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commentr/StutterDec 1, 2020
3 points

Thank you! And wow I'm digging the way you think as well 👌 I do believe stuttering is a defence mechanism when we are in a state of low self esteem. When we are in a higher state of self esteem, ...

Anticipation & AvoidanceIdentity & Disability
Hiding & ConcealmentAuthenticity vs. Masking
commentr/StutterDec 1, 2020
5 points

This was wonderful. I enjoyed your thought journey, particularly these points: The part about the mask actually being on the wrong side is so true. A lot of our defenses are strangely counterproducti...

Anticipation & AvoidanceIdentity & Disability
Hiding & ConcealmentOverthinking & MonitoringAuthenticity vs. Masking
commentr/StutterDec 1, 2020
29 points

This pictures serves a very deep message A message I dont think I have fully digested.  I think, me writing my thoughts will help it digest. You can follow my thought journey if you like. At first ...

Identity & DisabilityEmotional Experience
Authenticity vs. MaskingShame & EmbarrassmentFrustration & Anger+1 more
commentr/StutterNov 30, 2020
6 points

Well, I don't know how often you do , or is it visible, however i talk to myself too, sometimes it noticeable, mostly i just create a world on my mind and i drive in,...

Anticipation & AvoidanceIdentity & Disability
Experiential AssociationAuthenticity vs. Masking
commentr/StutterNov 27, 2020
3 points

Yes this is super common. Stuttering is a mindset. If you think about avoiding stuttering you're going to stutter. What you resist, persists. Thats until you start to take the fear away from that...

Anticipation & AvoidanceIdentity & DisabilityCauses & Variability
Overthinking & MonitoringAuthenticity vs. MaskingStress & Fight/Flight
commentr/StutterNov 27, 2020
0 points

Look man, the only thing you’ve given me to work off of about yourself is that, “you don’t care about your stutter” which is fruitless. Take it or leave it, I’m not trying to shove it down your throat...

Anticipation & AvoidanceIdentity & Disability
Avoidance & SubstitutionAuthenticity vs. MaskingIdentity & Self-Perception
commentr/StutterNov 27, 2020
1 points

Just to point out: I know what you're saying. - >Ok, I’ll explain. I’m not claiming to be a psychiatrist or psychologist, but this simply makes sense [...] “retrain” your brain to not react the w...

Anticipation & AvoidanceIdentity & Disability
Overthinking & MonitoringAuthenticity vs. MaskingMedicalization / Neurodiversity
commentr/StutterNov 26, 2020
6 points

I also am on dating apps and am 21 but I don't mention it in my bio. I try not to let it define me and usually it might come up a few dates in if they mention it but I don't feel a need to mention it ...

Identity & Disability
Authenticity vs. MaskingIdentity & Self-Perception
commentr/StutterNov 26, 2020
0 points

Ok, I’ll explain. I’m not claiming to be a psychiatrist or psychologist, but this simply makes sense. Let’s say when you were a kid, every time you spoke up in class other kids would laugh at you and ...

Causes & VariabilityEmotional ExperienceIdentity & Disability
Trauma & PsychologicalAnxiety & Social JudgmentAuthenticity vs. Masking
commentr/StutterNov 26, 2020
4 points

>You felt the fear and did it anyway. Thanks. Only a stutterer understands another stutterer's effort....

Community & SupportIdentity & Disability
Validation & EmpathyAuthenticity vs. Masking
commentr/StutterNov 26, 2020
1 points

To reiterate: I'm fine with my stutter. It doesn't make sense to speak of forcing yourself like that. It won't apply to everyone. It's an attitude - it's not a technique. Also, I don't think your st...

Identity & Disability
Acceptance & PrideAuthenticity vs. MaskingMedicalization / Neurodiversity
commentr/StutterNov 25, 2020
1 points

Sort of. You are assuming that I wrote out everything that is entailed in stuttering itself; there is simply too much about it to write in a brief comment like I did above. All I’m saying is that fear...

Causes & VariabilityEmotional ExperienceIdentity & Disability
Stress & Fight/FlightAnxiety & Social JudgmentAuthenticity vs. Masking
commentr/StutterNov 25, 2020
1 points

Just like nuke fudge said, is no good. BUT expressiveness is great. Learning to be expressive and dialing that anger into talking with certainty and expression is the absolute best thing you can do. ...

Emotional ExperienceIdentity & Disability
Frustration & AngerAuthenticity vs. Masking
commentr/StutterNov 25, 2020
1 points

Fear holds you back from saying what you want to say, when you want to say it, without hesitation. I don’t know if your stutter is mild or whatever it may be, but your goal shouldn’t be fluency. I’d b...

Anticipation & AvoidanceCauses & VariabilityEmotional Experience
Avoidance & SubstitutionStress & Fight/FlightAnxiety & Social Judgment+1 more
commentr/StutterNov 25, 2020
1 points

Wow interesting point! I think a lot of my anxiety and imposter syndrome has stemmed from stuttering but has definitely seeped into other aspects of my life. Currently seeing someone so I’ll definitel...

Emotional ExperienceIdentity & Disability
Anxiety & Social JudgmentAuthenticity vs. Masking
commentr/StutterNov 24, 2020
5 points

Fluent speakers stammer or even stutter on words especially when giving long explanations and even when speaking, the only difference is that you capitalize on it. A fluent speaker wouldn’t think twic...

Anticipation & AvoidanceCauses & VariabilityEmotional Experience
Avoidance & SubstitutionStress & Fight/FlightAnxiety & Social Judgment+1 more
commentr/StutterNov 24, 2020
2 points

Haha. Yes. That might be true. But I'm not socially shy/awkward. Have a large group of friends. I'm absolutely comfortable talking with them!...

Identity & Disability
Authenticity vs. Masking
commentr/StutterNov 23, 2020
1 points

If you avoid sweating, eventually everything makes you sweat. If you avoid anxiety, eventually everything makes you anxious. If you avoid stuttering, eventually everything will make you stutter. ...

Anticipation & AvoidanceIdentity & Disability
Avoidance & SubstitutionAuthenticity vs. Masking
commentr/StutterNov 22, 2020
2 points

Reminds me of this [https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Monster\_Study](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Monster_Study) I gotta say the times where I am fluent are the times where I forgot to worry about my...

Anticipation & AvoidanceIdentity & Disability
Anticipating StutteringHiding & ConcealmentAuthenticity vs. Masking
commentr/StutterNov 21, 2020
1 points

can you explain how when many people aren’t thinking about their impediment and speak spontaneously, they fail to stutter?...

Anticipation & AvoidanceIdentity & Disability
Anticipating StutteringAuthenticity vs. Masking