postr/StutterNovember 10, 2025

Seriously, how do you guys network?

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Seriously, how do you guys network? So a little backstory I’m in an online graduate program trying to get a job in entry level IT/cyber intern for about a year. I started Summer 2024 and quit my part time job at a mental health facility that July as the courseload + emotional toll + everyday life was a lot. I have a bachelors in psych as well meaning I understand a lot of my thinking almost too well sometimes. Now include the stammer and this has made me feel pretty super self-aware pretty much to a fault. This also doesn’t include that fact that I’m already incredibly burnt out from my weekly college assignments which range from mundane/tedious to difficult for nearly 18 months. This is while also being in my house constantly due to my assignments being on the computer/having to use specific programs etc. I’ve tried getting a part time job other places as well, but I am once again worried about balancing a job with school, and considering the job market it seems hard enough to get a part time job let alone IT to bolster my resume. Most days I just lay in my bed to avoid the stress, then I get stressed from feeling like I should do something yet not having the energy to do so. Being lower middle class also doesn’t help either as I will either have to eat the cost to actually travel and network at events in my city or ask one of my few family members for help for the thousandth time. I really don’t have any opportunities to network, my family consists of 3 main people and in reality only 1 can somewhat help me network, even that is a stretch. My friends have really all moved on with their lives, it’s sort of like after high school where you talk here and there but nothing big. And my school is online as mentioned before, I went to a local STEM fair to try and see about jobs but it was 95% engineering, I also was intensely nervous as it was my first ever career fair and did pretty shit everything considered. I have myself a pat on the back for going, but it still felt incredibly pointless and was another shallow social event I had to force myself into.

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Anticipation & AvoidanceEmotional Experience

Subthemes

Hiding & ConcealmentOverthinking & MonitoringAnxiety & Social JudgmentHelplessness & Agency

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intimidation_authorityrepeating_oneselfemotional_statephysical_state