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commentr/StutterMar 20, 2023
2 points

I agree with you, but this fear, anticipation, and monitoring of reactions and negative preconceptions will disappear once you adhere to the correct method and mentality. And I referred to this in t...

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commentr/StutterMar 20, 2023
2 points

The use of intentional non-fluency, or as it is known as techniques that show that we are stutterers, kills within us the fear of stuttering or of people's reactions. This in itself is considered a...

Anticipation & AvoidanceCoping & AdvocacyIdentity & Disability
Avoidance & SubstitutionMindset shiftVoluntary Stuttering & Exposure+3 more
commentr/StutterMar 20, 2023
1 points

>So how can I change my mindset so I don't pay so much importance on **speaking fluently**? *Firstly*, we need to distinguish fluency: *What is speaking fluently*? In my viewpoint, if we stop inst...

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commentr/StutterMar 19, 2023
2 points

I see these types of comments often on youtube. To me, this shouts Covert Stuttering. Hiding is not a cure....

Anticipation & AvoidanceIdentity & Disability
Hiding & ConcealmentAuthenticity vs. Masking
commentr/StutterMar 19, 2023
7 points

I’m happy for people and I respect their choice. For me I don’t want that even tho it works. I’m a normal person and want to behave normal....

Identity & Disability
Authenticity vs. MaskingAcceptance & Pride
commentr/StutterMar 19, 2023
1 points

The thing I try to do isn't "wishing I didn't have a stutter" it's saying to myself that the only thing holding me back is my mind and that I can talk fine on my own. I normally think" If i didn't sut...

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commentr/StutterMar 19, 2023
10 points

You ran into an a\*\*hole. They aren't worth your consideration. Other than their tantrum, did anything else change? Did your manager replace you? No. These sorts of things are what I refer to as "...

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commentr/StutterMar 17, 2023
2 points

If you work in anything that resembles a professional group, 90% of the people recognize how brave you are for opening yourself up on a webinar. Man, seize the opportunity to be confident. This is whe...

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commentr/StutterMar 17, 2023
2 points

First off: been there and went thru that. I know some people have suggested disclosing or advertising, and I agree with them for a couple of reasons: it lets them know what's up and it gives me permi...

Anticipation & AvoidanceIdentity & Disability
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commentr/StutterMar 17, 2023
1 points

Telling a stutterer you speak a disclosure statement is like telling a person in a wheelchair to stand up and walk around. I do zoom calls, webinars, etc also, but I don’t see a world in which I cou...

Anticipation & AvoidanceIdentity & Disability
Hiding & ConcealmentAuthenticity vs. Masking
commentr/StutterMar 17, 2023
2 points

Most likely they knew you had a stutter before you joined and since they kept you on, I wouldnt worry at all. They want you for the skills you brought to the table and not because of blocks on a webe...

Identity & Disability
Authenticity vs. MaskingIdentity & Self-Perception
commentr/StutterMar 17, 2023
1 points

What solves stuttering is being able to devote yourself to hearing the world around you (excluding your speech). You need to "hear" the sounds around you more than the things you say yourself. You don...

Anticipation & AvoidanceIdentity & Disability
Overthinking & MonitoringAuthenticity vs. Masking
commentr/StutterMar 16, 2023
3 points

Oh I'm fine, I'm a ski instructor and a wildland fire fighter. I decided long ago that it wouldn't keep me from doing what I wanted....

Identity & Disability
Authenticity vs. MaskingAcceptance & Pride
commentr/StutterMar 16, 2023
1 points

fr it's like it invalidates our words but luckily no one has ever said that to me in the real world so I try to see it as a stupid phrase people online and on tv use....

Anticipation & AvoidanceIdentity & Disability
Avoidance & SubstitutionAuthenticity vs. Masking
commentr/StutterMar 16, 2023
9 points

I could never see myself giving that first answer. Their laughter feels more awkward than mutual. I'd hate to communicate to them that I see my stutter as a weakness and probably reinforce any negativ...

Identity & Disability
Authenticity vs. MaskingAcceptance & Pride
commentr/StutterMar 16, 2023
11 points

Wow! I only now discovered this song! I can't deny - it sounds great. And so late 90s! And man, we can all confirm having occasions when we were telling the truth (any fact or news), and it sounded a...

Anticipation & AvoidanceIdentity & Disability
Avoidance & SubstitutionAuthenticity vs. Masking
commentr/StutterMar 16, 2023
8 points

I would say you don't want to think of it as fixing speech. Your speech is not broken, it is just different. What you probably want to work on is your speech controlling what you do or don't do, negat...

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commentr/StutterMar 16, 2023
1 points

Regular therapist. Because there has to be something to the fact that I can speak freely when I’m calm, conficend, angry, horny, intoxicated or whatever, but not when I’m anxious. All the feelings I j...

Emotional ExperienceIdentity & Disability
Anxiety & Social JudgmentAuthenticity vs. Masking
commentr/StutterMar 15, 2023
2 points

Yes, this happens because you cannot control stuttering and you do not know when the speech will come out (you do not have speaking techniques). Also, you do not have some psychological weapon to h...

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commentr/StutterMar 15, 2023
1 points

I do it in the morning after going to the gym. Working out gives me confidence and then reading out loud helps me slow down and annunciate. That’s when I’m at my best to do my job which is sales. Lol...

Anticipation & AvoidanceCoping & AdvocacyIdentity & Disability
Avoidance & SubstitutionFluency TechniquesAuthenticity vs. Masking