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commentr/StutterAug 13, 2023
1 points

I felt the same exact way when I used to badly stutter. I know how I wanted to respond but sometimes I will just stay silent. Other times I responded but I changed my words around, sometimes for the b...

Anticipation & AvoidanceIdentity & Disability
Avoidance & SubstitutionAuthenticity vs. Masking
commentr/StutterAug 13, 2023
3 points

Don’t define yourself by your stutter. Embrace your weirdness. Begin a hobby or study a topic that is considered weird by many people, e.g. building props from video games, try out LARP, … the point i...

Identity & DisabilitySocial & Relationships
Identity & Self-PerceptionAuthenticity vs. MaskingFriendships & Belonging
commentr/StutterAug 13, 2023
1 points

I met the Guy in the Organisation I was working with. He is Literally Me without sutter, we connect on a deeper level we are bros. But I do get disappointed that what I could have been if I didn’t stu...

Identity & Disability
Identity & Self-PerceptionAuthenticity vs. Masking
postr/StutterAug 13, 2023
6 points

Stuttering + Reserved Nature

Stuttering + Reserved Nature Im losing my mind recently. Before summer started, I did have a stutter and it limited me very briefly on certain things such as phone calls and interviews, but recently I...

Anticipation & AvoidanceEmotional ExperienceIdentity & Disability
Avoidance & SubstitutionHiding & ConcealmentOverthinking & Monitoring+2 more
commentr/StutterAug 12, 2023
6 points

I'm in college and I feel the same way, I don't think any advice on this reddit could help me because I think the answer has to come from ourselves, I only feel good when I can expose my thoughts and ...

Emotional ExperienceIdentity & Disability
Helplessness & AgencyAuthenticity vs. Masking
commentr/StutterAug 12, 2023
1 points

I did sell it. I told them about ALL the people who stutter on the VC AND I ADDED HUMOR BY SPELLING STUTERERER THE WAY I DID. How much more pizazz you need my guy?...

Community & SupportIdentity & Disability
Humor & Community ToneAuthenticity vs. Masking
commentr/StutterAug 12, 2023
1 points

So… Stutter proudly. Own that sh!t. It’ll take off the crushing pressure to hide and humanize you to others. You don’t have to be perfect, but as a person with a stutter talking to another person with...

Identity & Disability
Acceptance & PrideAuthenticity vs. Masking
commentr/StutterAug 12, 2023
1 points

Focus on your actions rather than speech, it sets you apart anyways and that's nothing to be ashamed of, no need to hide it...

Anticipation & AvoidanceIdentity & Disability
Hiding & ConcealmentAuthenticity vs. Masking
commentr/StutterAug 11, 2023
10 points

At the end of the day, you just have to learn to accept yourself. This is coming from someone who still suffers with the same things you do and for the longest time (and still now) is fairly pessimist...

Identity & DisabilityEmotional Experience
Acceptance & PrideHope & MotivationAuthenticity vs. Masking
commentr/StutterAug 8, 2023
1 points

I think you should just be you and stutter when you stutter. Faking a stutter just seems like extra exhaustion and you might end stuttering worse if you’re constantly fake stuttering. I’m saying this ...

Anticipation & AvoidanceIdentity & Disability
Avoidance & SubstitutionAuthenticity vs. Masking
commentr/StutterAug 7, 2023
2 points

My experience was there was a lot of dishonesty with my stutter. Instead of approaching things head on, trying to avoid or conceal my stutter. That's why I didn't like the "fake stutter" idea. But if ...

Anticipation & AvoidanceIdentity & Disability
Avoidance & SubstitutionAuthenticity vs. MaskingAcceptance & Pride
commentr/StutterAug 7, 2023
3 points

Hi, he was being mean. He is also a jerk to other coworkers but they never say anything. They just react to it and I don't like when he does that. Why is the "fake stutter" a bad idea? It's not real...

Anticipation & AvoidanceCoping & AdvocacyIdentity & Disability
Avoidance & SubstitutionVoluntary Stuttering & ExposureAuthenticity vs. Masking
commentr/StutterAug 6, 2023
9 points

Bingo. When I was 16,17 I made a similar deicison about my height and my stutter. I'm now 30, and I do not regret that decision in the slightest. What people do a lot is they anticipate the reaction ...

Coping & AdvocacyIdentity & Disability
Mindset shiftAuthenticity vs. MaskingAcceptance & Pride
commentr/StutterAug 5, 2023
10 points

Great question. And IDK if my take even applies to you. If I'm off base, pardon the following. If your stutter is directing your life, you start taking control back. One decision at a time. And it d...

Anticipation & AvoidanceCoping & AdvocacyIdentity & Disability
Avoidance & SubstitutionHiding & ConcealmentMindset shift+1 more
commentr/StutterAug 5, 2023
13 points

For me the shame of not doing something ended up being greater than the angst of facing my stutter. The shame is a burden you have to carry around if you can't shake it off. It sticks with you and we...

Emotional ExperienceIdentity & Disability
Shame & EmbarrassmentAuthenticity vs. Masking
commentr/StutterAug 4, 2023
1 points

I talk about it openly which helps a lot..especially at work. Once i didn’t try to mask it, I felt more comfortable in speaking situation and my fluency became much much better. That’s just me though...

Anticipation & AvoidanceIdentity & Disability
Avoidance & SubstitutionAuthenticity vs. MaskingAcceptance & Pride
commentr/StutterAug 3, 2023
3 points

Having a great family makes a huge difference for sure. Home is the only place I feel like I can try to speak and be myself....

Identity & Disability
Authenticity vs. Masking
commentr/StutterAug 2, 2023
1 points

Non ci avevo mai pensato a prendere tempo quando mi capita di bloccarmi, di solito tendo sempre a mascherare il tutto nei modi più imbarazzanti possibili e questo provocava solo ancora più ansia e anc...

Coping & AdvocacyEmotional ExperienceIdentity & Disability
Voluntary Stuttering & ExposureSelf-Advocacy & BoundariesShame & Embarrassment+1 more
commentr/StutterAug 1, 2023
1 points

Yes. It is because we feel ashamed of being a stutterer so he try to hide it. Even when we are brave enough to try and said the word, our mind-body instantly shut down and create the block to protect ...

Anticipation & AvoidanceEmotional ExperienceIdentity & Disability
Avoidance & SubstitutionShame & EmbarrassmentAuthenticity vs. Masking+1 more
commentr/StutterAug 1, 2023
1 points

It's definitely not easy and that's where really good therapy can help. I didn't mean to imply it was easy, it's very hard. But it's a part of you and unless you decide to sing or talk like a robot an...

Anticipation & AvoidanceCoping & AdvocacyIdentity & Disability
Avoidance & SubstitutionMindset shiftAuthenticity vs. Masking+1 more