commentr/StutterJuly 8, 2018

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Hey mate, you seem like you're definitely over-thinking your situation. Try and remember that it is always *many* times worse in your head than how people perceive it. I used to have a moderate s-s-stutter growing up, now that kind of stutter is almost non-existent and I have more of the block kind as you do. In cases where I block, I form synonyms to use instead of the word I have trouble with, or I emphasise the word before the block so it gives me time to be confident about saying the word I am having trouble with. The important key here is to try and mask your social anxieties by coming off as a social individual. I am a pretty social person, and I speak with confidence a lot of the times even though I will often come across words that I have a lot of trouble saying. In fact, if i had not have told my girlfriend of 3 years I have a speech impediment she would have never known! This is the importance of synonyms, but the thing that matters the most is *confidence*. So you have trouble saying words, big deal? Nobody cares aside from the bullies in 'It' and *yourself*. It's important to understand that people have so many things going on in their lives that they're either going to forget about your speech impediment or they're not going to care much about it to begin with. They're most likely dreading the start of college, as most students do. Additionally, with a school of 28k students I highly doubt they want anything else out of you besides a name, and that's even *if* they want that. It's too impractical for them to ask for anything else. They will most likely save that for individual classes, and even then that's if lecturers are into the whole introduce yourself thing (which they aren't for the most part). Another thing I find that helps is reading out loud and enunciating words very finely so you can say every syllable properly. Especially do this for words you usually have trouble with. Anyway, the most important thing to remember my friend is that people really do not concern themselves with your speech. All that negativity is in your *head*. Look at yourself in the mirror. The person staring back is your biggest fear and your biggest critic. The person staring back is the reason you panic and get anxious when talking. Don't let that rule your social life. Speak with confidence and freely, you're entitled to that much because you have a voice. Use it. Good luck!

Themes

Anticipation & AvoidanceIdentity & DisabilityCoping & Advocacy

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Overthinking & MonitoringAvoidance & SubstitutionAuthenticity vs. MaskingIdentity & Self-PerceptionMindset shift