All I wish him is all the best, as I've already written. That's the purpose of my comment, too. Don't you find comments with words of encouragement...hypocritical? Do you really believe he will feel better after hearing what he has heard dozens if not hundreds of times for the Nth time? 'You'll get through this, you'll be fine...' - don't you get tired of it? I've 'had enough of this' many times, cut my skin, hated myself and life for many years until I realized it wouldn't make a difference. I also complained on multiple forums, to a speech therapist, to my only friend and all I heard from them was 'everything is normal, you'll get better' and other CRAP, as you said, because that's exactly what it is, crap. The ONLY way to feel better is to stop dwelling on it, which is what I emphasize time and time again and I will, because is what we come to in one way or another, and is where the actual healing begins. You may be right about me veiledly telling him to 'stop complaining', but at least for me it was honest, albeit cruel in general. To answer your question about whether I would feel better if I were told something like that, I'd like to say that I generally never complain, but if I were told something along those lines, it would be in any case better than what they mash up to you all the time, even though they essentially don't care.