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commentr/StutterJun 16, 2018
1 points

Thank you, nukefudge. I do know that my way of thinking and my perspective of things is not positive like at all. I think that is my biggest problem and my therapist says the same thing. She says too ...

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commentr/StutterJun 16, 2018
1 points

Thank you for the advice. I sincerely appreciate it. I have been getting frustrated with it and it's been really upsetting. I'll sometimes just stop talking because of how frustrating it gets. I have...

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commentr/StutterJun 16, 2018
3 points

>Directed towards those who have adapted the mindset of not giving a fuck and if your going to stutter, so what. It is who you are. I ask again, HOW DID YOU DO IT? My desire to express myself and ...

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commentr/StutterJun 16, 2018
4 points

It's rare but not unheard of. I know someone who started stuttering at like 18 or 22. You could ask your parents if you ever stuttered as a child, but tbh I don't know what that would tell you. I'd go...

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commentr/StutterJun 16, 2018
4 points

Hm, it seems to me you're not going about this in an entirely fruitful way. But first off, let me say that I think you're on your way there. Especially with the steps you've taken to seek out help fo...

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postr/StutterJun 16, 2018
6 points

I have dug myself into a hole due to stutter.

I have dug myself into a hole due to stutter. M22. I always avoided participating in speaking competitions and related stuff. I have literally avoided talking to girls all my life. So no hope of relat...

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commentr/StutterJun 15, 2018
2 points

>when I stutter and I can sense a reaction incoming, I IMMEDIATELY begin another sentence or ask them a question I see 2 dangers for me, here: 1. If something needs to be done with a rush of spee...

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commentr/StutterJun 15, 2018
1 points

Wow, it sounds like you are a good place of acceptance in your journey. And at such a young age. When I was your age, I was basically perfecting my stealth hiding techniques. I was a master avoider - ...

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commentr/StutterJun 15, 2018
3 points

Yeah. Usually when I first meet people, I pretty much just answer questions and add, "What about you?" or not even contribute, just ask questions. I am in speech therapy and I am trying to speak more ...

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postr/StutterJun 15, 2018
8 points

Anyone else not give listeners time to react to your stutter by keeping the conversation moving?

Anyone else not give listeners time to react to your stutter by keeping the conversation moving? I've always been annoyed when I am in a conversation with someone and I stutter and they feel the need ...

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commentr/StutterJun 15, 2018
1 points

I wish I had thought of the years ago. I have spent most of my life trying to speak in a way that is expected of me. There are times I can have a short interaction with a person and they won’t even he...

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commentr/StutterJun 15, 2018
1 points

This has been the same case for me. When I first began learning French I didn’t have trouble but the more advanced I got the more it took hold....

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commentr/StutterJun 15, 2018
1 points

Yeah same, it’s only in the past two years when I started to learn much more of that I began stuttering in French too. ...

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commentr/StutterJun 15, 2018
2 points

That’s really interesting. I found that when learning German in school (native English speaker), I would never stammer. Only now when I’m older and try to speak the language in the country do I stamme...

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commentr/StutterJun 15, 2018
1 points

And every subject of conversation seems awkward or uncomfortable when just randomly bringing it up. And then, I don't know how to keep the conversation going. And usually, the next day, I don't know h...

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commentr/StutterJun 14, 2018
1 points

I'm not sure, I started stuttering when I was 10, around the time I was starting to get good at speaking english. But I also had a concussion and started to stutter a few days after. So I am not sure....

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commentr/StutterJun 14, 2018
2 points

Same with me. Did you by any chance start stuttering when you learned English? I moved to the U.S. when I was 6 and started stuttering a year later....

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commentr/StutterJun 14, 2018
3 points

French is my first language and I always found it more difficult to speak in English. I believe that the second or even third language is harder than the first....

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commentr/StutterJun 14, 2018
1 points

I used to work a lot on my speech to make folk comfortable- including myself. But when I realised that my problem with my speech was that I had internalised all these negative things about speaking sl...

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commentr/StutterJun 14, 2018
1 points

Thank you so much for your great insights on this. I too stopped giving a fuck about what other people think about the same time that I stopped trying to hide my stuttering. It’s far easier to just st...

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