Hard to love your speach problem when it's ruining your life. I can't get my dream job or even any other decent job. My parents hate the way I speak and they always tell me that I should learn how to talk, I'm nothing but a huge disappointment for them despite the fact that I was a very good kid who didn't cause troubles and always had excellent grades. Everyone thinks I'm timid or have low self esteem simply because of the way I speak. No one wants to be my friend and I really don't blame them since no one in this world has to suffer the agony of hearing me try to speak, its a challenge for them to try to understand what I'm saying. I'm 29 and my life has been going downhill for the past 15 years. Changing your mindset is nothing but lying to yourself since it doesn't change the facts or how you feel, its just a pretend. And I do relate to you saying it's a part of you and that you don't want it to go away, the only difference is that the part of me which I love is not stuttering but me being gay. Being gay has caused me lots of trouble but I was able to overcome them, and if I had to create my self again I would keep this part because it's a big part of who I am and I don't know how to be without it. But I would definitely keep the speach problem away thing since it's  nothing but pain and trouble and it's more like a sickness for me. I completely despise it.