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commentr/StutterJan 21, 2015
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i know this feeling, if I avoid something because of my stutter it feels really stupid for example the dentist, i have to give him a call to get a new appointment, so I havent gone for a year <.&lt...

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commentr/StutterJan 21, 2015
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Well, sure it's easy to quote mine and find things you disagree with. But even still, I think you missed the point of that statement. It's part of a rhetorical question that poses the question, "does...

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commentr/StutterJan 21, 2015
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Sorry for making sound like that. Yeah, i'm not telling you to just do it. depending on where you are in your stuttering journey, oftentimes you cant "just do it" and trying to can sometimes backfire....

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commentr/StutterJan 21, 2015
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the thing that made me start to get it was realizing that though i thought i accepted my stutter (since duh, i know i stutter), I was really just acknowledging it rather than accepting it. I was simul...

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commentr/StutterJan 21, 2015
0 points

sounds good for those people. what can i say? i just don't think we should go around telling all stutterers to "just do it". it makes it sound like they're just lazy (or worse) if they don't. some pe...

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commentr/StutterJan 21, 2015
1 points

Yeah but I think you're setting yourself up for a no win with something like that. As much as people make hiring out to be a matter of inches, there are no two people that similar. There's not going t...

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commentr/StutterJan 21, 2015
3 points

I can't agree with you more on "doesn't let me be happy". I am not really depressed or suicidal, but deep down I am not happy with myself and in some way with God (sorry for the religious reference th...

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commentr/StutterJan 21, 2015
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I hear ya. it's probably something that too hard to do right now. Vowels are super hard to let yourself stutter on, even if you want to. Im in a new therapy program now and I still cant let myself jus...

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commentr/StutterJan 21, 2015
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>i feel stuttering is the only thing that doesn't let me be happy, that doesn't let me be who i am. i don't think that's a productive way to look at things. consider your stutter part of you; what...

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commentr/StutterJan 20, 2015
3 points

My son is 8 with a stutter and I also worked as a psychotherapist with kids so I've been doing my best to help him through everything. One major thing with him is that he is sort of "afraid" of people...

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commentr/StutterJan 20, 2015
1 points

What are you even so afraid of? probably the same as most of us; stuttering. or having people hear we stutter. worried about what they'll think, especially during med school interviews, yikes! I kno...

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commentr/StutterJan 20, 2015
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Curious, do you think that you could just let yourself stutter on the E when the disfluency comes and then just continue per usual?...

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commentr/StutterJan 20, 2015
1 points

Maaaaaaaaaaaan. that is incredible!!! Congratulations! I really hope you keep it up, through fluency and disfluency. Keep us posted on how you're doing, because I totally feel like thats the secret. T...

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commentr/StutterJan 20, 2015
1 points

It's called voluntary stuttering and like many have said, it's purpose is to get the user to stuttering on feared words or sounds in an effort to overcome them. I do need to point something out thoug...

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commentr/StutterJan 20, 2015
1 points

Hey 56, definitely sounds rough. And telling yourself there are worse things out there usually doesn't make us feel better, maybe only more guilty for feeling how we feel. Well it's ok to feel these t...

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commentr/StutterJan 20, 2015
1 points

I understand your point: stuttering kind of defines us, both for good and bad things. But I really doubt that anyone enjoys the feeling of not being able to speak at the rate their brain produces word...

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commentr/StutterJan 20, 2015
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I agree with what you wrote. The thing is, I am old enough to look at it from more mature side and conclude that I have pretty good life even with my stutter. I was discussing my stutter with girlfrie...

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commentr/StutterJan 20, 2015
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This is so true. In high school, I used to spend 40% of my time talking on the phone. Looking back on that now is surreal. I can't even answer "Hello" on a phone these days, let alone hold a conversat...

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commentr/StutterJan 20, 2015
2 points

My first post on /r/Stutter. I'm 23 yo and have stuttered for as long as I remember. Despite that, I have lived a pretty normal life - I have many friends, I am socially active, I have a beautiful gi...

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commentr/StutterJan 20, 2015
2 points

Reconditioning your entire method of speech is going to take a lot more than a few months. Don't be discouraged! You're developing some good habits. And yeah the, "You know"s and "Like"s, those are ...

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