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Making friends Hi I need advice. I will explain in detail so maybe the post is going to be long I'm a freshman. Since college started I didn’t try to talk to anyone or make friends because I really had an awful experience in high school trying to make friends. However a few days ago I was sitting beside two people and it turned out one of them is very social he loves to talk and knows a lot of people. He started talking to me and joking (as he does with everybody) I was trying my best to hold the conversation. At the end of the day I was leaving so I was standing in front of him waiting for my tongue to say "goodbye" while he was sitting looking downwards avoiding looking at me. After a few seconds I said goodbye and waved and he waved back. He wasn’t rude maybe what I said is not very precise but you got it. After I left I noticed that I forgot my AirPods there and as soon as I turned my head I saw him moving fast trying to catch me. The problem starts from here. I noticed he was avoiding looking at me and really ignoring what I was saying. Ofc I was stuttering and maybe some of what I said wasn’t very clear but him doing this made me really insecure and embarrassed talking to him. After a few days I met him again and we greeted each other. Then he asked something and I responded and there was a specific sentence I had to repeat 3 times to get a response from him (he didn’t listen the previous two). Last thing we were waiting for the lecture and he was sitting in a place he thought I was looking for a place to sit in so he grabbed a chair and handed it to me and the chair was broken and while I was trying to make it stand so I could sit he said "is it necessary?" I didn’t know what to say so I just smiled awkwardly. In the lecture he was looking for me to sit together and this stuff. He was avoid talking Now you got many details about the situation I want to know what should I do? When I realized all of that I decided I’ll stop pushing myself and trying to talk to him and left without saying anything. And that’s what I will do I will not try to say anything just answer anything he says. I know I’m a boring person who doesn’t talk and has no social skills and he was trying his best to be nice. I really don’t have problems with anything some people look at me weirdly when I stutter even if they comment on it it actually doesn’t bother me but these types of awkward interactions break me down mentally so much. Maybe I need to desensitise. I hope if you read all that you give me your opinion.