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postr/StutterNov 27, 2024
1 points

Calling out a stutter-denialist

Calling out a stutter-denialist I recently dealt with someone who denied my stutter was real. He asked me to talk until I stuttered. I did, and he accused me of faking it. I pointed to his glasses an...

Anticipation & AvoidanceIdentity & Disability
Hiding & ConcealmentIdentity & Self-PerceptionMedicalization / Neurodiversity+1 more
postr/stutteringNov 27, 2024
4 points

I feel that my life is not going in the right direction - stuttering

I feel that my life is not going in the right direction - stuttering I would like to start by saying that I have been stuttering for as long as I can remember, ever since I was a kid I have had troubl...

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commentr/StutterNov 27, 2024
1 points

Most ppl have a mild stutter so they can easily mask it or just use techniques to make it less noticeable. Like me I only have a severe stutter if I have to cold call or do a phone interview...

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postr/StutterNov 26, 2024
10 points

What are some of your problems/ externalities caused by stuttering

What are some of your problems/ externalities caused by stuttering It could also be habits Ill start.. zero communication skills, inability to make friends, low self esteem ...

Anticipation & AvoidanceEmotional Experience
Hiding & ConcealmentShame & EmbarrassmentHelplessness & Agency
commentr/StutterNov 26, 2024
6 points

You might not know it, I have a stutter but it’s not severe and I generally have it under control. Most people I meet have zero idea I have one 🤷🏼‍♀️...

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commentr/StutterNov 26, 2024
1 points

What I mean is that stutterers are definitely not 1% even if we consider the fact that majority of us try to hide it....

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commentr/StutterNov 26, 2024
2 points

You said definitely overblown then said that most of us try to hide our stutter. By that logic, that would mean that stuttering would be underblown....

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commentr/StutterNov 26, 2024
20 points

Well it is 1% of population not 1% of people you meet. Also most people hide their stutter by simply not talking, most disabilities are viewable before contact, people usually dont know you stutter un...

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Hiding & ConcealmentSeverity & FluctuationLoneliness & Isolation
commentr/StutterNov 26, 2024
11 points

Definitely overblown but with that being said most of us try to hide our stutter ,So we never know who is in fact a stutterer or not....

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commentr/StutterNov 25, 2024
1 points

Three things that really helped me, and speech class was not one of them. "RUBBER BABY BUGGY BUMPER" I discovered this from an old show called That's Incredible. They did a segment about the guy who...

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Avoidance & SubstitutionHiding & ConcealmentFluency Techniques
commentr/StutterNov 25, 2024
5 points

Thanks for that info. I just found this sub and I'm in my 50s. I never realized that there's a name for how I deal with my stutter. Being covert can be mentally exhausting sometimes, but I've been d...

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Hiding & Concealment
postr/StutterNov 25, 2024
33 points

I stuttered through the whole phone interview- do I email them?

I stuttered through the whole phone interview- do I email them? As the title says, I had a phone interview earlier for a dream job that I'm so qualified for. Issue is, I stutter much more over the ...

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Feared Words & NamesAvoidance & SubstitutionHiding & Concealment+1 more
commentr/StutterNov 25, 2024
3 points

I'll help you out of the dream: no cure will be arriving tomorrow (but I understand you probably know that). Also, I think habits and your level of fluency are highly interconnected. Bad habits, espe...

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commentr/StutterNov 25, 2024
4 points

It's a vicious cycle for all of us, where stuttering leads to isolation and isolation worsens stuttering which leads to isolation and isolation worsens stuttering. The fact you commented shows you're...

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commentr/StutterNov 25, 2024
3 points

That's more or less what I've realized too, after years of psycho- and speech therapy. Now that I'm getting bit by bit more accepting with my stuttering and better at living with stuttering, I feel to...

Anticipation & AvoidanceCoping & AdvocacyIdentity & Disability
Hiding & ConcealmentMindset shiftAuthenticity vs. Masking
commentr/StutterNov 25, 2024
4 points

It's a vicious circle for me, stuttering is the absolute reason why I am super lazy, throughout the years I have always avoided going out or doing activities like playing which normal kids do, because...

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commentr/StutterNov 25, 2024
3 points

Very aptly put. I am similar. I am tempted to start disclosing it to people, particularly at work in the hope that it desensitises things. But then fearful old habits kick in and the avoid, change ta...

Anticipation & AvoidanceIdentity & Disability
Avoidance & SubstitutionHiding & ConcealmentAuthenticity vs. Masking
commentr/StutterNov 25, 2024
15 points

The problem is, the bad habits and the bad tendencies are there because of the stutter. Those bad habits and bad tendencies are our coping mechanisms....

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commentr/StutterNov 25, 2024
2 points

IMO, and as you are saying here, a covert stutter that increases in intensity, can be significantly more debilitating than someone who allows themself to speak with repetitions. Here’s more though...

Anticipation & Avoidance
Hiding & Concealment
postr/StutterNov 25, 2024
56 points

I always thought stuttering was the only thing standing between me and the perfect life and the perfect self I used to imagine in my head.

I always thought stuttering was the only thing standing between me and the perfect life and the perfect self I used to imagine in my head. It isn't. The bad habits and destructive tendencies remain. A...

Anticipation & AvoidanceCoping & AdvocacyIdentity & Disability
Hiding & ConcealmentMindset shiftAuthenticity vs. Masking