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commentr/StutterMar 12, 2022
1 points

Yes, I always let them know in an email before. I think it also helps, as they know what to expect. It can catch some people off guard...

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commentr/StutterMar 12, 2022
2 points

As a 27 year old in IT I understand what I do during interviews is tell them I stutter. I found this helps me and the interviewer are pretty nice and respectful about it. They don’t really care that y...

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commentr/StutterMar 12, 2022
2 points

Congrats. I just had a interview too. One of the things I like to do during my interview is tell the person I am a person that stutters. By doing that I am putting my stutter out there and now I don’t...

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commentr/StutterMar 11, 2022
2 points

You're clearly curious about it and genuinely interested, so you could ask him if it's ok to ask him about his stutter. If he doesn't want to talk about it then don't push it, but if he's got a non-ju...

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commentr/StutterMar 11, 2022
3 points

It seems like you actually care and support this person and that's good. As long as that comes across you should be fine. And I see in a different your motivation seems to be a promotion and you wan...

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commentr/StutterMar 11, 2022
3 points

This is interesting. I don't know if this is something I would do in a team meeting. However, he suggested hanging out outside of work sometime, which I plan to take him up on. Maybe it would be a con...

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commentr/StutterMar 11, 2022
5 points

I'm actually in this situation at work only I'm the one who stutters. I tend to resort to the chat in group meetings because I get cut-off a LOT. Particularly by one or two people; anytime I pause th...

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commentr/StutterMar 11, 2022
2 points

In my experience even mentioning the stutter seemed to be taboo so on the odd occasion someone did mention it, it was refreshing to be able to be open talking about it, even if it was a bit embarrassi...

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commentr/StutterMar 11, 2022
16 points

Does this person want "help" with their stutter? I know I hated it whenever my bosses (people in a position of authority over me) gave me it's the "It's ok that you stutter, you are still valued" s...

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commentr/StutterMar 11, 2022
5 points

First off, good question. Seriously. You are right that one size does not fit all, so I will say that what you can/should say might depend on where he is on his stuttering journey. By that I mean he m...

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commentr/StutterMar 8, 2022
3 points

I usually let people find my stutter on their own, lol...

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commentr/StutterMar 7, 2022
3 points

I stutter on my name. I always have. I’ll either spell it for them or say an easier name. Also, If you get the app you can order ahead and the drinks like waiting for you on the side you don’t have to...

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commentr/StutterMar 7, 2022
2 points

That’s pretty cool honestly, reading that gives me hope. do yo usually open up about your stutter immediately or do you let them find out naturally? introductions are usually where I struggle. i tend ...

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commentr/StutterMar 6, 2022
5 points

Similarly to how sometimes people start by saying their pronouns, start by saying “I speak with a stutter and sometimes repeat, pause, etc”. It will make it easier for you....

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commentr/StutterMar 5, 2022
3 points

I hope everything goes well for you. I would suggest having a conversation with your professor before hand. If i could go back 20 years to when I was in college i would have told a lot more people b...

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commentr/StutterMar 5, 2022
4 points

If you’re up for it, I would try to tell your lecturer beforehand. In my experience whenever I’m around people who I’ve told about my stutter I feel a lot less anxious/pressured because they won’t be ...

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commentr/StutterMar 3, 2022
2 points

Thank you! I have been ashamed of my stuttering, but like you suggested I need to own it and be open about. I will try to change my mindset. It's a good first step...

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commentr/StutterMar 2, 2022
3 points

If I'm meeting a teacher/professor for the first time, I find it helpful to self-disclose and be upfront but nonchalant. Something along the lines of, "Hey, I stutter, so it takes a little longer for ...

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commentr/StutterMar 2, 2022
2 points

Sadly, they'll never truly be able to understand completely, but you can certainly talk to them and discuss it. Being open about it might actually have a positive effect and cause you to be more fluen...

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commentr/StutterMar 1, 2022
1 points

Since it is over the phone, I wouldn't mention it unless they do. You don't know if they are at a point where they are comfortable with their stutter. If in person, you can try and read body language ...

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