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commentr/StutterMay 8, 2015
1 points

>I can't ask the candidate "do you have a stutter that you are controlling" but I have a very strong gut feeling this is the case. >I don't want him to lose this opportunity and I don't know wha...

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commentr/StutterMay 8, 2015
1 points

I always give a fake name at Starbucks. My go to is Mike since it's easy for me to say and easy to spell...

Anticipation & Avoidance
Avoidance & SubstitutionHiding & Concealment
commentr/StutterMay 8, 2015
3 points

Thank you for the encouraging post concernedHR. I have met many recruiters who shared your enthusiasm, but also others who obviously passed me over because of a stutter, discounting qualifications and...

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commentr/StutterMay 7, 2015
1 points

My advice is to tell your teachers you stutter even before classes start. I have a form letter that I send out to all my professors warning them that I stutter and also letting them know that I have...

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commentr/StutterMay 7, 2015
1 points

I hate it when food places require you to say your name, but you just got to deal with it. Sometimes if they notice my stutter, they'll look at my name on my credit card and get it that way. This is...

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commentr/StutterMay 7, 2015
3 points

Thanks for the advice, even now I still feel doubt, whether I should disclose the truth before the interview, but now you made it clear it is better to inform them before so they assess rightly...

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Disclosure & Telling OthersAnxiety & Social Judgment
commentr/StutterMay 7, 2015
2 points

I was only in there because I had an hour to kill before a meeting. I almost never go to Sbux. Normally I have no problem with ordering food/drinks, I usually "pass" as a person with "regular" speech....

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postr/StutterMay 7, 2015
22 points

I interviewed someone today who had "control" of a stutter.

I interviewed someone today who had "control" of a stutter. I am a recruiter and I make a living figuring people out quickly. I have done this for 25 years and I believe I am good at what I do. I cam...

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commentr/StutterMay 7, 2015
1 points

Hi, yes it might be a good idea to mention it in a light hearted way. I sometimes drop it in to conversation if I just had a bad stammer. Just make sure you don't mention it in a negative way, 'ok I ...

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commentr/StutterMay 7, 2015
1 points

I have a similar enough story from when I was about 14. Back then it ruined my whole day but now I look back and laugh about it. Whenever my stammer comes up in conversation I tell people about it. Ma...

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commentr/StutterMay 7, 2015
1 points

I know them feels OP. But at least you were brave enough to do something that you dread. I have stopped ordering food because It's a waste of money. I do not enjoy my food after a horrible stuttering...

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commentr/StutterMay 7, 2015
6 points

My stutter is very mild--I've been at my job for 6 months and my boss didn't notice it until last week. MANY times, when I stumble over a word, people think I'm making a joke, because it seems to come...

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Avoidance & SubstitutionIdentity & Self-PerceptionStigma & Bullying
commentr/StutterMay 7, 2015
5 points

Think about it from her perspective, she seems like someone who rarely encounters people who stutter and actively shows it, so she was probably trying to lighten the mood. Now it probably wasn't the ...

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commentr/StutterMay 7, 2015
2 points

I've been there before numerous times. Sometimes if I'm really struggling I just say a different name that's easier for me to say, but that feels like a cop out. I doubt the cashier was trying to ma...

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commentr/StutterMay 7, 2015
4 points

She was trying to make a playful joke but it made me feel unexpectedly horrible....

commentr/StutterMay 7, 2015
9 points

This doesn't seem like a negative experience to me. IMO, you handled that situation perfectly, with a joke. And she then proceeded in the same manner. Doesn't seem to me like she tried to mock you, i...

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commentr/StutterMay 7, 2015
1 points

Yeah, I've definitely struggled with my name at Starbucks. I'm always surprised that people in service industries haven't talked to enough people to realize that some people stutter on their names. ...

Anticipation & Avoidance
Avoidance & SubstitutionHiding & Concealment
postr/StutterMay 7, 2015
15 points

Embarrassed at a Starbucks.

Embarrassed at a Starbucks. I was ordering a drink at a Starbucks yesterday. The girl behind the counter asks my name and of course I stutter on my own name. "My name's Sssssss...ugh sorry lemme try t...

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commentr/StutterMay 7, 2015
1 points

That sounds like a cool major. Good luck!...

commentr/StutterMay 6, 2015
1 points

I dont see the point in sending another email. Sounds like you want them to confirm your worst fear and tell you they didnt pick you because of your stutter. Well they're not going to do that and they...

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