsets/light articulation and thought, hmm, this sounds familiar. When I as...

Anticipation & AvoidanceSocial & Relationships
Hiding & ConcealmentDisclosure & Telling Others
commentr/StutterNov 9, 2022
1 points

I use the app. You just put the color of your car and your space number. Drive throughs also suck just as bad for me....

Anticipation & Avoidance
Avoidance & SubstitutionHiding & Concealment
commentr/StutterNov 9, 2022
7 points

Yep, I feel this on a deep level lol. I work for an insulation/fiber glass company, so instead of servicing different customers everyday, we have the same consistent client base that comes in every mo...

Anticipation & AvoidanceIdentity & Disability
Avoidance & SubstitutionHiding & ConcealmentAcceptance & Pride
postr/StutterNov 9, 2022
8 points

Hey I 19M have noticed I tend to stutter a lot when talking to people who know I have a stutter but when I’m talking to people who don’t know I stutter I speak a lot better and in most cases gives the illusion of fluency. I was wondering what you guys thought of this and maybe if you have any tips?

Hey I 19M have noticed I tend to stutter a lot when talking to people who know I have a stutter but when I’m talking to people who don’t know I stutter I speak a lot better and in most cases gives the...

Causes & VariabilityAnticipation & Avoidance
Cycles & RandomnessHiding & Concealment
commentr/StutterNov 9, 2022
31 points

i've been in this place so many, many, many times. when these convos happen and i inevitably feel like a pile of dirt afterwards for being unable to properly communicate, i try to forget about it and ...

Anticipation & AvoidanceEmotional Experience
Avoidance & SubstitutionHiding & ConcealmentHelplessness & Agency
commentr/StutterNov 8, 2022
3 points

You'll never stutter when talking to a pet or a baby, and do you know why? Because they can't judge you. Stutterers have a terrible fear of being judged....

Emotional ExperienceAnticipation & Avoidance
Anxiety & Social JudgmentHiding & Concealment
postr/StutterNov 8, 2022
19 points

stuttering when alone?

stuttering when alone? Is this just me but when I'm alone talking to myself I don't stammer at all, which makes me think my stammer is mainly to do with anxiety around other people....

Anticipation & AvoidanceEmotional Experience
Hiding & ConcealmentAnxiety & Social Judgment
commentr/StutterNov 7, 2022
2 points

Not hiding it is a big step! It takes a lot of the fear out of speaking, and the fear tends to make the blocks worse. One of my things is that I'm still carrying a lot of internal shame about my disfl...

Anticipation & AvoidanceIdentity & Disability
Hiding & ConcealmentAcceptance & PrideIdentity & Self-Perception
commentr/StutterNov 6, 2022
3 points

Disclosing is the answer, but watch out how it's framed. The way I used to disclose my stutter to employors was to tack on a "but I'm working on it" on the end. This implies that after enough easy ons...

Social & RelationshipsIdentity & DisabilityAnticipation & Avoidance
Disclosure & Telling OthersAuthenticity vs. MaskingHiding & Concealment
commentr/StutterNov 6, 2022
2 points

You won't believe this right now, but disclosing IS the most effective way to BECOME a more fluent speaker. I've had a bunch of job interviews over the last year for being a lead preschool teacher (...

Social & RelationshipsEmotional ExperienceAnticipation & Avoidance
Disclosure & Telling OthersHope & MotivationHiding & Concealment+1 more
commentr/StutterNov 6, 2022
3 points

Nope that’s what help me build confidence. I use to always raise my hand when the teacher asked someone to read aloud...

Emotional ExperienceAnticipation & Avoidance
Hope & MotivationHiding & Concealment