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postr/StutterJun 19, 2021
3 points

Any "don't"s for writing a stuttering character ?

Any "don't"s for writing a stuttering character ? Hi, I'm currently working on a character with a stutter, but I'm wondering if there are maybe cliches or misinformation that annoys or offends people...

Identity & DisabilityCommunity & Support
Authenticity vs. MaskingAcceptance & PridePersonal Stories
commentr/StutterJun 19, 2021
10 points

I see where you’re coming from, and that’s totally understandable to be annoyed at. I probably would feel the same in your position, however, I am someone who isn’t very social or outgoing. I feel shy...

Emotional ExperienceIdentity & Disability
Anxiety & Social JudgmentAuthenticity vs. Masking
commentr/StutterJun 19, 2021
6 points

Haha I can relate to this, I feel like I'd be such a social butterfly with no stutter. But I think the nervousness people feel speaking infront of groups is how we feel talking in general so I can def...

Emotional ExperienceIdentity & Disability
Anxiety & Social JudgmentAuthenticity vs. Masking
commentr/StutterJun 16, 2021
2 points

Mine definitely is. I had a severely traumatic childhood that I did my best to suppress the effects of for a long time. When I finally started to talk about it my stammer just appeared one day. The ...

Causes & VariabilityIdentity & Disability
Trauma & PsychologicalAuthenticity vs. Masking
commentr/StutterJun 15, 2021
2 points

I had a very severe stutter, now my stuttering is much more situational. In terms of technique, when I was very severe I think it does help to work on breathing from the diaphragm and speaking at th...

Speech & StutteringEmotional ExperienceCoping & Advocacy
Physical TensionShame & EmbarrassmentVoluntary Stuttering & Exposure+2 more
commentr/StutterJun 15, 2021
2 points

Yup that's it, 100%. The only additional thing I'd say is that you'd also have to practice your new good habit (exaggerated at first and gradually returning to normal) 24/7, and stop using your old ba...

Anticipation & AvoidanceIdentity & Disability
Avoidance & SubstitutionAuthenticity vs. Masking
commentr/StutterJun 15, 2021
2 points

Thank you for expounding on your theory. I find it really fascinating and it seems to make sense. Simply put, it's the basic idea of replacing old bad habits with new good habits. The difference is...

Coping & AdvocacyIdentity & Disability
Fluency TechniquesAuthenticity vs. Masking
postr/StutterJun 15, 2021
54 points

Stuttering is very beneficial when it comes to dating.

Stuttering is very beneficial when it comes to dating. Stuttering is extremely beneficial when it comes to dating. Yes you heard that right.  (If you are not interested in dating psychology, this pos...

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commentr/StutterJun 15, 2021
2 points

I've often thought about this, and speculate this method is similar to how all the famous actors we hear about being stutterer's are able to achieve a sense of fluency. The question I have is how doe...

Coping & AdvocacyIdentity & Disability
Fluency TechniquesAuthenticity vs. Masking
commentr/StutterJun 14, 2021
4 points

Yeah it works. When I worked in retail security I could easily and confidently ask customers for receipts. At home lol I could barely say the word receipt to my mom. The hard part is retaining that wh...

Identity & DisabilityAnticipation & Avoidance
Authenticity vs. MaskingHiding & Concealment
commentr/StutterJun 14, 2021
1 points

Well over time you reduce the dramatism in your voice bit by bit, until your new fluent personality voice is rid of all the dramatism and sounds like your normal voice, and the (mostly) fluency has st...

Identity & Disability
Authenticity vs. Masking
commentr/StutterJun 14, 2021
4 points

I read all your words, just you know, keep fighting, after many years, I managed to don't give a f to anyone because as long as I do my job, I'm good , stop thinking what people think, u will see them...

Identity & DisabilityEmotional Experience
Acceptance & PrideAuthenticity vs. MaskingHope & Motivation
commentr/StutterJun 13, 2021
3 points

It made me to push my self out of my comfort zone and it gave me some of the best friends. When you meet new people and show them your vulnerability (stuttering) from the first minute those who will l...

Emotional ExperienceIdentity & DisabilitySocial & Relationships
Hope & MotivationAuthenticity vs. MaskingFriendships & Belonging
commentr/StutterJun 13, 2021
2 points

It is really liberating because you stop focus on hiding your stutter and you focus on the conversation. Most of the time people are really curious about my stutter and I end up inform them. So yeah I...

Identity & DisabilitySocial & Relationships
Acceptance & PrideAuthenticity vs. MaskingDisclosure & Telling Others
commentr/StutterJun 13, 2021
6 points

Thank you very much for sharing your story, it was really helpful. I found that the 80% of my stutter is that I base my self worth on it and I feel that others judge me about the Way I talk. The other...

Emotional ExperienceAnticipation & AvoidanceIdentity & Disability
Anxiety & Social JudgmentAvoidance & SubstitutionAuthenticity vs. Masking
commentr/StutterJun 12, 2021
2 points

I work as a Batista. Some days used to be a living hell and I was really terrified when someone asked me about the price of coffee. I didn't like that. I didn't like when I woke up the first thing t...

Identity & DisabilityEmotional Experience
Acceptance & PrideAuthenticity vs. MaskingHope & Motivation
postr/StutterJun 11, 2021
54 points

Dear Mr. Fear of stuttering

Dear Mr. Fear of stuttering Dear Mr. Fear of stuttering It’s been years since I have faced you, but I thought I would make this letter out to you.  You have really done a toll on not just me, but ev...

Coping & AdvocacyIdentity & DisabilityEmotional Experience
Mindset shiftAcceptance & PrideAnxiety & Social Judgment+1 more
postr/StutterJun 8, 2021
24 points

Update on my waitress interview

Update on my waitress interview Thank you to those who boosted my confidence to just let the manager know I stutter that if he’s going to make a huge deal about it and not see that I can still be comp...

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Avoidance & SubstitutionHiding & ConcealmentMindset shift+3 more
commentr/StutterJun 8, 2021
3 points

I think pretending to be a "happy stutterer" and others should tolerate me for who I am (while I don't tolerate those people, who feel awkward and uncomfortable listening to a stutterer) is the new no...

Identity & Disability
Acceptance & PrideAuthenticity vs. MaskingStigma & Bullying
commentr/StutterJun 7, 2021
1 points

My problems? I feel so sorry for you in a way that you are so obsessed on feeling as though fluency is far more impressive and what every stutterer "must" achieve instead of accepting that not everybo...

Identity & DisabilityCoping & Advocacy
Acceptance & PrideAuthenticity vs. MaskingSelf-Advocacy & Boundaries+1 more