commentr/StutterDecember 3, 2018

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Agreed. I think that you are right about self acceptance and its ability to enable a PWS to bounce back into a positive mindset, especially when things are going wrong. But you also said that one of things that helps you bounce back is reading in your journal about the better times, the times when you have had good speech experiences. I would say that the things that make many PWS lives a living hell is the buildup of negative speech experiences over time. Those negative experiences are what cause anxiety, depression, anticipatory avoidance etc. But if there were a way to build up a reservoir of good memories, of good times, it would in turn decrease anxiety, depression, and anticipatory avoidance, the three most crippling things about stuttering. IMHO, telling PWS to simply accept that they stutter is counter intuitive, especially when they need to be fluent so they can get that job, or pass that class, or treat that patient, or communicate properly to a loved one or a stranger. You can accept that you stutter all day, but if that guy in the interview thinks you can't perform and denies you a job, you are stuck. I hope I am making sense. Maybe self acceptance isn't the key at all. maybe the key is consistent trial and error to be able to communicate properly and the knowledge that there is no quick fix, but that it can be achieved. And if its not, then its not your fault, you just haven't tried what works. ​ ​

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Anticipation & AvoidanceEmotional ExperienceSchool & Work

Subthemes

Avoidance & SubstitutionHelplessness & AgencyEmployment & Career