The most helpful things for me so far for stuttering (and life)

The most helpful things for me so far for stuttering (and life) I wanted to make this post to share some things/ideas that have helped me tremendously in accepting/improving my stutter. 1. Always being authentic. You don't need to worry about not being fluent when talking someone. You don't have to impress anybody with your speech, it's not a performance. If somebody doesn't like you because of the way you talk, it's not at all your problem or fault at all. It's like somebody not liking you because you're short, so you think it would be a good idea to wear weird shoes and walk around on your toes just to get them to accept you. 2. Read some philosophy books (anything from Seneca, meditations - marcus aurelius). Even thought stoicism seems too mainstream, "Acceptance in things you can't control. Perseverance and action in things you can." is a good principle to live by. 3. If the stutter has some physiological cause (emotional trauma etc), try to explore it and understand it. Some personality traits that amplify the effects to stuttering are perfectionism, people pleasing, the desire for attention and being very self critical. If any of these negatively impact you, think and try to change them. 4. A balanced life: don't sleep 2 hours per day, don't get wasted every night, meditate once in a while and do shit you enjoy. If you have a goal, approach it in a relaxed way, without any external expectations. 5. Think about your stutter as a superficial expression of your thoughts. Think of it like a simple filter. This helps remove some of the anticipation of stuttering, as well as the self-judgement. 6. Contemplate your mortality. I am not religious by any means. The realization that after death you're not going to feel anything for infinity (bc you're not going to exist) puts into perspective how insignificant some things are (anxiety, pride, ego, insecurities etc). You only live one short, finite life, enjoy the fact that you are the only conscious species on the planet. 7. Fuck your comfort zone. If you have social anxiety (i have, and i feel like my problems are more tied to it than my actual speech), work on it through exposure therapy. Attend social events you fear, even if it is awkward/cringe and you don't talk to anybody. Talk to strangers on the phone, random people on the street, people with hobbies you like.