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postr/StutterJun 14, 2020
7 points

is this how things are supposed to be?

is this how things are supposed to be? I'm not even 18 rn but I feel like I've seen enough. Every day seems endless and pointless. The embarrassment of stuttering in front of my family is eating me up...

Anticipation & AvoidanceEmotional Experience
Feared Words & NamesAvoidance & SubstitutionHiding & Concealment+3 more
commentr/StutterJun 14, 2020
3 points

I feel like I only mention it if I happen to stutter. If I don’t, then I’m basically silent about it....

Anticipation & AvoidanceIdentity & Disability
Avoidance & SubstitutionIdentity & Self-Perception
commentr/StutterJun 13, 2020
3 points

I’ve never thought about phrasing it like that. Usually when I talk about my stutter, it’s because I’m apologizing for it lol. I’m gonna just come out and say it, because not saying anything is just s...

Anticipation & AvoidanceSocial & Relationships
Avoidance & SubstitutionDisclosure & Telling Others
commentr/StutterJun 13, 2020
1 points

I discovered than when I explain to my friend how exhausting can be a day when I stutter a lot, they understand better. For them, I think they feel at the beginning like : "ok, it's like me when I a...

Community & SupportAnticipation & Avoidance
Validation & EmpathyAvoidance & SubstitutionOverthinking & Monitoring
postr/StutterJun 13, 2020
6 points

Stuttering around others?

Stuttering around others? Hi, I’ve recently noticed I subconsciously start stuttering at my work whenever I speak to a regular customer who has a mild stuttering problem. I didn’t before, but I talk t...

Anticipation & AvoidanceSpeech & Stuttering
Avoidance & SubstitutionExperiential AssociationRepetitions & Prolongations
commentr/StutterJun 13, 2020
1 points

My name is my trigger point really. Most of the time if a random person asks me my name I’ll just lie and say it’s John. An easy name for me to say. With my stutter my trigger word is ‘A’ and conveni...

Anticipation & Avoidance
Feared Words & NamesAvoidance & Substitution
commentr/StutterJun 13, 2020
2 points

Just be straight up and honest about it, there’s no point in holding it away from the person as it would make you more nervous / anxious when you meet them and have a worse affect on your stutter arou...

Social & RelationshipsAnticipation & Avoidance
Disclosure & Telling OthersAvoidance & Substitution
commentr/StutterJun 13, 2020
3 points

A girl I was seeing thought my stutter was cute. I didn’t hide it at all or feel the need to explain myself for it. I’d they can’t handle our wild ride then they don’t deserve our gift of voice....

Identity & DisabilityAnticipation & Avoidance
Acceptance & PrideAvoidance & Substitution
commentr/StutterJun 13, 2020
1 points

I don't remember, it was 20 years ago. My time ran out. We had like 6 minutes for the opening statement. I was just relieved when time was called. I still really cant do prepared material, I have j...

Anticipation & AvoidanceCauses & Variability
Avoidance & SubstitutionSeverity & Fluctuation
commentr/StutterJun 13, 2020
2 points

Debate in English class in high school. Teacher wouldn't let me out of it. I spent my entire time fighting the first sentence of my speech....

Speech & StutteringAnticipation & Avoidance
Blocks & StoppagesAvoidance & Substitution
commentr/StutterJun 13, 2020
6 points

I honestly just bring it up- when I was younger I would say things like, wanna know a fun fact about me? They would say sure i would say i have a stutter- and then that would open up the conversation ...

Social & RelationshipsAnticipation & Avoidance
Disclosure & Telling OthersAvoidance & Substitution
commentr/StutterJun 13, 2020
2 points

I would say just DO IT! Set your intentions, you will go on this date and you will have fun. Wake up in the morning, put on a nice song have a great morning, have a nice cup of coffee, open the wind...

Emotional ExperienceAnticipation & Avoidance
Anxiety & Social JudgmentAvoidance & Substitution
commentr/StutterJun 13, 2020
6 points

(21M, moderate? dating experience) I deal w mostly blocks as well and every partner I've had either didnt mind my stutter or thought that it was "cute". and since he likes you, more than likely, you'l...

Social & RelationshipsAnticipation & Avoidance
Dating & RomanceAvoidance & Substitution
commentr/StutterJun 13, 2020
2 points

Tell him before ya meet or when ya meet. Tell him you stutter and that its a part of you and that when it happens he just needs to keep eye contact and wait. That is what i told all my dates and not ...

Social & RelationshipsAnticipation & Avoidance
Disclosure & Telling OthersAvoidance & Substitution
postr/StutterJun 13, 2020
10 points

I feel bad

I feel bad My stutter got really worse, worse at the point where i can not express who i am anymore because i avoid talking and expressing my opinions because i see that people are like-Why u block, w...

Anticipation & AvoidanceEmotional Experience
Avoidance & SubstitutionHiding & ConcealmentShame & Embarrassment+1 more
commentr/StutterJun 13, 2020
2 points

If you already told him you have a stutter and he’s ok with it I wouldn’t worry. Just be yourself and stutter in front of him. Better to get it out the way and see if he was honest when it said it did...

Anticipation & AvoidanceEmotional ExperienceIdentity & Disability
Avoidance & SubstitutionAnxiety & Social JudgmentIdentity & Self-Perception
commentr/StutterJun 13, 2020
2 points

People care a lot less about your stutter than you think. That's something I've only recently realized. People care a lot more about all the baggage that comes along with it (anxiety, weirdness, etc.)...

Emotional ExperienceIdentity & DisabilityAnticipation & Avoidance
Anxiety & Social JudgmentIdentity & Self-PerceptionAvoidance & Substitution
postr/StutterJun 13, 2020
2 points

Do I have a stutter?

Do I have a stutter? Instead of repeating sounds or words, I often catch myself looping the same 3-4 word phrases and I often experience short blocks in my speech Edit: the looping of phrases is quie...

Anticipation & AvoidanceSpeech & Stuttering
Avoidance & SubstitutionBlocks & StoppagesRepetitions & Prolongations
commentr/StutterJun 13, 2020
1 points

I have a theory. With most women, especially ones we're attracted to, we tend to lower our voices and speak slowly and deliberately. It's probably subconscious. With other dudes, we talking loudly a...

Causes & VariabilityAnticipation & Avoidance
Stress & Fight/FlightAvoidance & Substitution
commentr/StutterJun 13, 2020
2 points

Ya I alias FaceTime girls first! Kinda helps with awkward silences (if there is any) and getting to know them in a smoother way through FaceTime. Then if you’re stuck in an awkward pause, you don’t ha...

Social & RelationshipsAnticipation & Avoidance
Dating & RomanceAvoidance & Substitution