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commentr/StutterJul 2, 2022
3 points

I’m sorry, from one stutterer to another, I know it’s not easy…but sitting down and having a pity party is never the answer. I’m proud that you are looking for answers and trying to get better. I ca...

Anticipation & AvoidanceCauses & VariabilityCoping & Advocacy
Avoidance & SubstitutionStress & Fight/FlightMindset shift+3 more
commentr/StutterJul 2, 2022
5 points

Shake it off. You can only control your reaction not the other folks reaction. Stuttering is just how we talk, accept it and move on. Most people won't even remember the stutter after the moment, but ...

Anticipation & AvoidanceCoping & AdvocacyIdentity & Disability
Avoidance & SubstitutionMindset shiftAcceptance & Pride
commentr/StutterJul 2, 2022
2 points

Im not convinced. You assumed that people with stutters didn't want to do the "hard work", this implies laziness. You also assumed that people wanted to "keep their stutter" because they don't want to...

Anticipation & AvoidanceCoping & Advocacy
Avoidance & SubstitutionMindset shift
commentr/StutterJul 2, 2022
7 points

I know this sound cheesy but fuck what people think. Just keep talking and if they don’t want to listen, you’re not worth their time. I have spent most of my life in fear of speaking but I got happier...

Anticipation & AvoidanceCoping & AdvocacyIdentity & Disability
Avoidance & SubstitutionMindset shiftAcceptance & Pride
commentr/StutterJul 1, 2022
3 points

That’s a good question. I’m actually not sure how I developed social anxiety to be honest. I just find that when I am socially comfortable, I usually (albeit not always completely) speak fluently. O...

Emotional ExperienceCoping & Advocacy
Anxiety & Social JudgmentMindset shift
commentr/StutterJul 1, 2022
7 points

Fluency is a goal every stutterer would like to achieve, but in some cases, you first have to accept the fact that you stutter and become comfortable with your stuttering. In most cases I believe stut...

Identity & DisabilityEmotional ExperienceCoping & Advocacy
Acceptance & PrideAnxiety & Social JudgmentMindset shift
commentr/StutterJul 1, 2022
-14 points

God did not give you stutter. You gave yourself stutter because you let that happen. That's the hard truth. The good thing is that you can do something about it by hacking your brain. Read up and neur...

Emotional ExperienceAnticipation & AvoidanceCoping & Advocacy
Hope & MotivationHiding & ConcealmentMindset shift
postr/StutterJun 29, 2022
13 points

The time I "stopped" stuttering because a ball hit my jaw

The time I "stopped" stuttering because a ball hit my jaw I've had a stutter since I can remember, although my parents say I developed it when I was a 5-6 yo. It's not very extreme, but it's still bad...

Anticipation & AvoidanceCoping & AdvocacyIdentity & Disability
Avoidance & SubstitutionMindset shiftIdentity & Self-Perception
commentr/StutterJun 27, 2022
2 points

That's now how it works. Lots of people express developmental stuttering in their teens. I know some who only started stuttering at 18, 19 years old. You didn't do anything to create this and thus, th...

Speech & StutteringIdentity & DisabilityCoping & Advocacy
Onset & Life-Stage ChangesAcceptance & PrideMindset shift
commentr/StutterJun 26, 2022
3 points

Been there and actually done that. When I was a teen I was very ashamed (I still am ashamed, but much less now). I hated myself. I was mostly ashamed for what I felt was “less than” or “less intellige...

Emotional ExperienceIdentity & DisabilityCoping & Advocacy
Shame & EmbarrassmentIdentity & Self-PerceptionMindset shift
commentr/StutterJun 25, 2022
2 points

I appreciate this comment so much. I guess I never really thought about it being perception of self and being in my comfort zone. I was thinking about my comfort zone a lot, I was asking myself if tha...

Coping & AdvocacyEmotional ExperienceIdentity & Disability
Mindset shiftAnxiety & Social JudgmentIdentity & Self-Perception
commentr/StutterJun 25, 2022
2 points

I’ve had a stutter my entire life, it’s gotten worse when I feel my confidence is low. The key to social confidence with a stutter is putting yourself in situations that push you out of your comfort z...

Coping & AdvocacyEmotional ExperienceIdentity & Disability
Mindset shiftAnxiety & Social JudgmentIdentity & Self-Perception
commentr/StutterJun 25, 2022
1 points

Yes. The quote at the start about Einstein saying as humans we tend to complicate simple processes is very interesting too...

Coping & Advocacy
Mindset shift
commentr/StutterJun 24, 2022
3 points

Thank you, we care way to much about our speech but I know Its frustrating and very difficult I think to ever overcome anything Is to heal within Instead out....

Coping & AdvocacyIdentity & Disability
Mindset shiftAcceptance & Pride
commentr/StutterJun 24, 2022
7 points

Ironically everything you say are actions that you do to avoid stuttering. Stuttering is not what got you into this situation, but the fact that you are avoiding it. I know stuttering can suck. But it...

Anticipation & AvoidanceCoping & AdvocacyIdentity & Disability
Avoidance & SubstitutionMindset shiftAuthenticity vs. Masking
commentr/StutterJun 24, 2022
2 points

This is deeply familiar. For me what helped the most *by far* was talk therapy. I’ll always stutter but the thing I have control over is how I feel about it. It took a long time, but the shame is f...

Coping & AdvocacyIdentity & Disability
Mindset shiftAcceptance & Pride
commentr/StutterJun 23, 2022
55 points

Do not let your stutter dictate the direction of your life....

Coping & AdvocacyIdentity & Disability
Mindset shiftIdentity & Self-Perception
commentr/StutterJun 23, 2022
2 points

I agree with this and what OP tried to convey is true, but when you're on the other side, sometimes you need to discover those kind of enlightments on your own terms. Its a fine line and it's tough....

Community & SupportCoping & Advocacy
Validation & EmpathyMindset shift
postr/StutterJun 22, 2022
7 points

Best advice I’ve ever received

Best advice I’ve ever received So after a few months of being in this group i have learned quite a lot from you all so thank you for that. So i thought i might share a little advice myself. Stop carin...

Identity & DisabilityCoping & Advocacy
Identity & Self-PerceptionMindset shiftAuthenticity vs. Masking
commentr/StutterJun 22, 2022
1 points

we all know the struggles but it still doesnt make it any easier. my advice is to try become numb to it. ive managed to get good at letting it go the second im out the situation. so see next time it h...

Anticipation & AvoidanceCoping & Advocacy
Avoidance & SubstitutionMindset shift