> But here is different. It's accepting the stutter in order to solve it, This is right here, is why it took me over 10 years to really figure out what acceptance meant to me. I think there are different levels of acceptance and if you ask 10 people, you will get 10 different answers. But since you asked ME, i will give you my definition: Acceptance: to willingly choose to allow the existence of stuttering without interference In my definition, there is no "I am going to stutter less in the future by working at it". And that's the rub, isnt it? We are told that we are ~~a failure~~ broken and of course we want to fix our stutter. Like I said, I worked on my acceptance for over a decade, and it's not easy. Here was my missing link: accepting fear. I was comfortable with stuttering, but I still had subconscious fear that really prevented me from reaching the definition of acceptance I outlined above. I also had traumatic events as I got older, which put life in a different perspective for me. That helped me get to the point where I am. If you are accepting of your stutter and realize that you have fear and fear how people are going to react to you, it will help you push yourself outside your comfort zone. When you do this a lot, fluency will be a byproduct, but for me it is ironic because I dont value fluency anymore. I realized I had success in my life while stuttering through every damn word. I have a graduate degree, a job I like, and a loving wife and family. I stuttered through every moment. I am still alive. Why the fuck did it matter anymore?