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An older stutter-er 27M as someone who stutters with blocks mostly, feeling outta breath in between words. And having difficulty with vowels. How do you guys deal with the dating world? I have a very out going personality but my stutter holds it back. I have to calm myself down just to get words outs. Luckily I found a career that try’s to treat me like a man instead of a guy that needs to be in special ed classes. But I am having no luck with women. I know I’m not ugly, I used to model, and I get women’s attention but as soon as I open my mouth I see them second guessing their discussion of approaching me. Their demeanor changes and I start having the feeling they moved from flirting to just not trying to be rude. I don’t blame them, I blame myself. I have speech therapy for 12 yrs but after 12years of hearing the same techniques over and over again and no progress I decided it was enough. I’ve had two women in my love life. We met on my good stuttering days were it’s only mildly obvious, right time, a fluke. Their long gone outta my life now but we had multiple year relationships but both I could tell didn’t want a public relationship. I suspect because they were attractive but scared how their friends would react if I stuttered in front of them. I went from the love of their lives to the side dude after awhile. I sometimes let people think I’m just a foreigner as they sometimes-assume. But after a block happens they catch on quickly. I know that I shouldn’t let ignorant people get to you but it’s literally been years of the same results. U meet a girl, u have that vibe everything feels right but as soon as I open my mouth the vibe instantly changes. I have to dim my character down, can’t tell jokes when I think of the perfect thing to say. How do you develop “game” with a stutter?