commentr/StutterDecember 29, 2021

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This may not be the high road, but never forget everyone has weak points you can press on, ESPECIALLY someone who makes fun of yours. It's a way for them to deflect vulnerability from themselves. Stuttering just happens to be a visible one, so it garners more attention. It can be shitty parents, or lack thereof. They may have been bullied themselves. It could be a learning disability. Financial situation. Look at their background and their behavior on the day to day. It's easy to think the bully's life is all flowery and they're up and looking down on you. NO. They're drowning. Your head is above water. They hold on to you and drown you to get to the surface themselves. People may tell you to take the high road, but the high road won't make her (I'll bet it's a she) any less relentless, and it'll just make you repress more and more anger that will fuck you up. Fuck being someone's punching bag. People can only unleash their frustrations on me if I let them down, not picking on weaknesses. There was a guy in high school who liked to put me in tough spots and ridicule me. I had had enough. His mother had died a few years prior. I told him that as shitty as stuttering may make me feel, at the end of the day, I go home and hug my mother. We almost ended up in a fight. Do I feel proud of what I did? Hell no. It was shitty. Was it necessary? Yes. He never bullied me again. He even started acting nice a few months later. My entire class witnessed that I have no problem getting dirty too, and no one wants heat coming to them. I destroyed their incentive to bully me. Bullies pick the ones who don't fight back, because they don't want to risk physical altercation or having their own vulnerabilities exposed. Look up mutually assured destruction. Every powerful state has nuclear weapons. The possession of such a destructive force actually ends up being a deterrent to violence, because if you destroy me, I destroy you. I don't see governments taking the high road and banishing nuclear weapons.

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Anticipation & AvoidanceIdentity & DisabilityEmotional Experience

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Avoidance & SubstitutionStigma & BullyingFrustration & Anger

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