commentr/StutterApril 9, 2024

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Are you meeting up again? Perhaps you came across as a fantastic listener? It is natural for people to feel shy and contribute less when meeting someone. As long as you didn't silently stare at her and walk off or something then you should ask her out with her again. If you did do something odd then I would reach out and say "sorry for being a dofus, I got a bit paranoid about stuttering, hope you had a nice time with me and would like to try again" Most people want to be seen and heard. Most people will not be bothered by a stutter. When I look back at my interactions with women I feel kinda dumb. The women I went out with were nice, open and accommodating and I was often in my head beating myself up about stuttering. Wish I could go back and give myself a slap and say "dude, she is having a nice time, chill the fuck out." I figured myself out about 6 years later than I should have done and I am on the right track now.. I think. I have children so something went well :D Hope you give things another go soon and enjoy it more. Good luck mate.

Themes

Social & RelationshipsEmotional ExperienceAnticipation & Avoidance

Subthemes

Dating & RomanceAnxiety & Social JudgmentAvoidance & Substitution